We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting up this marriage and the struggles within it. Father God, we ask that You soften this husband’s heart toward his wife, that he would see her through Your eyes—as a precious gift, a helper suitable for him, a woman of worth far above rubies (Proverbs 31:10). Lord, we pray he would grow in kindness, patience, and love, reflecting the selfless love of Christ for His church (Ephesians 5:25). May he cherish her, speak life into her, and honor the ways she serves him and their home.
We also bring this dear sister’s anxiety before You, Lord. The weight of unmet expectations and emotional distance can feel crushing, but You promise to be near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). Father, quiet her mind with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:6-7). Remind her that her worth is not found in her husband’s approval but in being Your beloved child. Strengthen her to cast every care upon You, for You care for her (1 Peter 5:7).
Yet we must speak truth in love: marriage is a covenant, not a contract of convenience. If this husband is withholding love, appreciation, or emotional safety, it grieves Your heart. We rebuke any hardness of heart, any selfishness, or any failure to love as Christ loved. We declare that this marriage belongs to You, Lord, and we ask You to intervene—whether through conviction, counsel, or even confrontation if necessary. May both husband and wife humble themselves before You and one another (1 Peter 5:5).
And to this sister, we say: You are not powerless. Pray for your husband, yes, but also examine your own heart. Are you communicating your needs with grace and truth (Ephesians 4:15)? Are you modeling the love and respect you desire? Anxiety often whispers lies—*"You’re not enough," "He doesn’t care"*—but God’s Word says you are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). Stand on that truth. Seek godly community, wise counsel, and above all, draw near to Jesus, who alone can satisfy the deepest longings of your heart.
Let us pray:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this marriage to You, asking for healing, restoration, and a fresh outpouring of Your love. Soften this husband’s heart to love his wife as You command, and fill her with Your peace that overcomes anxiety. Where there is brokenness, bring redemption; where there is distance, draw them together. Teach them to rely on You, the Author of their covenant. May their home be a place of refuge, joy, and mutual honor, all for Your glory. In the mighty name of Jesus, who makes all things new, we pray. Amen.