People that don't trust pastors anymore

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People that don't trust pastors anymore. In 2003 a female pastor from ### named ### was supposed to pray for people but instead she started speaking illness, sickness over teenagers that were needing from drug addiction. I haven't ever forgotten the day she was speaking illness, sickness over the young people. Then when I ask her for prayer years later God spoke on my heart and he said he never speaks sickness, illness over anyone. So I quit letting different pastors pray unless their aligning with God's words of healing or God's words.
 
We hear the deep pain and betrayal in your heart, and we grieve with you over the spiritual abuse you witnessed and experienced. What that pastor did was not only unbiblical but a direct violation of God’s nature and His Word. Scripture is clear that God does not bring sickness or harm as a form of judgment or "prayer", He is the God who heals, restores, and delivers. Jesus Himself said, "The thief comes only to steal, kill, and destroy; I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly" (John 10:10 WEB). When leaders misuse their authority to speak destruction instead of life, it is the work of the enemy, not the Holy Spirit.

You were right to listen to the conviction in your heart when God revealed that He never speaks sickness over His children. The Bible declares, "Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be healthy, even as your soul prospers" (3 John 1:2 WEB). Jesus’ ministry was marked by healing the sick, casting out demons, and setting captives free, not pronouncing curses. Any leader who claims to speak for God but contradicts His Word is operating in deception, and we must test every spirit (1 John 4:1 WEB).

This experience has understandably shaken your trust in spiritual leadership, and we want to affirm your discernment. Not all pastors are like the one who failed you, but it is wise to hold every leader accountable to Scripture. The Bereans were commended for "examining the Scriptures daily to see whether these things were so" (Acts 17:11 WEB). You are not wrong to demand that those who pray over you align with God’s truth. True shepherds will speak life, not death; hope, not despair; and freedom, not bondage.

We also want to gently address the root of this hurt: the enemy would love for you to reject all spiritual authority because of one person’s failure. But God still calls faithful leaders to guide His people. The apostle Paul wrote, "And He gave some to be apostles; and some, prophets; and some, evangelists; and some, shepherds and teachers; for the perfecting of the saints, for the work of serving, for the building up of the body of Christ" (Ephesians 4:11-12 WEB). The key is discernment, seeking leaders who walk in humility, integrity, and alignment with Scripture.

Let us pray for you now:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our brother/sister who has been deeply wounded by spiritual abuse. Lord, we ask that You would heal the pain of betrayal and restore their trust in Your true shepherds. Give them discernment to recognize leaders who speak Your truth and walk in Your love. We renounce the words of sickness and destruction that were spoken over them and declare that those words have no power. Your Word says, "No weapon that is formed against you will prevail; and you will condemn every tongue that accuses you in judgment" (Isaiah 54:17 WEB). We break every curse spoken in Your name but not by Your Spirit, and we release Your healing, peace, and restoration over their life.

Father, we also pray for the pastors and leaders who have misused their authority. Soften their hearts, convict them of their error, and lead them to repentance. Raise up godly shepherds who will feed Your sheep with truth, love, and the power of the Holy Spirit. Help our brother/sister to find a community of believers where they can grow in faith without fear. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the Good Shepherd who lays down His life for His sheep. Amen.

In the meantime, we encourage you to immerse yourself in Scripture to rebuild your trust in God’s character. Meditate on passages that reveal His heart for healing (Psalm 103:2-3), His protection (Psalm 91), and His faithfulness (Lamentations 3:22-23). If you are seeking a church home, pray for the Lord to lead you to a body of believers where the Word is preached in truth and the Holy Spirit is honored. You are not alone in this journey, God sees your pain, and He is faithful to restore what has been broken.
 
We hear the pain behind your story, and we grieve with you that you witnessed a pastor using spiritual authority to speak illness over vulnerable young people. What you saw was a misuse of God’s name, what many call spiritual abuse, and it’s no wonder trust was deeply shaken. That memory stayed with you all these years, and we’re so thankful that God Himself stepped in to correct it, telling you plainly that He never speaks sickness over anyone. That personal word is a gift of deep discernment, and it’s wise that you now weigh every pastoral prayer against what you know of His heart of healing.

It’s not about rejecting pastors altogether, it’s about using the wisdom God gave you to test what you hear, which is exactly what He calls us to do. At the same time, we’d gently encourage you not to let one terrible experience cut you off from the many faithful shepherds whose prayers truly align with His words of life. Perhaps a simple next step could be asking the Lord to help you rebuild trust in godly pastoral care, maybe by letting a spiritually mature friend pray with you first, or by visiting a new faith community where you can quietly observe how leaders handle prayer before opening up. Your caution isn’t bitterness; it’s a healthy boundary that can actually guide you toward the right kind of covering.

Lord Jesus, thank You for speaking truth to our friend’s heart and for revealing Yourself as the God who restores, not destroys. Heal the wounds from that painful day, and give gentle courage to receive care from those who truly seek Your kingdom. Grant wisdom to know whom to trust, and keep our friend firmly anchored in the assurance that You always give good gifts. In Your name, amen.
 
A wound inflicted by the lips of one who should have spoken healing is a deep wound indeed. Yet it is written that even the very leaves of the tree of life are for the healing of the nations, and the least thing about Christ is full of healing virtue. His least Words are better than the best of others. The words of a mere human, even one standing in a pastor’s place, may fall with a poison that lingers, but Christ’s word is ever life and peace. God does not speak sickness over His children; He has not given us a spirit of fear, and His own Son declared, “It is finished.” That finished work means all the healing and forgiveness His people need is already perfected in Him, a ground of solid comfort to His Church forevermore. Can you not trust Him? Will you not be at peace in your mind if it is, indeed, true that Jehovah keeps you and is your Guard in the hour of danger?

You were right to recoil when one claiming to speak for God uttered illness over those young souls. Our own lips can be so full of false words, Job confessed, “If I justify myself, my own mouth shall condemn me.” How much more, then, should we flee from the words of any who do not align with the clear voice of our healing Lord! The Lord takes care that His own Words are written down and made known to us. He says, “Behold Me, behold Me.” The way of salvation is, “Look unto Me and be you saved, all the ends of the earth.” You need not trust in a pastor’s prayer, nor wait for a feeling, nor look to an instrument. Trust Christ Himself, directly, simply, now. If you say, “Lord, I cannot trust You unless I feel this or that,” then you, in effect, say, “I can trust my own feelings, but I cannot trust God's appointed Savior.” That is to make a god out of your feelings and a savior out of your inward griefs.

Healing and forgiveness are placed in happy conjunction, both bestowed on the Lord’s people when they look not for them. The inhabitant shall not say, I am sick: the people that dwell in it shall be forgiven their iniquity. Christ’s power to heal is present wherever He is teaching, and His teaching is this: “Son, be of good cheer; your sins are forgiven you.” Pardon and healing were one in His gracious mouth. Look not to the hand of the minister who broke your heart, whether for good or ill, but to the Great Physician who binds up the broken-hearted. He can heal even the memory of that dark day with His own presence. Waste no time in applying to the Physician of souls, but hasten to Him with words like these, “Jesus! Master! Hear my cry! Save me, heal me with a word.”

You have learned a hard but precious lesson: the Church must pray if she would have the healing power, and we must never let the human vessel eclipse the divine treasure. Trust your soul with Jesus. Trust Him not merely with one soul, but with all your past wounds, your present fears, your future steps. He is able to save all who trust Him. The very leaves from His tree are enough to change the life blood, affect the spirits and make the nature other than it was before. Let no man’s failure keep you from the Fountain of healing. He waits, even now, saying to your heart, “I was sought by those who did not ask for Me.” Come, then, and find that the Gospel’s healing power is power to forgive sin, power to restore, power to make all things new.
 
May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.


🙏Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so
. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

Heal Me Lord Jesus Spirit, Soul, And Body

 
You have indeed hearkened to the Spirit of truth when He spoke in your heart, testifying that the Father of lights never authors sickness or curses upon His children. The tongue that utters words of affliction over those seeking deliverance speaks not from the treasury of God but from the poverty of her own frailty, or worse, from the adversary’s prompting. God’s word is ever for healing and life; even when He permits a sickness, it is not unto death, but that the works of God might be made manifest, as with Lazarus. Therefore it is right that you refused any prayer which contradicts the revealed will of the Lord who bore our infirmities.

Yet take care, lest a single wolf lead you to suspect the whole flock. Because one vessel proved unsound, you must not cast aside every shepherd. The Church is the body of Christ, and He Himself appointed pastors after His own heart to feed the lambs with the pure wheat of Scripture, not with the tares of their own imaginations. Test every spirit, yes, and measure every prayer by the straight rod of God’s word; if any speak not according to this light, there is no truth in them. But where you find a pastor who brings nothing of his own, who lays no burden but the cross and speaks the promise of restoration, receive that prayer as from the mouth of the Lord, for He said, “He who hears you hears Me.”

Do not, then, cast away your trust entirely, for that is another snare. The evil one would eagerly persuade you that no one is faithful, so that he might strip you of the comfort of the Body. Rather, cling to the God of peace, who will soon bruise Satan under your feet. He is the teacher who sits ready to impart wisdom to all who have the will to learn. Give your treasure of faith into His hand, not into the earth, and He will abundantly reward your discernment with shepherds after His own heart. May His grace be with you, keeping you both watchful and confident.
 
That wound you carry is real, and the anger you feel is understandable. What that woman did was not from God. She may have claimed to speak in His name, but the words she released over those young people were the opposite of His heart. Scripture is clear that when the Spirit gives prophecy in the church, it is always for edification, exhortation, and comfort. It builds up, it calls forward, it strengthens. Sickness and curses do none of those things. You were right to recoil from it, and even more, you were right to listen when the Lord spoke to your own heart and assured you that He never, ever speaks sickness over anyone. That inner witness was the Holy Spirit guarding you with truth.

You have learned a hard but vital lesson: not everyone who stands in a position of authority genuinely represents the Lord. There were false prophets in the early church who used the guise of a prophet to manipulate, deceive, or pour out their own venom, and the apostle John warned the believers to test the spirits because many false prophets had gone out into the world. The terrible damage they do is measured in the trust they destroy, not only in themselves but in the very office of pastor. I am sorry that you were exposed to such a counterfeit so early in your walk. It is grievous to think of young people seeking deliverance from addiction, only to have words of death spoken over them instead of the healing power of Jesus.

The Lord Jesus Christ never operated that way. When He walked among us, He healed all manner of sickness and disease, and Matthew tells us this was to fulfill what was spoken through Isaiah: “He Himself took our infirmities and bore our sicknesses.” He was not making people ill; He was setting them free. The centurion understood this well because he recognized authority. He said to Jesus, “I am a man under authority, and I say to one servant ‘Go’ and he goes, and to another ‘Come’ and he comes.” Jesus marveled at that faith because it grasped that all authority in heaven and earth rests in Him alone, and that authority is always bent toward life, cleansing, and restoration. Even in the Old Testament law, God made provision for the miraculous cleansing of leprosy, a work that goes against the natural course of decay. From beginning to end, the scriptural testimony reveals a God who is the healer.

So your caution about pastors is not misplaced. No one should lay hands on you casually or speak over you lightly. Paul instructed Timothy not to advance anyone into leadership too quickly, and he said an overseer must have a good reputation even with outsiders, because a church gets slandered when leaders act shamefully. The failure of one does not cancel the office, but it does mean you must exercise discernment. It is entirely wise to withhold yourself from any prayer you cannot test against the Word and the character of God.

Yet I would gently press you not to close the door entirely. The same Lord who warned of wolves also gave gifts to His church for your good. Paul told the Corinthians that while there were many abuses of spiritual gifts among them, the answer was not to forbid prophecy but to evaluate it carefully. When you find a pastor or a mature believer who genuinely aligns their words with God’s words, one who speaks comfort, who points to the cross, who prays with the humility of someone under authority themselves, then receive that ministry as a gift from the Lord. The prophet’s voice, when true, does not cut down; it builds the body up in love and sounds a note of hope.

Hold fast to what God spoke within you. That revelation was a gift of His mercy, rewiring your instincts so you would never again mistake poison for bread. Let that same Holy Spirit guide you now. You are not obligated to trust every pastor, but you are free to trust the Chief Shepherd, and through Him, to recognize the voices of those who have truly been with Him.
 
We want to thank you for the privilege of standing with you in prayer over this heavy burden you’ve carried for so long. It grieves us deeply to hear how trust was broken in such a painful way, and we continue to lift up those young lives that were spoken over in a moment of misguided authority. We pray that wherever words of sickness and illness were declared, the truth of God’s healing and restoration would now prevail—undoing every lie and bringing wholeness in Jesus’ name.

We also stand with you in your commitment to seek only what aligns with God’s Word. It takes courage to hold fast to Scripture when others misuse their position, and we ask the Holy Spirit to strengthen your discernment and deepen your confidence in His promises. May you walk in the assurance that God does not speak sickness, but life, health, and freedom over His children.

If the Lord has already begun to bring healing, restoration, or clarity in this situation, we would be so encouraged to hear your praise report. If the pain still lingers or the wounds feel unhealed, we invite you to post this request again so we can continue to intercede on your behalf. Either way, know that we are here, praying with you and believing for God’s truth to prevail.

May the Father surround you with His peace, confirm His Word in your heart, and lead you into deeper trust in Him alone. We pray all these things in the powerful name of Jesus. Amen.
 

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