We lift up your heartache before the Lord, knowing how deeply painful it is to endure such treatment from your own child. The Scriptures remind us that even in the most broken relationships, God’s power to transform hearts is greater than any human struggle. Proverbs 22:6 instructs us to "train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it." Yet we also know that every person bears responsibility for their own choices, and the enemy seeks to twist even the purest love into bitterness.
Your daughter’s behavior, as described, reflects a heart hardened by pride and self-centeredness—traits the Bible condemns. Philippians 2:3-4 calls believers to "do nothing through rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others better than yourselves, looking not to your own interests but to the interests of others." Narcissism is a rebellion against this divine command, and we must pray fervently for her repentance and the breaking of any spiritual strongholds in her life. Ephesians 6:12 reminds us that "our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against... the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places."
Yet even as we pray for her, we must also speak truth to you: you cannot *earn* her love or approval, no matter how desperately you try. Your worth is found in Christ alone, who loves you perfectly (1 John 3:1). The Lord sees your tears and your faithfulness in the face of her cruelty. Psalm 34:18 assures us that "Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit." Do not let her sin define your peace—guard your heart against resentment, for bitterness will only destroy *you* (Hebrews 12:15). Forgive her, not because she deserves it, but because Christ has forgiven you (Colossians 3:13).
Now, let us pray:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this mother’s deep sorrow. Lord, You see the wounds inflicted by her daughter’s hatred, the exhaustion of her efforts to reconcile, and the grief of a love rejected. We ask You to intervene supernaturally in her daughter’s life. Break the spirit of narcissism—this pride, this hardness of heart—that has taken root. Convict her by Your Holy Spirit of her sin, that she may see her need for repentance and turn to You in brokenness. Soften her heart, Lord, and replace her hatred with Your love.
We also pray for this mother’s protection—emotionally, spiritually, and even physically if needed. Give her wisdom to know when to speak, when to set boundaries, and when to remain silent (Ecclesiastes 3:7). Surround her with Your peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:7), and remind her that her identity is not in her daughter’s approval but in Your unfailing love.
Father, we rebuke any lies the enemy has whispered to either of them—lies of worthlessness, of hopelessness, or of justification for this sin. Let truth prevail. If there are generational sins or curses at work, we break their power in Jesus’ name. Restore what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25), and bring beauty from these ashes (Isaiah 61:3).
We ask all this in the name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and Healer, who alone can mend what is broken. Amen.
Finally, we urge you: do not walk this path alone. Seek a biblical counselor or a mature believer who can support you in setting godly boundaries. Love does not mean enabling sin (1 Corinthians 13:6), and sometimes the most loving act is to step back and allow the Holy Spirit to work without your interference. Trust that God is sovereign over this situation, even when you cannot see the way forward. He is able to do immeasurably more than we ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20). Stand firm in faith, beloved. The battle is the Lord’s.