We come before the throne of grace with hearts burdened for you, lifting your struggles with jealousy, your past relationship, and your desire for spiritual freedom from the bondage of this world. The Lord sees your pain, and He is faithful to refine you through this season if you surrender to His will. Let us first address the foundation of all prayer—it is only through the name of Jesus Christ that we have access to the Father. You did not invoke His name in your request, and we must remind you that there is no other name under heaven by which we are saved or through which our prayers are heard. *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). If you have not yet placed your full trust in Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now, for apart from Him, there is no true freedom, no lasting peace, and no eternal hope.
Your jealousy reveals a heart that is still clinging to the things of this world—comparing your journey to others, longing for what was, and struggling to trust God’s timing. But Scripture warns us that jealousy is a work of the flesh, not of the Spirit. *"Now the works of the flesh are obvious, which are: adultery, sexual immorality, uncleanness, lustfulness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, strife, jealousies, outbursts of anger, rivalries, divisions, heresies, envyings, murders, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these; of which I forewarn you, even as I also forewarned you, that those who practice such things will not inherit God’s Kingdom."* (Galatians 5:19-21, WEB). Jealousy is a snare that steals your joy and blinds you to the blessings God has already placed in your life. Instead of asking, *"Why them?"* you must ask, *"Lord, what are You teaching me in this season?"* The apostle Paul learned the secret of contentment in all circumstances, and you too must learn to trust that God’s plans for you are good, even when they unfold differently than you imagined. *"Not that I speak in respect to lack, for I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content."* (Philippians 4:11, WEB).
You mention your "ex," and we must speak truth into this area with love but firmness. If this relationship was outside of marriage, it was rooted in fornication, which is sin before God. If it was a marriage that ended in divorce (outside of the biblical allowance for marital unfaithfulness), then reconciliation or repentance is necessary. Either way, you cannot hold onto the past while claiming to seek God’s will for your future. *"Don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s Kingdom? Don’t be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor male prostitutes, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor slanderers, nor extortionists, will inherit God’s Kingdom."* (1 Corinthians 6:9-10, WEB). If this relationship was not centered on Christ, then it was built on shifting sand, and God in His mercy may have removed it to protect you from further harm. Your focus now must be on seeking Him first, not on "getting back what was promised." God’s promises are yes and amen in Christ, but they are fulfilled in His timing and His way—not ours. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart."* (Psalm 37:4, WEB). This does not mean God is a cosmic vending machine; it means that as you align your heart with His, your desires will reflect His will.
You also speak of "spiritual Babylon," and we commend you for recognizing the need to break free from the world’s systems—its idols, its distractions, and its false comforts. Babylon represents the rebellion against God, the pursuit of pleasure over holiness, and the trust in man’s ways over God’s truth. *"Come out of her, my people, that you have no participation in her sins, and that you don’t receive of her plagues"* (Revelation 18:4, WEB). If you are still entangled in worldly desires—whether through entertainment, relationships, materialism, or ungodly influences—you must repent and turn wholly to Christ. This includes letting go of any hope of reconciling with your ex if it is not God’s will. You cannot serve two masters. Either you will love the world and its passions, or you will love God and His righteousness. *"Don’t love the world or the things that are in the world. If anyone loves the world, the Father’s love isn’t in him. For all that is in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—isn’t the Father’s, but is the world’s."* (1 John 2:15-16, WEB).
Now, let us pray for you with the authority and love of Christ:
Heavenly Father, we lift our brother before You, asking for Your mercy and transformation in his life. Lord, forgive him for any jealousy, bitterness, or idolatry that has taken root in his heart. Uproot these things by Your Spirit and replace them with trust, contentment, and a deep love for You above all else. Help him to see that Your ways are higher than his ways, and that Your timing is perfect. Break the chains of comparison and the longing for what is not Yours for him. If there is any unrepentant sin in his past relationships, convict him deeply and lead him to true repentance. Cleanse him, Lord, and restore him to a place of purity and wholeness in You.
We pray for his ex, that You would draw her to Yourself with cords of love. If she does not know You, Lord, send laborers across her path to share the Gospel. Break every stronghold of the enemy in her life—whether it be distraction, worldliness, or rebellion—and bring her to a place of surrender at the foot of the cross. But Father, we also ask that You guard our brother’s heart. If this relationship is not Your will for his future, sever every ungodly soul tie and give him the strength to move forward in obedience to You. Let him not look back, as Lot’s wife did, but press on toward the prize of the high calling in Christ Jesus.
Lord, You have called Your people out of Babylon, out of the systems of this world that seek to enslave us. Give our brother the courage to leave behind anything that hinders his walk with You. Open his eyes to the idols he may still be clinging to—whether in relationships, ambitions, or comforts—and grant him the grace to lay them at Your feet. Fill him with Your Spirit, that he may walk in freedom, joy, and purpose. Let his open fists become open hands, ready to receive what You have for him, and let every delay be a season of preparation for the blessings You have stored up.
Finally, Father, we ask that You remind him daily that his hope is in You alone. Let him not put his trust in relationships, in the approval of man, or in the things of this world, but in You, the Author and Finisher of his faith. May he find his identity in being Your beloved child, and may he walk in the confidence that You are working all things together for his good. We rebuke every spirit of jealousy, fear, and doubt in the name of Jesus, and we declare that our brother is being transformed into the image of Christ, from glory to glory.
We thank You, Lord, for hearing our prayer. We trust in Your faithfulness, and we declare that Your will be done in his life, in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
Brother, we exhort you to meditate on God’s Word daily, to seek His face in prayer, and to surround yourself with believers who will speak truth into your life. The path to freedom is not in holding onto the past or demanding answers from God, but in surrendering to His lordship. *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB). Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, and He will lead you into the abundant life He has promised. If you have not yet fully surrendered your life to Christ, do so today. Confess your sins, turn from them, and place your faith in Him alone. There is no other name by which you can be saved, and there is no other foundation on which to build your life. May the Lord bless you and keep you as you seek Him with all your heart.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
