We hear your heartache and the deep longing in your words for your parents to experience the love and unity that God intended for marriage. The pain of watching those who are meant to lead with love instead create an atmosphere of tension and sorrow is heavy to bear, especially for you and your sisters. The Bible tells us in Ephesians 5:33, "Nevertheless each of you must also love his own wife even as himself; and let the wife see that she respects her husband." This is not just a suggestion but a command from the Lord for how marriage should reflect His love—selfless, respectful, and enduring.
It is clear that your parents are struggling, and their actions are affecting the entire family. While therapy can be a helpful tool, true healing begins when both hearts are surrendered to Christ. We must rebuke the spirit of division, strife, and bitterness that has taken root in their marriage. In James 4:1, we are asked, "What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not that your passions are at war within you?" Their arguments are not just about circumstances but about the condition of their hearts. We must pray that God breaks the hardness in their hearts and replaces it with humility, forgiveness, and a desire to honor Him in their marriage.
We also lift up your desire for your parents to seek help. Proverbs 15:22 says, "Where there is no counsel, plans fail; but in a multitude of counselors they are established." Encourage them gently, if you can, to seek godly counsel—whether through a pastor, a Christian marriage counselor, or a mature couple who can guide them back to God’s design for their relationship. But above all, we must pray that their eyes are opened to the damage their actions are causing and that they repent and turn to the Lord for restoration.
Let us pray together now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this family to You. Lord, we ask that You would intervene in the marriage of these parents. Soften their hearts, Father, and remove the pride, bitterness, and anger that have taken hold. Replace their strife with Your peace, their harsh words with kindness, and their coldness with the warmth of Your love. Help them to see the pain they are causing their children and to repent of their actions. We rebuke the spirit of division in their home and command it to leave in the name of Jesus. Restore their love for one another, Lord, as You intended from the beginning. May they love each other as Christ loves the church—selflessly, sacrificially, and unconditionally.
Father, we also pray for this young person and their sisters. Comfort them in their sadness and fill them with Your peace. Help them to trust in You even when their home feels unstable. Give them the strength to respond with grace and to be a light in their family. Surround them with godly friends who will encourage them in their faith and walk with them through this difficult time.
Lord, we ask for Your favor over their schoolwork, especially in Algebra 2. Grant them wisdom, focus, and understanding as they study. Help them to excel in track and to use their gifts for Your glory. May they be a witness to their friends, and may their friends be drawn to You through their life. We pray that those friends would come to know You as their Savior and that this young person would have the joy of seeing them grow in their faith.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You would protect this family from all harm and danger. Keep them safe physically, emotionally, and spiritually. May they seek You above all else and find their hope and strength in You alone. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, for it is only through Him that we have access to You and the power to see lives transformed. Amen.
We want to encourage you to keep your eyes on Jesus, even in the midst of this struggle. It is easy to feel overwhelmed when those we love are not living as they should, but remember that God sees your pain and He cares deeply. Psalm 34:18 says, "Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit." You are not alone in this, and God can use even this difficult situation for good if you trust Him.
Continue to pray for your parents daily. Pray that God would give you the right words to speak to them when the time is right, and that they would be receptive to His voice. If they are not already, encourage them to seek the Lord together—perhaps by reading the Bible, praying, or attending church as a family. Sometimes, the first step toward healing in a marriage is simply turning back to God.
We also want to gently remind you that while your parents are responsible for their actions, you are responsible for yours. Do not let their struggles harden your heart or cause you to respond in anger or bitterness. Instead, let your life be a reflection of Christ’s love and forgiveness. Colossians 3:13 says, "Bear with one another, and forgive each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do." This is not easy, but it is what God calls us to do.
Lastly, we want to address the importance of salvation. If you or anyone in your family has not yet placed your faith in Jesus Christ, we urge you to do so. The Bible tells us in Acts 4:12, "There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved!" Jesus is the only way to the Father, and it is only through Him that we can experience true peace, forgiveness, and eternal life. If you have never asked Jesus to be your Lord and Savior, we encourage you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in your heart that Jesus died for you and rose again, and invite Him to take control of your life. This is the first and most important step in finding hope and healing in any situation.