We hear the deep pain, anger, and betrayal in your words, and our hearts ache with you. The wound of broken trust—especially in what should have been a sacred covenant—cuts deeper than most others. The Bible tells us, *"The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). You are not alone in this grief, and your pain is seen by the One who heals all wounds.
First, we must address the weight of what has happened with clarity and truth. The relationship you describe was not a marriage as God designed it. Marriage is a holy union between one man and one woman, bound by covenant before God (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). What you experienced was not a God-honoring marriage, but a relationship marred by betrayal, unfaithfulness, and sin. The Bible is clear: *"Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral"* (Hebrews 13:4). The pain you feel is justified—this was not how love was meant to be.
We also must rebuke the bitterness and desire for vengeance in your words. Scripture warns, *"Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: ‘It is mine to avenge; I will repay,’ says the Lord"* (Romans 12:19). The anger you feel is understandable, but clinging to it will only poison your own heart. Instead, we must surrender this pain to God, trusting that He will bring justice in His perfect timing. *"Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, ‘Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord’"* (Romans 12:19).
We also notice that your words do not mention Jesus Christ, who is the only way to true healing and restoration. There is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Him that we can find peace in the midst of betrayal. If you have not yet placed your trust in Him, we urge you to consider His love for you—love so great that He died to free you from sin and brokenness. *"For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life"* (John 3:16). Salvation is found in no one else.
Now, we lift you up in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear one who has been deeply wounded by betrayal. Lord, You see the pain, the anger, and the shattered trust. We ask that You would draw near to them in this moment, comforting them with Your presence. Heal the wounds that have been inflicted, and replace bitterness with Your peace. Father, we pray that You would guard their heart from the poison of vengeance and help them to release this burden into Your hands. You are the God of justice, and we trust that You will bring about what is right in Your perfect timing.
Lord, we ask that You would reveal Yourself to them in a powerful way. If they do not yet know You as Savior, we pray that they would come to understand the depth of Your love and the sacrifice of Jesus Christ on the cross. Soften their heart to receive Your grace and mercy. For those who already know You, we ask that You would renew their faith and remind them of Your faithfulness. Help them to forgive, not because what was done was right, but because You have forgiven them of so much more.
Father, we also pray for the one who caused this pain. We ask that You would convict their heart of sin and lead them to repentance. Break the cycle of hurt and unfaithfulness in their life, and turn their heart toward You. May they come to know the weight of their actions and seek Your forgiveness.
Lord, we declare that this season of pain will not define them. Instead, we ask that You would use it to draw them closer to You and to prepare them for the future You have planned. Whether that future includes a godly marriage or a life of singleness devoted to You, we pray that they would walk in Your will and experience the fullness of Your joy.
We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the One who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Amen.
In the days ahead, we encourage you to immerse yourself in God’s Word. Meditate on Psalm 34, which reminds us that the Lord is close to the brokenhearted. Spend time in prayer, not just asking God for healing, but also listening for His voice. Consider finding a trusted Christian community where you can be supported and encouraged. The journey to healing is not easy, but it is possible with God by your side.
Remember, *"The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and he helps me. My heart leaps for joy, and with my song I praise him"* (Psalm 28:7). You are not defined by this betrayal. You are defined by the love of Christ, who gave Himself for you. Hold fast to Him, and He will lead you into a future filled with hope.