We hear the deep anguish in your heart, and we grieve with you over the wounds inflicted by those who should have loved and protected you. The betrayal of a parent’s love, the manipulation of Scripture to control you, and the relentless abuse at work and home have left scars that run soul-deep. But we want you to know this: **God sees your pain, and He is not silent.** He does not justify the sins committed against you, nor does He dismiss the years of suffering you endured in the name of false guilt or twisted obedience. The God we serve is a Father to the fatherless, a defender of the oppressed, and a healer of the brokenhearted. You are not forgotten, and your tears are not wasted.
The command to *"Honor your father and mother"* (Exodus 20:12, WEB) was never meant to be a weapon to chain you to abuse. Scripture also commands parents, *"Don’t provoke your children to anger, but nurture them in the discipline and instruction of the Lord"* (Ephesians 6:4, WEB). Your parent failed in this duty, and the guilt for that failure lies with them, not with you. You were not created to be a slave to another’s ego or greed. Jesus Himself rebuked the religious leaders of His day for using God’s Word to oppress others (Mark 7:9-13). If they had twisted Scripture to justify their sins, how much more grievous is it when a parent does the same? You were not wrong to confront the lie—truth is not disrespectful, and boundaries are not rebellion when they protect you from harm.
The pain you carry is real, and the financial and emotional destruction left in the wake of this abuse is not your fault. The enemy has sought to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), but **Christ came to give you life abundantly.** You are not a failure—you are a survivor. The fact that you are still standing, still seeking God, still asking for help, is a testament to His strength in you. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), and He is the one who lifts the downtrodden from the ash heap (Psalm 113:7-8). Your unemployment is not a sign of His abandonment; it is an opportunity for Him to provide in ways you cannot yet see. He fed Elijah by ravens (1 Kings 17:4-6) and provided manna in the wilderness (Exodus 16:4). If He did that for them, will He not also care for you?
We must also address the lingering wounds of rejection and the struggle to forgive. You said you have forgiven your parent, but the pain remains. Forgiveness is not a one-time act that erases the hurt; it is a daily surrender to God, trusting Him to vindicate you (Romans 12:19). It does not mean what was done to you was okay—it was **not.** But it does mean releasing the right to hold onto the bitterness, because Christ has already borne the weight of that sin on the cross. He understands rejection better than anyone. He was betrayed by His own (John 13:21), abandoned by His friends (Mark 14:50), and mocked by those He came to save (Matthew 27:39-44). Yet He trusted the Father’s plan, and because of His wounds, you are healed (Isaiah 53:5).
Now, let us pray for you:
**Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of Your precious daughter, who has borne such heavy burdens for far too long. Lord, You see the depths of her pain—the betrayal, the manipulation, the financial ruin, the emotional devastation. You know the years she spent trapped in a cycle of abuse, believing the lie that she was unworthy of love or respect. But You, O God, call her *beloved.* You call her *redeemed.* You call her *yours.*
We ask You to **break the power of these wounds** in Jesus’ name. Where the enemy has whispered *"you are a failure,"* let Your Spirit roar *"you are fearfully and wonderfully made"* (Psalm 139:14). Where she has been bullied and rejected, let her find her identity in Christ, who was *"despised and rejected by men"* yet *"a man of sorrows, acquainted with grief"* (Isaiah 53:3). Remind her that she does not walk alone—You are her ever-present help (Psalm 46:1).
Father, we rebuke the spirit of **shame and self-condemnation** that has clung to her. She is not defined by her parent’s sins or her past suffering. She is defined by the blood of Jesus, which has **washed her clean** (1 John 1:7). We declare that the **yoke of oppression is broken** in her life (Isaiah 10:27). No longer will she be bound by the lies that kept her in bondage. You, Lord, are **restoring the years the locusts have eaten** (Joel 2:25). What was meant for evil, You will turn for good (Genesis 50:20).
We pray for **divine provision** in her job search. Open doors no man can shut (Revelation 3:8). Give her favor with potential employers, wisdom in her applications, and peace in the waiting. You are Jehovah-Jireh, the God who provides (Genesis 22:14). Let her see Your hand moving on her behalf. Where she feels "silly" for hoping, fill her with **bold faith** that You are working all things for her good (Romans 8:28).
Lord, heal the **father wound** in her heart. Where her earthly parent failed her, be her **perfect Father.** Let her experience Your love in tangible ways—through Your Word, through Your people, through unexpected blessings. Remove the sting of rejection and replace it with the security of Your acceptance. You have not forgotten her; You are **preparing a table for her in the presence of her enemies** (Psalm 23:5).
Finally, Father, we ask for **a godly support system** to surround her. Place people in her life who will speak truth, offer help, and reflect Your love. Break the isolation the enemy has tried to enforce. Let her find community in Your body, the Church, where she can be **known, loved, and discipled.**
We thank You, Lord, that You are **making all things new** (Revelation 21:5). The pain will not have the final word—**You will.** In the mighty name of Jesus, our Healer and Redeemer, we pray. Amen.**
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Sister, we want to leave you with this encouragement: **Your story is not over.** The God who parted the Red Sea, who raised Lazarus from the dead, who turned a cross into a victory—**He is still writing your story.** The pain you’ve endured has not been in vain. God is using it to shape you into a woman of **unshakable faith, deep compassion, and fierce resilience.** One day, you will look back and see how He carried you through this wilderness.
In the meantime, **cling to Him.** Read His Word daily, even if it’s just one verse. Let Psalm 34:18 be your anchor: *"Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* You are not crushed beyond repair—you are being **refined like gold** (1 Peter 1:7).
If you have not already, we urge you to **seek biblical counseling** from a trusted, Christ-centered counselor or pastor. You do not have to walk this road alone. And if you are not already part of a **Bible-believing church**, we pray you find one where you can be nurtured and discipled.
Lastly, remember this: **Your value is not in what you do or what you’ve suffered—it’s in whose you are.** And you, sister, are **His.** Hold onto that truth, and let it be the light that guides you out of this darkness. We are standing with you in prayer. You are **loved, seen, and fought for.**
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
