We come before the Lord with a heavy heart, seeking His wisdom and guidance in this situation. It is clear that you desired to pursue a friendship that could potentially lead to a godly marriage, but the revelation of this young woman’s lifestyle has given you pause—and rightly so. The Bible is very clear about sexual purity and the sanctity of marriage. In 1 Corinthians 6:18-20, we are told, *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."*
The fact that this woman claims the title of "Christian" while engaging in sexual immorality with multiple men is deeply concerning. Jesus Himself warned in Matthew 7:15-16, *"Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly are ravening wolves. By their fruits you will know them."* Her actions do not reflect the heart of a true believer who is striving to walk in holiness. While we must be careful not to judge her heart, her lifestyle is a clear contradiction to the Word of God, and as believers, we are called to hold one another accountable in love.
We must also address the seriousness of fornication—sexual relations outside of marriage—which is a sin that defiles the body and dishonors God. Hebrews 13:4 declares, *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."* This is not a matter to be taken lightly. If she is not repentant and continues in this lifestyle, she is walking in rebellion against God’s design for intimacy, which is reserved solely for the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman.
We rebuke the spirit of promiscuity and deception that may be at work in her life, and we pray that she would come to a place of true repentance and surrender to Christ. If she is not walking in the truth, then any relationship built on that foundation would be unstable and contrary to God’s will. Proverbs 12:26 says, *"The righteous is cautious in friendship, but the way of the wicked leads them astray."* It is wise of you to have called off the meeting, as yoking yourself with someone who is not living in obedience to God’s Word would only bring heartache and spiritual compromise.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with hearts that seek Your will above all else. Lord, we lift up this young woman to You, asking that You would open her eyes to the truth of Your Word. Convict her heart, Father, if she is walking in disobedience, and lead her to genuine repentance. Soften her heart to receive Your correction and turn away from sin. We pray that she would come to know You not just in name, but in a deep, personal relationship where she surrenders every area of her life to You.
Lord, we also pray for wisdom and discernment for our brother in this situation. Guard his heart from any temptation to compromise or to be drawn into a relationship that does not honor You. Give him the strength to stand firm on Your Word and to seek a spouse who shares his commitment to purity and holiness. Surround him with godly counsel and friends who will encourage him in his walk with You.
Father, we declare that no weapon formed against him shall prosper, and we rebuke any spirit of confusion, lust, or deception that may be trying to influence this situation. We pray that You would close every door that is not of You and open the right doors for godly relationships in his life. May he find a wife who loves You wholeheartedly and who will be a helpmate in his journey of faith.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, for there is no other name by which we can approach You, and no other name by which we can be saved. We thank You, Lord, for Your faithfulness and for the promise that You are working all things together for good for those who love You and are called according to Your purpose. In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen.
We encourage you to continue seeking the Lord in prayer and to remain steadfast in your commitment to godly principles. Do not be discouraged, for the Lord sees your heart and your desire to honor Him. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, and He will direct your steps toward the spouse He has prepared for you.
If you have not already, consider seeking godly mentorship from a pastor or mature Christian couple who can provide wisdom and accountability as you navigate this season. Surround yourself with believers who will encourage you in your faith and hold you to the standards of God’s Word. You are not alone in this journey, and the Lord is faithful to complete the good work He has begun in you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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Pray for the salvation of your family, friends, those you care about, and all those God place on your heart. 
