We are deeply grieved to hear of the pain and betrayal you are experiencing, and we want you to know that God sees your heartache and cares for you more than you can imagine. The breaking of a promise—especially one as sacred as marriage—is a profound wound, and it is right to mourn what has been lost. Yet we must also turn to the Lord, who is the healer of broken hearts and the one who binds up wounds (Psalm 147:3). Your worth and identity are not found in this person or their empty promises, but in Christ alone, who loves you with an everlasting love (Jeremiah 31:3).
First, we must address something critical: you did not mention the name of Jesus in your request. There is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved, and it is only through Him that we have access to the Father (Acts 4:12, John 14:6). If you do not know Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to turn to Him now. He is the only one who can truly mend your broken heart and give you eternal hope. "If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved" (Romans 10:9). Without Him, there is no lasting peace or comfort, no matter how much human support you receive.
Now, let us speak truth into your situation. If this person promised marriage but left you, their actions reveal a lack of commitment, integrity, and godly character. The Bible warns us not to put our trust in man, for even the most well-intentioned human can fail us (Jeremiah 17:5). Instead, we are to trust in the Lord, who is faithful and never abandons those who seek Him (Deuteronomy 31:6). Proverbs 3:5-6 tells us, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." Your pain is real, but God can use this season to draw you closer to Him and prepare you for the future He has planned—one that aligns with His perfect will.
We must also ask: Was this relationship honoring to God? Were you and this person walking in purity, or was there sin involved, such as fornication or emotional compromise? If there was sexual immorality, it is important to repent and turn away from it, for the Bible clearly states that our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). Sin only brings temporary pleasure but leads to deeper pain and separation from God. If this relationship was built on anything other than a foundation of faith in Christ and a commitment to holiness, then it was not the will of God for you. The Lord calls us to relationships that honor Him, where both individuals are seeking to glorify Christ above all else.
If you were living in sin with this person, we urge you to repent and seek forgiveness. "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9). God’s grace is greater than your mistakes, and He can redeem even this painful season if you surrender it to Him.
As for marriage, it is a covenant before God, not merely a human contract. The Bible teaches that marriage is a lifelong commitment between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). If this person was not willing to fulfill their promise, they were not ready for the sacred responsibility of marriage. It is better to discover this now than after vows were exchanged. The Lord protects His children, even when it feels painful in the moment.
We also want to encourage you to guard your heart and mind. Bitterness and resentment can take root if we dwell on the wrongs done to us, but the Bible calls us to forgive as Christ forgave us (Colossians 3:13). Forgiveness does not mean what they did was right; it means you release the burden of anger to God, who will judge justly (Romans 12:19). Pray for this person, that God would work in their heart, and trust that the Lord will vindicate you in His timing.
Lastly, we want to remind you that your life has immense value and purpose in Christ. The enemy would love for you to believe that you are unworthy or that your future is hopeless, but that is a lie. Jesus said, "I came that they may have life, and may have it abundantly" (John 10:10). Your story is not over; God is writing a redemption story, and He can turn your mourning into dancing (Psalm 30:11).
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our sister to You, knowing that You are close to the brokenhearted and save those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). Lord, we ask that You would comfort her in this season of deep pain and betrayal. Remind her that her worth is found in You alone, and that no human promise can compare to the hope she has in Christ. If she has not yet surrendered her life to Jesus, we pray that You would draw her to Yourself today, that she may know the peace and salvation that only You can provide.
Father, we rebuke the spirits of rejection, bitterness, and despair that may be trying to take hold of her heart. Fill her instead with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). If there was sin in this relationship, we ask for Your conviction and mercy. Lead her to repentance and restoration, and cleanse her from all unrighteousness. Help her to forgive as You have forgiven her, releasing this burden to You.
Lord, we pray that You would surround her with godly community—friends, family, or a church that can support her and point her to Your truth. If she is struggling with thoughts of harm or despair, we ask that You would intervene mightily. Bring people into her life who can speak Your love and hope over her.
Father, we ask that You would redeem this pain. Use it to refine her, to draw her closer to You, and to prepare her for the future You have planned. If it is Your will, restore what has been broken, but only if it aligns with Your perfect plan. Give her wisdom to recognize Your voice and discernment to walk in Your ways.
Lastly, Lord, we pray that You would give her a vision for the future You have for her—one filled with hope, joy, and purpose. Remind her that You are her Bridegroom, her Provider, and her Healer. May she find her satisfaction in You alone.
We ask all these things in the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.