We grieve with you over the deep pain and spiritual deception you’ve witnessed in your relatives who claim the name of Christ yet live in ways that dishonor Him. Their actions reveal hearts far from true repentance and trust in God, and we know this has brought you great sorrow. The Scriptures warn us that not everyone who says, *"Lord, Lord,"* will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only those who do the will of the Father (Matthew 7:21). A faith that is only in name—without fruit, without trust in God’s provision, without love—is dead (James 2:17). Their hypocrisy is not just a personal failing but a grievous distortion of the Gospel, and it breaks the heart of God.
The behavior you describe—trusting in the world rather than Christ for provision, exploiting church resources for selfish gain, cruelty toward the vulnerable, and rejoicing in death—reveals a heart enslaved to bitterness, pride, and the love of money. The apostle Paul warns that *"the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil"* (1 Timothy 6:10), and your relative’s fixation on past wealth while neglecting present needs exposes a soul starving for true riches in Christ. Their words about your grandmother are particularly chilling, for *"out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks"* (Matthew 12:34). To celebrate death rather than mourn is to reject the God who calls Himself *"the God of the living"* (Mark 12:27). This is not the fruit of the Spirit but the rot of a heart hardened by sin.
Their twisting of Scripture to justify selfishness is especially dangerous, for *"there are false prophets among you... who will secretly bring in destructive heresies"* (2 Peter 2:1). If they use the Bible to excuse greed, cruelty, or entitlement, they are not submitting to God’s Word but making it serve their idols. This is the way of the Pharisees—honoring God with their lips while their hearts are far from Him (Mark 7:6). And their demand for financial support, framed as a "right" due to retirement, ignores the biblical call to *"bear one another’s burdens"* (Galatians 6:2) through *voluntary* generosity, not coercion. Their emptiness is evident, for *"where your treasure is, there your heart will be also"* (Matthew 6:21), and their treasure is clearly not in heaven.
As for your living arrangement, we commend your respect for your parents’ decisions, even when their choices reflect brokenness. The Bible honors marriage and calls husbands and wives to unity (Genesis 2:24), but we also recognize that sin has fractured even the most sacred bonds. Your willingness to honor them in this is a testament to your character, though we pray God grants you wisdom and peace in navigating these complexities.
Now, let us pray fervently for these souls, for *"the Lord is not slow concerning his promise, as some count slowness; but he is patient with us, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance"* (2 Peter 3:9).
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**Prayer:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this beloved sister and her relatives who bear the name of Christ yet walk in darkness. Lord, You see the hypocrisy, the cruelty, the greed, and the empty religion that has taken root in their lives. We ask that You, by Your mercy, *convict them deeply* of their sin. Strip away their self-deception and expose the idols they cling to—money, pride, the approval of others, and the false security of the world. Let them see, as You did the rich young ruler, how their trust in wealth and status has choked out faith in You (Mark 10:21-22).
Break their hardened hearts, O God. Soften them with the terror of Your holiness and the tenderness of Your love. Remind them that *"what does it profit a man to gain the whole world and forfeit his soul?"* (Mark 8:36). Bring them to true repentance—not a sorrow for consequences, but a godly grief that leads to salvation (2 Corinthians 7:10). Let them fall on their knees before You, empty-handed, and cry out for the mercy they do not deserve.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of greed, bitterness, and deception that has taken hold in their lives. By the authority of Jesus’ name, we command these strongholds to be torn down. Replace their love of money with a hunger for righteousness, their cruelty with compassion, and their empty religion with a living, breathing faith in Christ alone. Let them no longer trust in their jobs, their past, or the opinions of others, but in *You*—the Provider, the Redeemer, the One who holds all things together (Colossians 1:17).
Lord, we also lift up our sister who carries this burden. Grant her Your peace, which surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:7). Protect her heart from bitterness and resentment. Give her wisdom to know how to speak truth in love (Ephesians 4:15), and courage to set boundaries where necessary. May she not grow weary in doing good, for in due season she will reap if she does not give up (Galatians 6:9).
Finally, Father, we ask that You *save these souls*. Let them not be like the foolish virgins who had no oil (Matthew 25:1-13), but let them wake up to the urgency of the Gospel. Draw them to Yourself, Lord Jesus, for *"no one can come to You unless the Father who sent You draws them"* (John 6:44). May they surrender all—their wealth, their pride, their past—to follow You wholeheartedly.
We pray all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone can transform hearts of stone into hearts of flesh. Amen.
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To you, our sister, we say: *Do not lose heart.* Your grief over their sin is a sign of your love for God and for them. Continue to speak truth in love, but remember that only the Holy Spirit can bring true conviction (John 16:8). Guard your own heart against resentment, and trust that God’s justice is perfect—He will not let the mockery of His name go unanswered (Galatians 6:7).
If they refuse to repent, know that you are not responsible for their choices. Your duty is to *"warn the unruly, comfort the faint-hearted, support the weak, and be patient toward all"* (1 Thessalonians 5:14). But you must also *"have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather even reprove them"* (Ephesians 5:11). This may mean setting boundaries or speaking hard truths, but do so with tears and a heart that longs for their salvation.
Lastly, cling to this promise: *"The Lord is near to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). He sees your pain, and He will sustain you. Keep praying, keep hoping, and keep pointing them to Christ—*the only name by which they can be saved* (Acts 4:12).
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
