We hear the deep longing in your heart for healing, restoration, and a future filled with the hope you once carried. Your love for this man is evident, as is your shared pain—both from his unresolved grief and the weight of the years that have reshaped you both. Yet we must first address something foundational: your prayer does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom alone we have access to the Father and by whom we are saved. The Scriptures declare, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). It is only through Jesus that our prayers reach the throne of God, and it is in His name that we find true healing, redemption, and the strength to endure.
We also notice the depth of your emotional and spiritual investment in this man, yet there is no mention of marriage, which is the biblical context for such a profound union. The Word of God is clear that intimacy—emotional, physical, or spiritual—is reserved for the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman. *"Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed is undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4, WEB). If you are not married, we urge you to seek God’s will for your relationship, pursuing holiness and a commitment that honors Him. Courtship should be intentional, with marriage as its godly goal, and both of you should be believers in Christ, yoked together in faith. *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). If there has been fornication or emotional dependence outside of marriage, we call you to repentance, for *"the body is not for sexual immorality, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body"* (1 Corinthians 6:13, WEB).
Your description of his grief and trauma is heartbreaking, and we acknowledge the toll it has taken on both of you. Grief unprocessed can indeed spiral into bitterness, anger, and emotional isolation. Yet even in this, God offers hope. *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit"* (Psalm 34:18, WEB). His healing is not found in revisiting pain endlessly but in surrendering it to Christ, who bore our sorrows on the cross. *"Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart; and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light"* (Matthew 11:28-30, WEB). We pray that this man would turn to Jesus, not just to memories or emotions, for true comfort. *"Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted"* (Matthew 5:4, WEB).
For you, dear sister, we see your weariness and your fear of resignation. You have carried much, but you were never meant to carry it alone. *"Cast all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you"* (1 Peter 5:7, WEB). Your love for this man is commendable, but love without truth can become enabling. You cannot heal him; only God can. *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB). It is time to surrender this relationship entirely to the Lord, seeking His will above your own desires. If this relationship is not aligned with His Word, He will redirect you. If it is, He will restore and redeem it in His timing.
We pray now with you, lifting your hearts to the Father in the name of Jesus Christ:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, acknowledging that You alone are the source of healing, restoration, and hope. Lord, we lift up this sister and the man she loves, asking that You would draw both of them into a deeper relationship with You. Father, if they do not know Jesus as their Savior, we pray that You would open their eyes to the truth of the Gospel—that Christ died for their sins, was buried, and rose again, offering them forgiveness and eternal life. May they repent and place their faith in Him, for there is no other name by which we must be saved.
Lord, we ask for Your healing touch upon this man’s heart. The grief he carries is heavy, and the years of unprocessed pain have left him wounded. Father, break the chains of bitterness, anger, and sadness that have held him captive. Remind him that You are the God of all comfort, who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3). Restore his mind and emotions, Lord, and fill him with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Help him to forgive those who have hurt him and to release the past into Your hands.
Father, we also lift up our sister, who has walked this difficult path alongside him. Her heart is weary, and she feels the weight of these years deeply. Lord, renew her strength as she waits upon You (Isaiah 40:31). Guard her heart from resentment or fear, and fill her with Your joy and hope. If this relationship is not in alignment with Your Word, give her the courage to obey You, even if it means letting go. If it is Your will for them to be together, prepare them both for a marriage that honors You, built on the foundation of Christ.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of despair that has sought to overwhelm them. We declare that You are the God of breakthrough, and we ask for a milestone—a turning point where Your light shines brightly upon their path. Bring godly counsel, wisdom, and community into their lives to support and encourage them. Help them to seek You first, above all else, and to trust in Your perfect plan.
We pray for a future that aligns with Your will, Father. If marriage is Your design for them, prepare their hearts for a covenant that reflects Your love and holiness. If not, give them the grace to surrender this relationship to You and to walk in obedience, knowing that Your plans for them are good. *"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future"* (Jeremiah 29:11, WEB).
In the name of Jesus, we ask for Your peace to guard their hearts and minds. May they find rest in You, trusting that You are working all things together for their good (Romans 8:28). Strengthen them to walk in faith, not in fear, and to seek Your kingdom above all else.
We thank You, Lord, for hearing our prayers. We trust in Your faithfulness and Your love. May Your will be done in their lives, and may they find their ultimate satisfaction in You alone. In the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you to seek the Lord individually and as a couple (if you are courting with the intent of marriage). Spend time in His Word, praying together in the name of Jesus, and seeking godly counsel from believers who can walk alongside you. *"Where there is no counsel, plans fail; but in a multitude of counselors they are established"* (Proverbs 15:22, WEB). If there has been sin in this relationship, confess it to the Lord and to one another, and turn away from it. *"He who covers his sins shall not prosper, but whoever confesses and forsakes them shall have mercy"* (Proverbs 28:13, WEB).
The road ahead may still be difficult, but with Christ, there is always hope. *"Let us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering; for he who promised is faithful"* (Hebrews 10:23, WEB). Trust in Him, and He will guide your steps.
