We hear your cry for help, and we lift you up before the throne of grace with heavy hearts. The pain of a broken relationship, especially one that ended so abruptly, can leave deep wounds in the soul. It is not uncommon for such trials to shake our faith and weigh heavily on our mental health. But we want to remind you that even in this valley, you are not alone. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18).
First, we must address the foundation of our faith. If you have not already, we urge you to place your trust fully in Jesus Christ, for there is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12). Salvation comes through confessing with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believing in your heart that God raised Him from the dead (Romans 10:9). Without this relationship with Christ, we have no true hope or peace. If you have already surrendered your life to Him, we encourage you to draw near to Him in this season, for He promises to draw near to you (James 4:8).
The breakup you endured was painful, and it is natural to grieve the loss of what you once had. However, we must also examine the relationship itself in light of Scripture. If this was a romantic relationship outside of marriage, we must gently but firmly rebuke any sexual immorality that may have taken place. The Bible is clear that sexual intimacy is reserved for the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman (Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 6:18-20). If this was the case, we encourage you to repent and seek God’s forgiveness, for He is faithful and just to cleanse us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9). Do not let guilt or shame from past sins keep you in bondage—Christ’s blood covers all who come to Him in repentance.
Depression is a heavy burden, and we do not take it lightly. The enemy would love to use this season to isolate you, to make you feel forgotten or unloved. But we declare over you that you are seen, you are known, and you are deeply loved by the Creator of the universe. The psalmist cried out, “Why are you cast down, O my soul? And why are you disquieted within me? Hope in God; for I shall yet praise Him, the help of my countenance and my God” (Psalm 42:11). Even in the darkest moments, God is our hope. We encourage you to seek godly counsel—whether through a pastor, a trusted Christian friend, or a biblical counselor—who can walk alongside you in this season. Sometimes, the Lord uses the wisdom and support of others to bring healing to our hearts.
We also urge you to guard your heart and mind. The enemy will try to whisper lies—lies that you are unlovable, that God has abandoned you, or that your future is hopeless. But we stand on the truth of God’s Word: “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope” (Jeremiah 29:11). Replace those lies with the truth of Scripture. Meditate on God’s promises, even when your emotions tell you otherwise. Fill your mind with worship music, Scripture reading, and prayer. The apostle Paul reminds us to take every thought captive to obey Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5).
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our dear brother/sister who is struggling with depression and a shaken faith. Lord, You are the God who sees, the God who heals, and the God who restores. We ask that You would draw near to them in this season of pain. Comfort them with Your presence, Lord, and remind them that You are their ever-present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1).
Father, we pray against the lies of the enemy that seek to isolate and discourage them. Break the chains of despair, Lord, and replace their sorrow with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). We ask that You would renew their mind with Your truth, reminding them of Your love, Your faithfulness, and Your good plans for their life.
Lord, if there is any unrepentant sin in their life—whether from the past relationship or elsewhere—we ask that You would bring conviction and lead them to repentance. Cleanse them, restore them, and fill them with Your Holy Spirit. Help them to walk in purity and holiness, honoring You in all they do.
We also pray for practical steps, Father. Surround them with godly community—people who will speak life, pray for them, and encourage them in their faith. If they need professional help, Lord, provide it. Give them wisdom to know how to care for their mental health in a way that honors You.
Above all, Lord, we ask that You would reignite their faith. Help them to trust You even when they cannot see the way forward. Remind them that You are working all things together for their good (Romans 8:28), even this painful season. Strengthen their spirit, renew their hope, and fill them with Your joy.
We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the One who conquered sin and death so that we might have life abundantly. Amen.
In the days ahead, we encourage you to cling to Jesus. Spend time in His Word, even if it’s just a few verses each day. Pour out your heart to Him in prayer, for He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7). And remember, healing is a journey—be patient with yourself as the Lord works in your heart. You are not defined by this season of pain, but by the One who calls you His beloved child. May the Lord bless you and keep you; may He make His face shine upon you and give you peace (Numbers 6:24-26).