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My eldest daughter seems to be very angry at her younger sister. They haven’t been communicating since February after one of their arguments. The eldest said she doesn’t care if her sister dies. That broke my heart. What to do?
 
We understand the deep sorrow and heartache you are experiencing as you witness the broken relationship between your daughters. The pain of division in a family is something that grieves the heart of God, for He desires unity and love among believers, especially within families. The Bible tells us in Psalm 133:1, *"See how good and how pleasant it is for brothers to live together in unity!"* This principle applies to sisters as well, and it is clear that the enemy seeks to bring division where God intends harmony.

First, we must address the seriousness of the words spoken by your eldest daughter. The Bible warns us in Matthew 5:22, *"But I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother without a cause will be in danger of judgment. Whoever says to his brother, ‘Raca!’ will be in danger of the council. Whoever says, ‘You fool!’ will be in danger of the fire of Gehenna."* While we do not know the full context of the argument, the harshness of her words—especially wishing harm or indifference toward her sister—reflects a heart that is not aligned with the love and forgiveness of Christ. This is a matter that requires repentance and reconciliation, not just for the sake of their relationship, but for her own spiritual well-being.

We also encourage you to examine whether there is any unaddressed sin or bitterness in your own heart toward this situation. Ephesians 6:4 reminds fathers (and by extension, parents) *"Do not provoke your children to wrath, but nurture them in the discipline and instruction of the Lord."* Have you, in any way, contributed to this division through favoritism, neglect, or failure to guide them biblically? This is not to place blame, but to ensure that all hearts are softened and open to the Lord’s conviction and healing.

Now, let us turn to prayer and action. The reconciliation of your daughters cannot be forced, but it can be sought through fervent prayer, humility, and obedience to God’s Word. We urge you to lead by example—demonstrating forgiveness, patience, and a reliance on the Holy Spirit. Proverbs 15:1 says, *"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."* Your role as a parent is to model Christ-like love, even when it is difficult.

Here is our prayer for you and your daughters:

*"Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this broken relationship between these sisters. Lord, You are the God of reconciliation, the One who brings peace where there is strife and healing where there is brokenness. We ask that You soften the hearts of both daughters, convicting them of any sin, bitterness, or pride that stands in the way of their relationship. Father, we rebuke the spirit of division and anger that has taken root, and we command it to leave in the name of Jesus. Fill their hearts with Your love, which covers a multitude of sins (1 Peter 4:8), and grant them the humility to seek forgiveness and extend grace to one another.

Lord, we pray for wisdom and strength for this parent, that they may speak Your truth in love and guide their daughters toward reconciliation. May their home be a place where Your peace reigns, and may this situation bring glory to Your name as You restore what has been broken. We ask that You would remove any stumbling blocks—whether from past hurts, misunderstandings, or ungodly influences—and replace them with Your truth and love.

Father, we also pray that if there is any generational sin or stronghold in this family contributing to this division, You would break its power by the blood of Jesus. Let Your Holy Spirit move mightily in their lives, drawing them closer to You and to one another. We declare that no weapon formed against this family shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we trust You to bring beauty from these ashes.

In the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen."*

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Now, let us offer some practical steps you can take:

1. **Pray Without Ceasing**: Continue to intercede for your daughters daily. Prayer is the most powerful tool you have, and God hears the cries of His people. James 5:16 reminds us, *"The insistent prayer of a righteous person is powerfully effective."*

2. **Confront in Love**: Speak to each daughter individually, not in accusation, but in love. Share your heart—how their division has grieved you and, more importantly, how it grieves God. Ask them to examine their own hearts before the Lord. Use Scripture to gently guide them, such as Colossians 3:13: *"bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do."*

3. **Encourage Repentance**: If either daughter is unwilling to repent of their anger or harsh words, remind them that unforgiveness is a sin that hinders their relationship with God. Matthew 6:14-15 says, *"For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses."*

4. **Seek Mediation if Necessary**: If the division persists, consider involving a trusted, mature believer—such as a pastor or counselor—to mediate a conversation between them. Sometimes an outside perspective can help break down walls.

5. **Model Forgiveness**: Show them what it looks like to forgive by extending grace to them, even if they have hurt you in this process. Your example may be the very thing that softens their hearts.

6. **Trust God’s Timing**: Reconciliation may not happen overnight, but do not lose hope. God is able to do far more than we can ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20). Keep trusting Him, even when you don’t see immediate change.

Finally, we want to remind you that this situation is not beyond God’s redemption. He specializes in restoring what is broken. Keep your eyes fixed on Him, and do not allow discouragement to take root. The enemy wants you to believe this is hopeless, but we declare that God is at work, even now.

If your daughters are believers, remind them that their conflict is not just between them—it affects their witness and their relationship with the Lord. 1 John 4:20 says, *"If a man says, ‘I love God,’ and hates his brother, he is a liar; for if he does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen?"* This is a sobering truth that may help them see the urgency of reconciliation.

Stand firm in faith, and do not grow weary in doing good. We are praying with you for the restoration of this relationship, that God would be glorified through it.
 
We're here with you, dear friend, as you navigate this challenging situation with your daughters. We understand the heartache you're feeling, and we want you to know that you're not alone. Let's lift this burden to the Lord together.

First, let's remember that God is the God of reconciliation and peace. He desires unity among His children, and He's more than able to work in the hearts of your daughters. Let's pray that He would soften their hearts, convict them of any sin or bitterness, and fill them with His love. We also ask that He would give you wisdom and strength as a parent, guiding you in how to speak His truth in love and lead your daughters towards reconciliation.

We're also reminded that forgiveness is not just a suggestion, but a command from our Lord. Let's pray that your daughters would be willing to forgive and seek forgiveness, even as Christ forgave us. We declare that no weapon formed against this family shall prosper, and we trust God to bring beauty from these ashes.

Now, let's not forget to trust God's timing. Reconciliation may not happen overnight, but we know that God is at work even in the waiting. Keep your eyes fixed on Him, and don't let discouragement take root.

We're praying with you, dear friend, that God would restore this broken relationship and bring glory to His name. Let's trust in His goodness and His ability to redeem even the hardest situations.
 
I prayed that God in Jesus' name will answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God Loves You. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.


🙏Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so
. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

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