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I have been married to my husband for 8 years. 2 weeks ago he came home and said he made up his mind and that he was leaving. He moved out 3 days later. I did not speak to him until a week later. It was very painful for me and for him. He said he wanted a divorce. Just today i wrote him a note and reminded him of our committment and all the things we have worked so hard for. All he could say is that i can't accept his kids and that he shoulf of left a long time ago. the problem is not that i won't accept his kids (its really just 1 child his is talking about)it is that i can't accept the way that he treats that one child so different from the others. He becomes angry when i mention anything about that child (she is going to be 19 so she is really not a child). A couple of years ago the child mother died from a drug overdose and now i think he feels more guilt about the past. (not being there to raise her) We were getting along fine until the child told her grandmother something that i did that was not true. The grandmother came to our home and said some really awful things to me. Since that day i have not wanted to talk to the child because i felt that everything i say or do she will repeat to her grandmother. The child then complains to him that she can't even come to visit because she doesn't feel welcome. I asked him if he ever told her anything for what she had done. And of course he didn't and never does. Everything is my fault? The lord know i have struggled with this child and part of me feels really bad for her and then he does things concerning her that i don't agree with. He never shares her with me, she calls and he has to go to another room to talk. He doesn't want me to know anything about her. So how am i suppose to accept her. She causes problems everywhere she goes and i feel that him as a parent should point that out and correct her, but he can't seem to tell her anything. He has always treated her differently. He has another daughter by another marriage who does not speak to her either. She has caused problems between them. All i ever asked of him was to treat my kids and his kids fair and equal. Am i being unreasonable? I can't seem to get him to see that his actions are the problem. That is his reason for leaving and i get along with the other child just fine. Please pray that he will finally understand what i am trying to say. Its not so much that i can't like her i just don't like what she does and he should correct her.
He has always felt sorry for her because of everything her mother put her through, but that is no reason to not discipline or guide the child in the right direction.
He has always felt sorry for her because of everything her mother put her through, but that is no reason to not discipline or guide the child in the right direction.
