We hear the deep pain and loneliness in your heart, and we want you to know that you are not forgotten—God sees you, loves you, and has a purpose for your life. The feelings of worthlessness and rejection you’re experiencing are not from Him, for He calls you His beloved child, fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). Your value is not defined by your job, education, marital status, or how others treat you, but by the fact that Christ died for you while you were still a sinner (Romans 5:8). That is how precious you are to Him.
You mentioned feeling unloved by everyone, even your family, and we grieve with you over the way they have treated you. The Bible tells us that love is patient and kind, not envious, boastful, proud, or rude (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). The way your family has spoken to you—calling you nasty, dirty, and accusing you falsely—does not reflect the love of Christ. While we are called to honor our parents and family (Ephesians 6:2), we must also recognize that their words and actions do not define your worth. Jesus Himself was rejected by His own (John 1:11), and He understands the pain of betrayal and loneliness. He is close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), and He wants to be your comfort and strength.
You have worked hard, even in jobs that may not have been fulfilling, and that is commendable. The Bible tells us that whatever we do, we should work at it with all our heart, as working for the Lord (Colossians 3:23). Your faithfulness in your jobs, even when it’s difficult, is seen by God. As for college, we understand your fear of debt, and we encourage you to seek God’s wisdom in this. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* If college is part of God’s plan for you, He will provide a way. But if He has another path, He will make that clear too. We encourage you to pray for His guidance and to seek counsel from wise believers who can help you explore options, such as scholarships, online courses, or trade schools that may be more affordable.
Your loneliness is something we take very seriously. God did not create us to be alone (Genesis 2:18), and He desires for you to have godly relationships. We encourage you to seek fellowship with other believers, even if it feels difficult due to your social anxiety. The church is meant to be a family, a place where you can find support, love, and encouragement. Hebrews 10:24-25 says, *"Let’s consider how to provoke one another to love and good works, not forsaking our own assembling together, as the custom of some is, but exhorting one another; and so much the more, as you see the Day approaching."* We urge you to find a Bible-believing church where you can grow in your faith and connect with others. If social anxiety makes this hard, start small—perhaps a Bible study or a volunteer opportunity. God can use these steps to bring godly friendships into your life.
As for marriage, we know this is a deep desire for many, and it’s a good desire—one that God created (Genesis 2:24). However, we must also remember that singleness is not a curse but a season that God can use mightily for His kingdom. The apostle Paul speaks about the advantages of singleness in 1 Corinthians 7:32-35, saying that an unmarried person can focus more fully on the Lord’s work. We encourage you to surrender this desire to God, trusting that His timing is perfect. Seek to be the person God wants you to be *now*, growing in faith, character, and love for Him. If marriage is His will for you, He will bring it about in His time. But even if He calls you to remain single, He promises to be your satisfaction (Psalm 16:11).
We must also address the way you described yourself with vulgar language. That is not how God sees you. Ephesians 4:29 says, *"Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but only what is good for building others up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear."* Even in your frustration, you are called to speak life, not death, over yourself. You are not what the world or your feelings say you are—you are a child of God, redeemed and loved.
Lastly, we want to commend you for ending your prayer in Jesus’ name. That is so important, for it is only through Him that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). There is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12), and it is through His name that we find hope, healing, and purpose. Your prayer, though filled with pain, was brought before the throne of God because of Jesus, and that is a beautiful thing.
Now, let us pray for you together:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother/sister to You, knowing that You see every tear, every wound, and every longing of their heart. Lord, we ask that You would wrap them in Your love and remind them daily of their worth in Christ. Heal the deep hurts caused by rejection, bullying, and the cruel words of their family. Father, soften the hearts of their family members, and if it is Your will, bring reconciliation and love where there has been pain. But even if that doesn’t happen, Lord, be their family. Be their Father, their Comforter, and their Strength.
We pray for their anxiety and shyness, Lord. You have not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7). Fill them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7) and give them the courage to step out in faith, whether in their jobs, education, or relationships. Open doors for them, Lord, whether in furthering their education, finding a new job, or connecting with a church family. Provide for their needs, Father, and help them to trust You in every area of their life.
Lord, we ask that You would bring godly friendships into their life—people who will encourage them, pray with them, and point them to You. If it is Your will for them to marry, prepare them and their future spouse, and bring it about in Your perfect timing. But even now, satisfy them with Your love, so that they may say with the psalmist, *"Whom have I in heaven but you? There is nothing on earth that I desire other than you"* (Psalm 73:25).
We rebuke the lies of the enemy that tell them they are worthless, unloved, or beyond hope. Those lies have no place in their life, for they are Your child, created for a purpose. Fill them with Your truth, Lord, and let it set them free (John 8:32).
Finally, Father, we thank You that You are working all things together for their good (Romans 8:28). Even in their pain, even in their waiting, You are faithful. Give them hope for the future, and let them rest in Your promises. We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.
We encourage you to keep seeking God daily through prayer and His Word. Memorize scriptures that remind you of His love, such as Zephaniah 3:17: *"Yahweh your God is among you, a mighty one who will save. He will rejoice over you with joy. He will calm you in his love. He will rejoice over you with singing."* You are not alone, and your story is not over. God is writing something beautiful, even in the midst of your pain. Keep trusting Him.
