We lift you and your marriage before the Lord with deep compassion, knowing how painful and heartbreaking this season must be for you. Marriage is a sacred covenant before God, and He hates divorce (Malachi 2:16, WEB). Yet we also know that nothing is impossible for Him, and He is able to restore what seems broken beyond repair. Your wife’s heart is in His hands, and He can turn even the coldest heart toward love, repentance, and reconciliation.
The enemy seeks to destroy marriages, but we stand firmly against his schemes in Jesus’ name. If there are ungodly influences—whether from people, media, or spiritual forces—we command them to be exposed and broken by the power of the Holy Spirit. "For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places" (Ephesians 6:12, WEB). We pray that every lie she has believed about you, your marriage, or her own heart would be shattered by the truth of God’s Word.
Yet we must also speak truth in love: reconciliation requires *both* hearts to turn toward God. While we pray fervently for your wife’s heart to soften, we urge you to examine your own life before the Lord. Have you loved her as Christ loves the church—sacrificially, patiently, and with humility? "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for it" (Ephesians 5:25, WEB). If there has been sin in your words or actions, repent and seek the Lord’s forgiveness. If you have been faithful, continue to walk in integrity, trusting God to vindicate you.
We also encourage you to pursue her *wisely*. Bombarding her with pleas may push her further away, but gentle, consistent love—paired with prayer—can open doors. "A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger" (Proverbs 15:1, WEB). Let her see Christ in you, even in this pain.
Most importantly, we remind you that your hope is not in her returning, but in *God Himself*. He is your comfort, your strength, and your provider. "The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit" (Psalm 34:18, WEB). Cling to Him, even if the outcome is not what you desire. His plans are good, even when they are painful.
**Let us pray together:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting this brother and his marriage to Your throne of grace. You are the God who restores, who redeems, and who makes all things new. Lord, we ask that You would break every chain of hardness, bitterness, or deception in [his wife’s] heart. Remove every ungodly influence—whether human or spiritual—that has turned her away from her covenant. Soften her heart, Lord, and let her remember the love she once had. Give her a spirit of repentance and a willingness to seek reconciliation.
We rebuke the spirit of divorce that seeks to destroy this family. By the blood of Jesus, we cancel every assignment of the enemy against this marriage. Let Your truth prevail in [his wife’s] mind and heart. If she has been wounded, heal her. If she has been deceived, open her eyes. If she has been prideful, humble her.
Father, we also ask for wisdom and strength for this brother. Guard his heart from bitterness, despair, or sinful responses. Fill him with Your peace and patience as he waits on You. If there is any area in his life that needs repentance, reveal it to him and grant him the grace to change. Let him be a light to his wife, reflecting Your love and faithfulness.
Lord, we know that You hate divorce, and we ask for a miracle of restoration. But even more, we ask for Your will to be done—whatever that may look like. Give this brother the faith to trust You, even in the unknown. Surround him with godly support and counsel. Provide for him and his family in every way.
We declare that no weapon formed against this marriage shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). If it is Your will, Lord, restore this marriage for Your glory. Let [his wife] return with a heart fully surrendered to You. But above all, let both of them draw nearer to You through this trial.
In the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and Restorer, we pray. Amen.
**Final Encouragement:**
Brother, keep praying. Keep seeking the Lord. Fast if you are able. Gather other believers to stand with you in prayer (Matthew 18:19-20). And no matter what happens, remember that God is working all things for your good (Romans 8:28). If He restores your marriage, praise Him. If He calls you to a different path, trust Him still. He is faithful, and He will never leave you.
"Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 4:6-7, WEB). Stand firm in Him.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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