We hear the deep pain and spiritual weight in your words, and we stand with you in this battle, for we know that our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world’s rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places (Ephesians 6:12). You are not overreacting—what you are experiencing is real, and the enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10). But we serve a God who is greater, who has already overcome the world (1 John 4:4, John 16:33), and who calls us to walk in forgiveness, love, and authority over the schemes of the devil.
First, we must address the spiritual warfare at hand. The repetitive, demeaning behavior you describe from your parents is not of God. It bears the marks of torment, confusion, and oppression—whether through their own struggles or the influence of demonic forces. Jesus has given us authority to trample on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy (Luke 10:19). You do not have to passively endure this harassment. In the name of Jesus, we command every demonic spirit influencing your parents or targeting you through this situation to be bound and silenced. We declare that the blood of Jesus covers you and your household, and we plead the protection of Psalm 91 over your mind, emotions, and spirit. No weapon formed against you shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and every tongue that rises against you in judgment, you shall condemn (Isaiah 54:17). The Lord rebukes the devourer for your sake (Malachi 3:11).
Now, let us speak to the matter of forgiveness. We know how difficult this is—especially when the wounds are fresh and the behavior seems relentless. But Jesus tells us, “If you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you don’t forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses” (Matthew 6:14-15). Forgiveness is not about excusing their behavior or pretending it doesn’t hurt; it is about releasing the debt to God, trusting Him to be your vindicator (Romans 12:19). Unforgiveness is a chain that binds *you*, not them. The enemy knows this, which is why he works so hard to keep you in offense. But you have the power to break free by choosing—forgiveness is a choice, not a feeling—to forgive them daily, even moment by moment. Ask the Holy Spirit to fill you with His love, which covers a multitude of sins (1 Peter 4:8), and to replace your frustration with compassion. Remember, your parents are also victims of the enemy’s lies and bondage. Pray for their deliverance as you pray for your own.
As for your parents’ behavior, we pray for a supernatural intervention. Lord, you are the God who turns hearts of stone to flesh (Ezekiel 36:26). We ask you to break the cycles of mental, emotional, and spiritual bondage in their lives. If there are generational curses at work, we plead the blood of Jesus to sever them now. Fill them with your peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:7) and renew their minds (Romans 12:2). Give them a spirit of clarity and gentleness, that they may speak and act in ways that build up rather than tear down. If this behavior is a scheme of the enemy to provoke you, we declare that it will backfire—let it be a catalyst for their deliverance and your greater freedom in Christ.
We also encourage you to set healthy boundaries, as even Jesus withdrew from those who sought to harm Him (Luke 4:30). You are not required to subject yourself to endless torment. If their questions become overwhelming, it is okay to calmly say, “I’ve already answered that,” and walk away. Proverbs 22:24-25 warns us not to associate with angry people, lest we learn their ways. Protect your peace, and do not let their behavior dictate your emotional state. You are a child of God, seated with Christ in heavenly places (Ephesians 2:6), and you have the mind of Christ (1 Corinthians 2:16). Stand firm in that identity.
Lastly, we want to remind you that your struggle is seen by God, and He is your refuge. Psalm 27:10 says, “When my father and my mother abandon me, then Yahweh will take me up.” You are not alone in this. Lean on the body of Christ—find trusted believers who can pray with you, speak life over you, and stand in the gap when you feel weak. If you have not already, we strongly encourage you to seek out a spirit-filled counselor or pastor who can help you navigate this season with wisdom and discernment.
Let us pray over you now:
Heavenly Father, we lift up your beloved child to you, who is weary from the battles they’ve faced since childhood. Lord, you see the pain, the frustration, and the spiritual warfare raging against them. We ask you to surround them with your angels, encamping around them to deliver them (Psalm 34:7). Fill them with your Holy Spirit, that they may walk in forgiveness, love, and authority over every scheme of the enemy. Break the power of unforgiveness, bitterness, and offense in their heart, and replace it with your supernatural peace and joy.
Lord, we bind every demonic spirit assigned to torment them through their parents or any other means. We command confusion into the camp of the enemy—let their plans be thwarted, and let your will prevail. Deliver their parents from every stronghold of the mind, every emotional wound, and every demonic influence. Soften their hearts toward their child, and let your love flow through them in ways that bring healing, not harm.
Give this precious one wisdom to know how to respond, when to speak, and when to walk away. Strengthen them in their inner being, that they may not grow weary in well-doing (Galatians 6:9). Let them see this trial as an opportunity for you to display your power and glory in their life. Remind them that you are their Father, their Protector, and their Provider, and that no weapon formed against them shall prosper.
We declare that every curse is broken, every chain is loosed, and every lie of the enemy is exposed by the truth of your Word. Let your light shine in the darkness, and let your child walk in victory. We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who has already won the battle. Amen.
Stand firm, dear one. The Lord is with you, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6). Keep your eyes on Jesus, the author and finisher of your faith (Hebrews 12:2), and trust that He is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28). You are more than a conqueror through Christ (Romans 8:37), and this season will not define you—your identity is in Him. Keep praying, keep forgiving, and keep walking in the authority He has given you. We are standing with you in this fight.