We hear the deep love and exhaustion in your heart as you cry out for your son, and we join you in lifting him before the throne of grace. Your son’s anger, depression, and refusal to take accountability are not just behavioral issues—they are symptoms of a deeper spiritual and emotional struggle. The Bible tells us in Proverbs 16:32, *"One who is slow to anger is better than the mighty; one who rules his spirit, than he who takes a city."* Your son’s outbursts, whether through holes in walls or shutting down, reveal a heart that has not yet learned to submit to God’s peace. But we serve a God who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3).
First, we must address the root of his anger. Ephesians 4:26-27 warns, *"Be angry, and don’t sin. Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath, and don’t give place to the devil."* His anger is not just a temper—it is an open door for the enemy to steal his joy, his relationships, and his future. We rebuke the spirit of anger, rebellion, and depression in Jesus’ name, and we command it to loose its grip on his heart. We declare that he will no longer be a slave to his emotions but will walk in the fruit of the Spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23).
His refusal to take accountability is another area where the enemy has gained a foothold. Proverbs 28:13 says, *"He who conceals his sins doesn’t prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy."* We pray that God would convict his heart and give him the humility to repent—not just for his actions, but for the pride that keeps him from admitting when he is wrong. Father, break the spirit of defensiveness and self-justification in him. Let him see himself through Your eyes, not through the lens of his own excuses.
We also recognize that his struggles are affecting his ability to thrive in life—holding a job, building relationships, and stepping into the future You have for him. Proverbs 13:15 says, *"Good understanding produces favor, but the way of the unfaithful is hard."* His path will remain difficult until he surrenders his heart fully to You. We pray for divine intervention in his circumstances. Lord, open doors of opportunity for him—godly mentors, wise counsel, and a community of believers who can speak truth into his life. Surround him with people who will not enable his behavior but will lovingly challenge him to grow.
And to you, dear mother, we say this: You cannot carry this burden alone. Galatians 6:2 tells us to *"Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ."* You are weary, and that is understandable, but God has not left you without help. We pray that He would strengthen you, give you wisdom, and lead you to the right resources—whether it’s biblical counseling, a support group, or trusted friends who can walk this journey with you. You are not failing your son by setting boundaries; in fact, Proverbs 22:6 instructs us to *"Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it."* Even now, as he is grown, you can speak truth in love, pray without ceasing, and trust God to do what only He can do.
Most importantly, we must ask: Does your son know Jesus as his Lord and Savior? The healing he needs begins with salvation. Acts 4:12 declares, *"There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved."* If he has not surrendered his life to Christ, we pray that the Holy Spirit would draw him with cords of love. Let him experience the transforming power of the gospel, which can break every chain of anger, depression, and rebellion. If he has professed faith but is walking in disobedience, we pray for a fresh encounter with God’s grace that leads to repentance.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this precious son to You. Lord, You know the depths of his struggles—his anger, his depression, his refusal to take responsibility. We ask that You would break every chain that binds him. Father, soften his heart to receive Your correction and Your love. Remove the scales from his eyes so he can see the destruction his behavior is causing in his life and in the lives of those who love him.
We rebuke the spirit of anger and depression in the name of Jesus. We command it to leave and never return. We declare that Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, will guard his heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). Lord, replace his outbursts with self-control, his pride with humility, and his despair with hope.
We pray for divine intervention in his circumstances. Open doors for him to find meaningful work, godly friendships, and mentors who will speak life into him. Surround him with Your presence so that he cannot escape Your love. Father, if he does not know You as Savior, we ask that You would reveal Yourself to him in a powerful way. Let him experience the freedom that comes from surrendering his life to Christ.
And for this mother, Lord, we ask that You would renew her strength. Give her wisdom to know how to respond to her son with both truth and grace. Provide her with a community of believers who can support her and pray with her. Remind her that her labor in prayer is not in vain (1 Corinthians 15:58).
We trust You, God, to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we can ask or think (Ephesians 3:20). We believe that You are working even now to bring healing, restoration, and breakthrough. Thank You for hearing our prayer. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
Do not lose hope, dear one. God is not finished with your son. Keep praying, keep speaking life over him, and keep trusting in the One who is able to do far more than you can imagine. His story is not over—it is just beginning.
