Our hearts break with you as we lift up your family in prayer, for we know the deep pain of a broken marriage and the sorrow of a divided home. You have done well to turn to Jesus in this storm, and we rejoice that you are seeking Him with all your heart. Yet we must also speak truth in love, for God’s Word does not leave us without direction in times like these.
First, we commend you for taking up your God-given role as the spiritual leader of your home, even now. You have recognized your responsibility to love your wife as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25-29) and to guide your children in the faith. This is noble, and we urge you to continue steadfastly. However, we must also address the reality of your situation with biblical clarity. Your wife has filed for divorce, and while you desire reconciliation, her actions—including the possibility of emotional or physical infidelity—suggest a heart that has turned away. Jesus Himself said, *"What therefore God has joined together, don’t let man tear apart"* (Matthew 19:6, WEB), but He also acknowledged that hardness of heart can lead to separation (Matthew 19:8). Still, we must never lose hope in God’s power to restore what is broken.
Yet we must also rebuke the idea that your prayers are "not working." God is not a vending machine who grants our requests based on our timing or desires. His ways are higher, and His timing is perfect (Isaiah 55:8-9). Your wife’s heart is in His hands, and while you pray for restoration, you must also surrender to His will—even if that means walking a path you did not choose. Your focus now must be on honoring God in all things, whether that leads to reconciliation or not. If she has indeed hardened her heart, you cannot force her to return, but you can demonstrate Christlike love, patience, and integrity before her, your children, and the Lord.
As for your children, you have done well to encourage them to pray. Their tears are a testament to the brokenness of sin in this world, but take heart: *"Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it"* (Proverbs 22:6, WEB). Continue to lead them in truth, showing them what it looks like to trust God even in suffering. Shield them from bitterness, and do not speak ill of their mother, for she remains their mother, and God calls us to honor even those who may not act honorably (Exodus 20:12).
Now, let us address something critical: you mentioned that you have *"only recently begun to start a relationship with Jesus."* Brother, this is the most important truth in your life. There is no greater need than to ensure you are truly born again, for *"unless one is born again, he cannot see God’s Kingdom"* (John 3:3, WEB). Have you repented of your sins and placed your full faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior? If not, we implore you to do so now, for *"there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ, pray this with us now: *"Lord Jesus, I confess I am a sinner. I turn from my sins and trust in You alone for salvation. Forgive me, cleanse me, and make me new. I surrender my life, my marriage, my children, and my future to You. Fill me with Your Holy Spirit and lead me in Your truth. In Jesus’ name, Amen."*
If you *have* already given your life to Christ, then stand firm in this truth: *"If God is for us, who can be against us?"* (Romans 8:31, WEB). Your wife’s choices do not define your worth or your future. Your identity is in Christ, and He is able to redeem even this.
Finally, we must address the practical steps ahead. If your wife is demanding you leave, seek wise counsel—both spiritual (from a pastor or biblical counselor) and legal (to understand your rights and responsibilities, especially regarding your children). Do not act out of desperation or anger, but with wisdom and discernment (James 1:5). If you must leave the home, do so with dignity, ensuring your children know they are loved and secure. And if there is even a hint of infidelity on her part, do not confront her in accusation, but in brokenhearted truth, calling her to repentance and pointing her to Christ.
Now, let us pray together for you, your wife, and your children:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up our brother and his family. Lord, You hate divorce (Malachi 2:16), and we ask You to move in power to soften [his wife’s] heart. If there is bitterness, forgive her. If there is deceit, expose it and bring conviction. If there is hardness, break it, O God, and draw her back to Yourself—and to her husband and children. Restore what the enemy has stolen, Lord, if it be Your will.
Strengthen our brother in this trial. Fill him with Your Spirit, that he may respond with grace, wisdom, and unwavering faith. Guard his heart from bitterness, his mind from despair, and his actions from foolishness. Let him be a light to his children, showing them what it means to trust You in the storm.
For the children, Lord, comfort their hearts. Dry their tears and remind them that You are their Father who will never leave them (Psalm 68:5). Protect their innocence, and let this season drive them to seek You early.
If this marriage is to be restored, Lord, do it swiftly and supernaturally. If not, prepare our brother for the path ahead, equipping him to walk in purity, faith, and hope. Let him find his joy in You alone, knowing that You are enough.
We rebuke the schemes of the enemy over this family. No weapon formed against them shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Let Your will be done, Lord—not as we desire, but as You ordain. We trust You, even when we cannot see the way.
In the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and Restorer, we pray. Amen."*
Brother, we stand with you in this fight. Keep seeking Jesus, keep praying, and keep walking in obedience, even when the path is painful. *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit"* (Psalm 34:18, WEB). Cling to Him, and He will carry you through. Stay in the Word, surround yourself with godly men who can disciple you, and do not lose hope. God is not finished yet.
: I will file a restraining order on you on Monday. If you don't move out.
