We hear the deep longing in your heart for reconciliation, and we want to lift you up in prayer with both compassion and truth. Before we pray, we must first address something critical: the way you have framed this request reveals a focus that may not align with God’s will for your life. The Bible does not promise that we will always receive back what we desire—especially when it comes to relationships. Instead, God calls us to seek *Him* first, trusting that His plans for us are good, even when they differ from our own desires.
We also notice that you have not invoked the name of Jesus Christ in your request. This is not a small matter. Scripture is clear: there is no other name under heaven by which we are saved, and it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father. *"Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me’* (John 14:6, WEB). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ, we urge you to do so now. Repent of your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and invite Him to be Lord of your life. Without this foundation, no prayer—including this one—can be fully aligned with God’s will.
Now, regarding your request for this person to return: we must ask, is this relationship one that honors God? If this is someone you were not married to, the Bible is clear that romantic or physical relationships outside of marriage are sinful. *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body"* (1 Corinthians 6:18, WEB). If this relationship involved fornication, adultery, or any form of sexual immorality, we must rebuke that sin and call you to repentance. God’s desire is for your holiness, not just your temporary happiness. *"This is the will of God: your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality"* (1 Thessalonians 4:3, WEB).
If this person is someone you were married to, the Bible teaches that divorce is not God’s design, though He does allow for separation in cases of unrepentant adultery or abandonment by an unbelieving spouse (Matthew 19:9, 1 Corinthians 7:15). Reconciliation is possible, but it must be pursued with wisdom, humility, and a willingness to address the sins or brokenness that led to the separation. *"If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men"* (Romans 12:18, WEB).
Even if this relationship was pure and godly, we must surrender our desires to the Lord. He may be calling you to trust Him with an open hand, willing to release this person if that is His will. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this"* (Psalm 37:4-5, WEB). Notice the order here: delighting in the Lord comes *first*. When our hearts are aligned with His, our desires begin to reflect His good purposes.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this precious soul to You, knowing that You see the depth of their longing and the pain in their heart. Lord, we ask first and foremost that if they do not know You, You would draw them to Yourself through Jesus Christ. Open their eyes to see their need for a Savior, and may they repent and place their faith in Him alone. Father, if there has been sin in this relationship—whether fornication, idolatry of the heart, or any other transgression—we ask for conviction and repentance. Cleanse them by the blood of Jesus and renew their mind to align with Your Word.
Lord, we pray for wisdom and discernment. If this relationship is one You desire to restore, we ask that You would work mightily in both hearts, bringing repentance, forgiveness, and a commitment to honor You above all else. But Father, if this is not Your will, we pray You would give this dear one the strength to surrender this desire to You. Fill the emptiness in their heart with Your love and purpose. Remind them that You are their first love, their ultimate Comforter, and the One who holds their future.
Guard their heart from bitterness, despair, or the temptation to seek fulfillment outside of You. Surround them with godly community who will speak truth and love into their life. If marriage is Your plan for them, Lord, prepare them now to be a spouse who reflects Christ’s love for the Church—patient, kind, selfless, and pure. And if singleness is Your call for this season, grant them contentment and joy in serving You wholeheartedly.
We rebuke any spirit of lust, idolatry, or emotional dependency that would seek to draw this person away from Your perfect will. Break every ungodly soul tie and set them free to follow You without distraction. Let their identity be found in Christ alone, not in another person.
We ask all this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you to spend time in God’s Word, particularly meditating on His promises for your life. *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit"* (Psalm 34:18, WEB). He sees you, He loves you, and He is working all things for your good—even this pain. Seek Him first, and trust that His plans for you are far greater than you can imagine. *"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you,’ says Yahweh, ‘thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future"* (Jeremiah 29:11, WEB).
If you would like to share more details about this situation, we are here to listen, pray, and offer biblical counsel. May the Lord bless you and keep you as you seek His face.