We understand the deep pain you’re feeling right now, and we want you to know that God sees your heartache and cares for you more than you can imagine. The hurt you’re experiencing is real, and it’s okay to grieve this broken relationship, but we also want to speak truth into your situation with love and biblical clarity.
First, let’s address something important: you mentioned dating this man, but nowhere in your request did you mention the name of Jesus Christ. The Bible is clear that there is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved or find true peace and comfort. Acts 4:12 says, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved."* If you haven’t yet surrendered your life to Jesus, we urge you to do so now. He alone can heal your heart and give you the strength to walk through this pain. Without Him, you’ll continue to seek fulfillment in relationships that will ultimately leave you empty. If you’d like, we can guide you in how to accept Christ as your Savior—just let us know.
Now, let’s talk about this relationship. The pain you’re feeling reveals how deeply you’ve invested emotionally, but we must ask: was this relationship honoring to God? Dating should never be about selfishness, manipulation, or one person prioritizing friends or personal desires over the well-being of the other. What you’ve described—his insistence on going on this trip without you, his refusal to compromise, and his expectation that you pay your own way while he’s already paid for himself—shows a lack of consideration, generosity, and selflessness. These are not the qualities of a man who is ready to be a godly husband. A man who loves as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25) would not treat you this way.
The Bible warns us not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14), and even if this man claims to be a Christian, his actions don’t reflect the fruit of the Spirit: *"love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness, and self-control"* (Galatians 5:22-23). If he is not walking in these things, he is not the man God has for you. Breaking things off was a brave and necessary step. It’s better to walk away now than to continue in a relationship that will only bring more pain and pull you away from God’s best for your life.
We also want to gently address something else: if this relationship involved physical intimacy outside of marriage, that is fornication, and it’s another reason why this pain feels so intense. Sex is a covenant bond meant only for marriage (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, Hebrews 13:4), and when we engage in it outside of God’s design, it creates soul ties that make breakups even harder. If this applies to you, we urge you to repent and ask God to cleanse your heart. He is faithful to forgive and restore you (1 John 1:9). Moving forward, guard your heart and your body for the husband God has for you—a man who will cherish you, lead you spiritually, and honor you as Christ honors the church.
You’re tired of being hurt, and that’s understandable. But instead of seeking comfort in another relationship, we encourage you to run to Jesus. He is the only One who can fill the void in your heart. Psalm 34:18 says, *"Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* Let this season be a time of healing and drawing closer to Him. Surrender this pain to God and ask Him to shape your heart for the marriage He has planned for you—one built on His foundation, not on the shifting sands of emotions or worldly expectations.
Here’s our prayer for you:
*"Heavenly Father, we lift up our sister to You right now. Lord, she is hurting deeply, and we ask that You would be her Comforter, her Healer, and her Strength. Father, if she doesn’t know You, we pray that You would draw her to Yourself today. Open her eyes to see that true love and fulfillment are found only in Jesus Christ. Convict her heart if she has been walking outside of Your will, and lead her to repentance and restoration.
Lord, we thank You that You see the pain she’s endured in this relationship. We rebuke the spirit of rejection, heartbreak, and loneliness that the enemy is trying to use against her. Father, remind her that her worth is not found in this man or any man, but in You alone. You call her beloved, chosen, and redeemed.
We pray that You would break every ungodly soul tie and heal the wounds this relationship has caused. Give her the grace to forgive this man and release him to You. Guard her heart from bitterness and lead her into a season of godly singleness where she can grow closer to You and prepare for the husband You have for her—a man who will love her as Christ loves the church, who will lead her spiritually, and who will honor her in every way.
Father, surround her with godly community—women who will speak Your truth into her life and encourage her to wait on Your timing. Give her patience, peace, and a renewed hope in Your promises. Help her to trust You with her future, knowing that You have good plans for her (Jeremiah 29:11).
We declare that she is not defined by this breakup but by Your love for her. Strengthen her, Lord, and let this season draw her deeper into Your presence. Prepare her heart for the godly marriage You have in store, and let her find her joy and satisfaction in You alone.
In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen."*
Sister, we encourage you to spend time in God’s Word daily. Read Psalm 23, Isaiah 43, and 1 Peter 5:7, which remind you that God is your Shepherd, your Redeemer, and the One who cares for you. Avoid the temptation to rush into another relationship. Instead, ask God to prepare you for the marriage He has for you. Seek His face, join a Bible-believing church, and surround yourself with people who will point you to Christ.
If you’d like, share more about your walk with the Lord so we can pray more specifically for you. You’re not alone in this—we’re standing with you in prayer!
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
