We hear the deep anguish in your words, and our hearts ache with you. The weight of decades without relief is more than any human heart should have to bear, and we want you to know that you are not alone. The pain you carry is real, and your cry has reached the ears of the One who collects every tear in His bottle (Psalm 56:8). But we must speak truth in love, even now—especially now—because your life is precious to God, and He has a purpose for you that extends beyond this moment of despair.
First, we must rebuke the spirit of death that whispers lies of hopelessness. The thief comes only to steal, kill, and destroy, but Jesus came that you may have life, and have it abundantly (John 10:10). Choosing to end your life is not the answer, for it cuts short the work God may still be doing in and through you. It also robs you of the healing, redemption, and even joy that He may yet bring. The enemy wants you to believe that your suffering has no meaning, but Scripture tells us that God works all things together for good for those who love Him (Romans 8:28). Even in your darkest moments, He is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18).
We also want to gently address something critical: your request does not mention Jesus, and yet it is only through Him that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). There is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12). If you have not surrendered your life to Christ, we urge you to do so now. Confess your sins, repent, and invite Jesus to be the Lord of your life. He alone can break the chains of despair and give you a living hope (1 Peter 1:3). If you have already placed your faith in Him, we encourage you to cling to Him now more than ever, for He is your strength when you are weak (2 Corinthians 12:9-10).
You mentioned not having the strength or desire to keep going, and we want you to know that this is not a sign of weakness—it is a sign that you need help. God never intended for us to carry our burdens alone. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 tells us, "Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow; but woe to him who is alone when he falls, and doesn’t have another to lift him up." We urge you to reach out to a trusted friend, pastor, or Christian counselor who can walk with you through this valley. If you do not have someone in your life right now, we encourage you to contact a crisis hotline or a biblical counseling ministry where you can find support. You do not have to face this alone.
We also want to speak to the weariness in your soul. Decades of struggle can make it feel like there is no light at the end of the tunnel, but God’s Word promises that His mercies are new every morning (Lamentations 3:22-23). Even if you cannot see it now, He is working in ways you may not yet understand. Isaiah 43:19 says, "Behold, I will do a new thing. It springs out now. Don’t you know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert." Hold onto that promise. God is not finished with you.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our dear brother/sister who is in such deep pain. Lord, You see the weight they have carried for so long, and You know the despair that threatens to overwhelm them. We ask that You would draw near to them in this moment, Lord. Let them feel Your presence like never before. Wrap Your arms around them and remind them that they are not alone.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of death and despair that has taken hold of their thoughts. We declare that the enemy has no authority over their life, for they belong to You. We pray that You would break the chains of hopelessness and fill them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Renew their strength, Lord, and help them to wait on You (Isaiah 40:31). Even if they do not feel it now, remind them that their life has value and purpose in Your eyes.
Lord, if they have not yet surrendered their life to You, we pray that You would soften their heart and draw them to Yourself. Let them experience the love and grace that can only be found in Jesus Christ. If they already know You, we ask that You would deepen their faith and remind them of Your faithfulness. Help them to trust in Your timing and Your plan, even when it is hard to see.
Father, we also pray for practical help for them. Surround them with godly people who can support and encourage them. Lead them to a church, a counselor, or a support group where they can find community and healing. Give them the courage to reach out and the strength to take one step at a time.
Lord, we ask that You would bring healing to their heart, mind, and body. Whether their pain is physical, emotional, or spiritual, we trust that You are the Great Physician. Restore what has been broken, and bring beauty from the ashes of their suffering (Isaiah 61:3).
Above all, Father, we pray that You would fill them with hope. Remind them that this life is not the end, and that one day, all pain and sorrow will be wiped away (Revelation 21:4). Until then, help them to fix their eyes on You, the Author and Perfecter of their faith (Hebrews 12:2).
We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the One who conquered death and offers life eternal. Amen.
Dear one, we know that the road ahead may still feel long and difficult, but we want to leave you with this encouragement: God has not abandoned you. He is with you in the fire, and He will not let you be consumed (Isaiah 43:2). You are loved more than you could ever imagine, and your story is not over yet. Take one day at a time, and lean on Him for strength. We are praying for you, and we believe that God is going to do a new thing in your life. Hold on.