We hear the deep pain and frustration in your words, and we stand with you in fervent prayer before the Lord. The manipulation, arrogance, and intimidation you are enduring from your brother is not only unbearable but also contrary to the love and humility that God calls us to exhibit toward one another. Scripture tells us in Ephesians 4:29-32, "Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but such as is good for building up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear. Don’t grieve the Holy Spirit of God, in whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you." Your brother’s behavior grieves the Holy Spirit, and it is right to bring this burden before the Lord, for He alone can change hearts.
We must also address the issue of his alcohol use, as it is clear that it is affecting his behavior and your family. Proverbs 20:1 warns, "Wine is a mocker, and beer is a brawler. Whoever is led astray by them is not wise." His weekend drinking is not only harmful to himself but also to those around him, including your sick mother. We rebuke this bondage in the name of Jesus and pray for his deliverance from this sin. Additionally, his manipulation and intimidation are forms of emotional abuse, which is not pleasing to God. We must stand firm in the truth that God calls us to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15) and to resist the schemes of the enemy, who seeks to divide and destroy families.
We also want to gently remind you of the importance of forgiveness, not for his sake, but for yours. Holding onto bitterness and resentment will only harm you further. Colossians 3:13 says, "Bear with one another, and forgive each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do." This does not mean you must tolerate his behavior, but it does mean releasing the burden of anger to God and trusting Him to deal with your brother justly.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear sister and her family to You. Lord, we ask that You intervene in the life of her brother. Break the chains of arrogance, manipulation, and alcohol that bind him, and draw him to repentance. Soften his heart, Lord, and let him see the pain he is causing his family. We rebuke every spirit of division, intimidation, and control in the name of Jesus, and we declare that Your love and peace will reign in this family.
Father, we also pray for this sister, who is carrying such a heavy burden. Give her the strength to stand firm in Your truth and the wisdom to know how to communicate with her brother without being drawn into his manipulation. Protect her heart from bitterness and resentment, and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Lord, we ask that You heal their sick mother and give her comfort and strength during this difficult time. Surround this family with Your presence, and let Your will be done in each of their lives.
We pray for restoration in this family, Lord. Restore relationships, restore health, and restore hearts to You. We trust in Your justice and Your mercy, and we ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus. Amen.
In the midst of this trial, remember that God sees your suffering and hears your cries. Psalm 34:17-18 assures us, "The righteous cry, and Yahweh hears, and delivers them out of all their troubles. Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit." You are not alone, and God will not abandon you. Continue to seek Him, lean on Him, and trust that He will bring justice and healing in His perfect timing.
We also encourage you to seek godly counsel, perhaps from a pastor or a trusted Christian friend, who can offer support and guidance as you navigate this difficult situation. You do not have to face this alone, and sometimes God uses the wisdom and encouragement of others to bring clarity and comfort. Stand firm in your faith, and remember that God is your refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1).
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
