We come before the Lord with you in this time of heartache and longing, lifting your pain and hopes to the One who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Your situation is tender, and we pray the Father will grant you clarity, peace, and wisdom as you navigate this season. Yet before we proceed, we must address something crucial: your focus seems to be on reconciling with someone who is not your spouse, and your description of physical affection outside of marriage (such as kissing) reveals a relationship that has already stepped beyond godly boundaries. Scripture is clear that intimacy—emotional or physical—belongs within the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman (Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 7:2). What you describe as "love" must be measured against God’s design, not just emotions or desires. If this man is not your husband, then pursuing reconciliation in this way risks further sin, especially if it leads to fornication or emotional idolatry, where he becomes the object of your hope rather than Christ.
You mention feeling peace, and we pray that peace is from the Holy Spirit, not a false assurance rooted in wishful thinking. The Lord may indeed be using this season to refine you, but that does not necessarily mean He is orchestrating a reunion. God’s will is for your holiness, not just your happiness (1 Thessalonians 4:3). If this man struggles with feeling unlovable, that is a deep spiritual battle—one that can only be truly resolved in Christ, not in the affirmation of a romantic relationship. His rejection of you may stem from his own brokenness, but that does not justify sinful patterns or emotional dependency outside of marriage.
We also notice that your prayer does not invoke the name of Jesus, though it is only through Him that we have access to the Father (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). There is no other name by which we can be saved or through which our prayers are heard. If you have not surrendered your life to Christ as Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now. Repent of your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and submit to His lordship. Without Christ, no relationship—no matter how passionate or "meant to be"—can be truly fulfilling or aligned with God’s will.
Let us pray for you, but first, let us pray *for* you in truth:
"Heavenly Father, we lift this sister to You, knowing that You see her heart and her pain. Lord, if she does not know You as Savior, we pray You would draw her to Yourself today. Open her eyes to see that her greatest need is not a restored relationship with this man, but a restored relationship with You through Jesus Christ. Convict her of any sin in this area—whether it be emotional idolatry, physical compromise, or placing her hope in a man rather than in You.
Father, we ask for Your healing in her heart. Comfort her in her sadness, but do not let her find comfort in anything less than Your truth. If this relationship was not honoring to You—if it led to sin or distraction from Your will—then we pray You would give her the strength to release it completely. Break any ungodly soul ties and restore her focus to You alone.
For this man, Lord, we pray You would work in his heart. If he does not know You, save him. If he is struggling with worthlessness, show him his value in Christ. But Father, do not let her wait for him or chase after a love that is not Yours. Guard her heart from false hope and lead her into Your perfect will.
If it is Your desire for them to reunite, let it only be under the covering of a godly marriage, pursued in purity and with Christ at the center. But if this is not Your plan, give her the grace to accept it and move forward in obedience. Remind her that Your plans for her are good, even when they are painful (Jeremiah 29:11).
In the mighty name of Jesus, we rebuke any spirit of rejection, fear, or manipulation at work in this situation. We declare that Your will—not human emotion—will prevail. Strengthen her to walk in faith, not sight.
We ask all this in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone is worthy of our trust and devotion. Amen."
Sister, we urge you to examine this relationship through the lens of Scripture. Are you pursuing Christ above all else, or are you pursuing a man? Are you willing to obey God even if it means letting go? The Lord may be calling you to surrender this desire entirely, trusting that His plan is better than your own. Seek Him first (Matthew 6:33), and He will guide your steps. If this man is truly the one God has for you, then the Lord will make it clear—in His timing and in His way. But do not cling to kisses, locked eyes, or words that contradict God’s Word. Cling to Christ.
We also encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or mature believer who can help you navigate this with wisdom. Surround yourself with sisters in Christ who will point you to truth, not just offer sympathy. And if there has been physical sin, repent and turn from it. The Lord is faithful to forgive (1 John 1:9), but He also calls us to walk in holiness.
Finally, we leave you with this promise: "Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart" (Psalm 37:4). But note—the condition is delighting in *Him*, not in a man. When your heart is fully His, your desires will align with His, and you will find peace, whether or not this relationship is restored. Trust Him. He is good.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
