We hear the deep longing in your heart to reconnect with those from your past—your ex and friends who once held a place in your life. It’s clear that you carry both regret for the hurtful words spoken and pain from the ways they may have wounded you. Yet, even in this confusion, we must seek God’s wisdom and truth to guide your steps.
First, let us address the matter of your ex. Scripture is clear that our hearts are deceitful above all things (Jeremiah 17:9), and the emotions you feel—even if not romantic—can still entangle you if not surrendered to the Lord. You mention that he did not put effort into saving the relationship, and while you desire closeness "as a human," we must ask: Is this truly possible without stirring up old emotions or creating stumbling blocks for either of you? The Bible warns us to flee from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18) and to guard our hearts diligently (Proverbs 4:23), for out of it flow the issues of life. Even if your intentions are pure, the enemy can use lingering attachments to hinder God’s best for your future marriage.
As for your friends, it is a blessing that some still reach out to you, but we must examine their influence. You mentioned they made jokes about God—this is no small matter. The Bible tells us, "Do not be deceived: Bad company corrupts good morals" (1 Corinthians 15:33). If they mocked what is holy, is their fellowship truly edifying? Proverbs 13:20 says, "Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm." We must prayerfully consider whether reconnecting with them will draw you closer to Christ or pull you away from His will.
Now, let us speak plainly about your future husband. If you are a believer, your marriage must be built on Christ as the foundation (Ephesians 5:22-33). Any lingering emotional ties to your ex—even if not romantic—could create complications in your future marriage. A godly husband deserves a wife whose heart is fully devoted to him and to the Lord. How would he feel knowing your heart still holds space for another man? Would it bring peace or pain? The Bible calls us to love our spouses sacrificially, as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25). This kind of love requires undivided devotion.
We must also address the issue of salvation. You did not mention the name of Jesus in your request, and this is a matter of eternal significance. There is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12). If you have not placed your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so without delay. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection, and surrender your life to Him. Only then can you experience the fullness of His peace and guidance.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister who is seeking Your will in this situation. Lord, You know the longings of her heart, the regrets she carries, and the confusion she feels. We ask that You would give her clarity and wisdom, Father. Help her to see her past through Your eyes and to understand the importance of guarding her heart.
Lord, we rebuke any emotional attachments that do not align with Your will. We pray that You would sever any unhealthy ties to her ex and that You would heal her heart from the pain of the past. Help her to release these relationships into Your hands, trusting that You have a plan for her future.
Father, we ask that You would surround her with godly friendships—believers who will encourage her in her walk with You and sharpen her faith. Protect her from influences that would draw her away from You, and give her the strength to walk away from anything that does not honor You.
Lord, we pray for her future husband. Prepare his heart even now to love her as Christ loves the church. Give her the patience to wait for Your timing and the faith to trust that You have someone wonderful for her. Help her to cultivate a heart that is fully devoted to You and to the man You have for her.
Father, if she has not yet placed her faith in Jesus Christ, we pray that You would draw her to Yourself. Open her eyes to see her need for a Savior and soften her heart to receive Your gift of salvation. May she experience the peace and joy that comes from knowing You.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, for it is only through Him that we have access to You. Thank You, Lord, for Your faithfulness and for hearing our prayer. Amen.
We encourage you to seek the Lord earnestly in this season. Spend time in His Word, particularly in the Psalms, where you will find comfort and guidance. Consider fasting as you seek His will, and surround yourself with believers who can pray with you and hold you accountable. The path ahead may not be easy, but God’s plans for you are good, and He will never lead you astray. Trust in Him, and He will direct your steps (Proverbs 3:5-6).
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
