We hear the deep longing in your heart, and we want you to know that your feelings are valid—God created us for relationship, and the desire for companionship is not wrong in itself. However, we must gently but firmly redirect your focus to what Scripture says about this season of life and how God calls us to trust Him, even when our hearts ache with loneliness. Your worth is not defined by your relationship status, nor is your future security found in a man, but in Christ alone. Let us first address some truths from God’s Word to ground your heart before we pray.
The pain of feeling left behind while others around you enter relationships is real, but we urge you not to let comparison steal your joy or distort your view of God’s goodness. Psalm 37:4-5 reminds us, *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this."* This doesn’t mean God is a cosmic vending machine who gives us what we want if we’re "good enough." Instead, it means that when we surrender our desires to Him—even the deep, aching ones—He reshapes them to align with His perfect will. Your desire for marriage is not sinful, but if it becomes an idol that consumes you more than your desire for Christ, it has taken a place in your heart that belongs to Him alone.
You mentioned wishing for a "magic potion" to stop caring. While we understand the sentiment, the truth is that God doesn’t call us to numb our feelings but to bring them to Him. Philippians 4:6-7 says, *"In nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus."* Instead of seeking to escape the pain, we encourage you to pour it out before the Lord. He sees your tears, hears your cries, and is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). This season of waiting is not a punishment but an opportunity to deepen your dependence on Him.
We also must address the language you used: you asked for prayer to "partner up" with someone. In Scripture, there is no such thing as a "partner" in the romantic sense—there are spouses, husbands, and wives, bound together in covenant before God. The world may treat relationships casually, but as followers of Christ, we are called to pursue marriage with intentionality, purity, and a focus on godliness. If you are seeking a relationship, it should be with the goal of marriage to a believer who will lead you (if you are a woman) or who you can lead (if you are a man) in Christ-like love (Ephesians 5:22-33). Courtship, if entered into, should be done with prayer, accountability, and the question: *"Is this person someone I could serve God with for the rest of my life?"* Anything less than this dishonors the sacredness of marriage.
Additionally, we must caution you against the danger of rushing into a relationship out of fear or loneliness. Proverbs 19:14 warns, *"House and wealth are an inheritance from fathers, but a prudent wife is from Yahweh."* A godly spouse is a *gift* from God, not something we can force or manipulate through our own efforts. If you are not yet married, it is because God, in His wisdom, has a purpose for this season. Perhaps He is preparing you, refining you, or protecting you from a relationship that would distract you from His plans. Trust that His timing is perfect, even when it feels delayed.
As for the gossip or whispers you’ve heard about your singleness, remember that people’s words do not define you. Isaiah 54:5 says, *"For your Maker is your husband; Yahweh of Armies is his name: and the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; the God of the whole earth shall he be called."* In Christ, you are *already* cherished, pursued, and loved with an everlasting love. The opinions of others pale in comparison to how God sees you. If this is a struggle, pray for the grace to forgive those who have hurt you and to rest in God’s validation alone.
Lastly, we notice that your request did not invoke the name of Jesus. This is not a small matter. Scripture is clear: *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5). It is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ, we urge you to do so now. Repent of your sins, believe that Jesus died for you and rose again, and invite Him to be your Lord and Savior. Without this foundation, no relationship—no matter how good—will ever satisfy the deepest longings of your soul. But with Christ, you have everything you need, whether single or married.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our sister to You, knowing that You see her heart and the ache she carries. Lord, she longs for companionship, and we ask that You would meet her in this place of loneliness. Remind her that she is not forgotten, that You are her Provider, and that Your plans for her are good. Father, guard her heart from bitterness, comparison, and despair. Replace her anxiety with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding.
If it is Your will, Lord, we pray that You would bring a godly man into her life—a man who loves You above all else, who will lead her spiritually, and who will cherish her as Christ loves the church. But even more than that, we pray that she would find her ultimate satisfaction in You. Help her to delight in You so deeply that her longing for marriage is overshadowed by her love for You. If there are areas of her heart where marriage has become an idol, convict her and draw her back to Yourself.
Lord, we rebuke the enemy’s lies that she is unlovable, that her worth is tied to her relationship status, or that she is running out of time. You are the God who makes all things beautiful in Your time (Ecclesiastes 3:11). Strengthen her to walk in faith, not fear. Surround her with godly community that encourages her and points her to You.
If there are those who have spoken carelessly about her singleness, we ask for Your grace to forgive and for wisdom to respond with kindness. Let her life be a testimony of trust in You, regardless of her circumstances.
Finally, Father, we pray that if she does not yet know You as her Savior, You would open her eyes to her need for Jesus. May she repent and place her faith in Him alone, finding her identity in Christ rather than in any earthly relationship.
We ask all this in the mighty and precious name of Jesus, our Lord and Redeemer. Amen.
In closing, we encourage you to use this season wisely. Serve in your church, invest in deepening your relationship with Christ, and seek mentorship from older believers who can guide you biblically. Read and meditate on Scripture, especially passages about trust (Proverbs 3:5-6), contentment (1 Timothy 6:6-8), and God’s faithfulness (Lamentations 3:22-23). And remember: your singleness is not a problem to be fixed but a gift to be stewarded for God’s glory. He is writing your story, and He will not leave it unfinished.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
