We are deeply grieved to hear about the struggles your niece is facing, and we stand with you in lifting her before the throne of grace. The situation you’ve described is one that breaks the heart of God, for He created each of us in His image, with dignity, purpose, and a call to holy living. The relationship your niece is entangled in is not only toxic but is also contrary to God’s design for human relationships, as outlined in Scripture.
The Bible is clear that same-sex relationships are not part of God’s plan for His children. In Romans 1:26-27, it says, *"For this reason, God gave them up to vile passions. For their women changed the natural function into that which is against nature. Likewise also the men, leaving the natural function of the woman, burned in their lust toward one another, men doing what is inappropriate with men, and receiving in themselves the due penalty of their error."* This is not a condemnation of your niece as a person, for she is deeply loved by God, but rather a recognition that this path is harmful to her spirit, soul, and body. We must also address the reality that this relationship is sinful, and sin—no matter how it may feel in the moment—always leads to bondage, not freedom.
We rebuke the lies of the enemy that have convinced your niece that this relationship is acceptable or that it defines her worth. The truth is that her identity is found in Christ alone. Ephesians 2:10 tells us, *"For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared before that we would walk in them."* She is not defined by her struggles, her past, or the choices she has made. She is a beloved daughter of the Most High God, called to walk in purity, holiness, and the freedom that only Jesus can provide.
We also recognize the toxicity of this relationship, which is often a hallmark of sin—it promises love but delivers pain, it promises acceptance but brings isolation, and it promises fulfillment but leaves emptiness. Proverbs 13:20 warns, *"He who walks with wise men grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm."* This roommate is not a safe or godly companion for your niece, and we must pray fervently for God to break the ties that bind her to this person.
Let us come before the Lord together in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this precious young woman who is Your daughter. Lord, we ask that You would break through the darkness in her life and reveal Yourself to her in a powerful and undeniable way. Father, we pray that You would open her eyes to see the truth of who she is in You—that she is fearfully and wonderfully made, created for Your glory, and deeply loved by You. We ask that You would shatter the lies of the enemy that have convinced her that this relationship is anything other than sin and bondage.
Lord, we pray for a complete transformation of her heart. Soften it, Father, and help her to see herself as You see her. Give her the courage to turn away from this toxic and sinful relationship, and grant her the strength to walk away, no matter how difficult it may be. We ask that You would make a way of escape for her, Lord, and that You would remove her from this situation safely and swiftly. Protect her, Father, from any harm or retaliation, and surround her with Your angels to guard and guide her.
We rebuke the spirit of deception that has blinded her to the truth, and we command it to leave her life in the mighty name of Jesus. We declare that she is no longer a slave to sin but a child of God, set free by the blood of Jesus. Father, we pray that You would bring godly influences into her life—believers who will speak truth, love, and encouragement into her heart. Surround her with people who will point her to You and help her walk in the freedom and purpose You have for her.
Lord, we also pray for her roommate. We ask that You would soften her heart as well, Father, and that she would come to know You as her Savior. If there is any hope for redemption in this situation, we ask that You would work powerfully in both of their lives. But above all, we pray that Your will would be done, and that Your name would be glorified.
We ask all of this in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we can be saved and the only name by which we have access to You. It is through His blood that we are forgiven, through His resurrection that we have new life, and through His Spirit that we are empowered to walk in holiness. We declare that Your grace is sufficient for her, Lord, and that Your power is made perfect in her weakness. May she find her strength in You alone.
We trust You, Father, to move mightily in this situation. We believe that You are able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to Your power that is at work within us. We thank You for hearing our prayer, and we trust that You are already at work in her life. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.
To your niece, if she were to hear these words, we would say this: You are so deeply loved by God, and He has a plan for your life that is greater than anything you could ever imagine. The path you are on right now is not leading you to freedom or fulfillment—it is leading you away from the abundant life that Jesus died to give you. But the good news is that it is never too late to turn back. Jesus is waiting for you with open arms, ready to forgive you, restore you, and set you free. You do not have to stay in this place of bondage. Cry out to Him, and He will hear you. He loves you more than you could ever know, and He wants to give you a new heart, a new life, and a new future.
To you, as her family, we encourage you to continue praying for her, to speak truth in love, and to be a consistent example of Christ’s love in her life. Galatians 6:1-2 reminds us, *"Brothers, even if a man is caught in some fault, you who are spiritual must restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness; looking to yourself so that you also aren’t tempted. Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ."* Your role in her life is invaluable, and your prayers are powerful. Do not grow weary in doing good, for in due season, you will reap if you do not give up (Galatians 6:9).
Lastly, we want to address the importance of the name of Jesus in our prayers and lives. There is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). It is only through faith in Jesus Christ that we have access to God the Father, and it is only by His blood that we are forgiven and made new. If your niece does not yet have a personal relationship with Jesus, we pray that she would come to know Him as her Lord and Savior. The message of the Gospel is simple: *"For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life"* (John 3:16). This is the hope we cling to, and this is the hope we offer to her. May she come to know the love of Christ, which surpasses all understanding, and may she be filled with the fullness of God.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
