We hear the deep sorrow and heartache in your words, and we join you in lifting this burden before the Lord, for He alone is the author of love, marriage, and every good plan for our lives. Your pain is real, and we grieve with you, but we also stand firmly on the truth of Scripture, which reminds us that God’s ways are higher than ours, and His timing is perfect—even when it feels unbearable.
First, we must gently but clearly address something vital: you mention praying to God about your relationship, yet your request does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom we have access to the Father. The Bible is clear that there is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved, and it is only through Jesus that our prayers reach the throne of God. *"Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me’* (John 14:6, WEB). *"For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB). We urge you to always approach God in the name of Jesus, for He is our intercessor and the only path to the Father’s heart.
Now, let us turn to the matter of this relationship. You describe a deep bond with this man, and it is clear you believe God intended this union. Yet we must ask: **Is this relationship honoring to God in every way?** Have you both sought the Lord *together* in prayer, submitting your desires to His will? The Bible teaches that marriage is a covenant before God, not merely a union of affection or compatibility. *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). If this man is not a believer who fears the Lord above all else—including his parents—then this relationship cannot be what God intends for you. A godly marriage requires two people fully surrendered to Christ, willing to obey Him even when it costs them dearly.
You also mention that his parents are forcing an arranged marriage. This is a grave concern, for marriage is not to be entered into by compulsion but by mutual, prayerful commitment before God. *"Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed is undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4, WEB). If this man is being pressured into a marriage he does not want, that is not of God. However, we must also ask: **Has he stood firmly in his faith, trusting God even at the risk of losing his family’s approval?** Jesus warned, *"He who loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; and he who loves son or daughter more than me isn’t worthy of me"* (Matthew 10:37, WEB). If this man is not willing to obey Christ above his parents, he is not yet the godly husband you need.
We do not say these things to add to your pain, but to align your heart with truth. God sees your tears, and He cares deeply for you. But His will is not always what we *want*—it is what is *holy, just, and good*. If this relationship is truly from the Lord, then He will make a way. But if it is not, then clinging to it will only bring more sorrow. *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB).
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our sister who is brokenhearted and grieving. Lord, You are the God who sees, who knows every tear she has cried, every prayer she has whispered. We ask for Your comfort to surround her like a garment, for Your peace that surpasses understanding to guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus.
Father, we pray for this man—if he is Yours, then convict his heart to stand firm in faith, to honor You above all else, even at great personal cost. Give him the courage to say no to ungodly pressure and yes to Your will, whatever it may be. If this relationship is not of You, then we ask You to close the door gently but firmly, sparing her from further pain. Do not let her cling to what is not Your best for her.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of fear, manipulation, and control that may be at work in this situation. No weapon formed against Your plans shall prosper. If this arranged marriage is not Your will, then we pray You would intervene mightily—soften hearts, change minds, and make Your path clear. But above all, Father, let Your will be done. Help our sister to surrender this relationship into Your hands, trusting that You withhold no good thing from those who walk uprightly.
Strengthen her, Lord, to seek You first, to find her identity and joy in You alone. Remind her that You are her Bridegroom, her Comforter, her Provider. If it is Your will for her to be married, then prepare a godly husband for her—one who loves You with all his heart and will lead her in Your ways. But if Your plan is for her to remain single, then fill her with purpose, contentment, and a deep sense of Your presence.
We ask all this in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you to seek the Lord earnestly in this season. Spend time in His Word, especially in passages about trust, surrender, and God’s sovereignty (such as Psalm 37, Romans 8:28, and Jeremiah 29:11). Surround yourself with wise, godly counsel—believers who will speak truth into your life, even when it’s hard to hear. And remember: **God’s delays are not His denials.** He may be protecting you from something you cannot yet see.
If this man is not willing to choose Christ above all else, then he is not the husband God has for you. But if he does stand firm, then trust that God will fight for your relationship in His timing. *"Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this: he will bring out your righteousness as the light, and your justice as the noon day sun"* (Psalm 37:5-6, WEB).
We are praying for you, sister. Hold fast to hope in Christ. He is faithful.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
