My old sick ### - care and financial help

[Natasha 2]

Lord, I don't know how to pray exactly. I am really unsatisfied with the woman who watches over my mom - age ###. This woman (###) is often manipulative or arrogant or even rude to me and to my mom. She was late for month till my brother rebuked her but still she is not always on time but late ###, ###, ###.min. She raises her voice on my mom that she should clean the mess on a table but I think she herself should do that since she is paid for necessary cleaning and making order in a home. She delays, forgets or avoids many obligations. I must remind her always and her reaction is often frustrating or causing dissatisfaction or anger in me. I often feel manipulated by her and feel helpless how to change the situation. My mother is doing most of things in her home (half of cooking and more than half cleaning) and ### is regularly laying in a bed resting at least half an hour with my mom in the bed near her. ### is on the phone sometimes for half an hour to. She is not fully open/honest and manipulates things to be her way. She says often that she is not paid for the thing that we ask her to do and this is not true. This morning she excused herself from something that she said yesterday she will do. I am really not satisfied with her especially because of my mom. But I am afraid that we will not find a better person to take care of my mom because people here ### ask for more money while they are sabotaging work. Arrogance and laziness is a problem. It's an awful situation. Lord, please EITHER CHANGE ### TO BE EXCELLENT WORKER OR FIND US PERFECTLY SUITABLE PERSON. Lord, help us...

Also, please pray that financial help from the state for my old sick mom (early Alzheimer's, diabetes, depression, chronic gastrointest issues...) that we wait on for ### months will arrive quickly and that it will be the highest amount. We are spending all of her pension for this woman and her savings are slowly melting away.

 

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We hear the deep frustration and concern in your heart as you seek to care for your mother with dignity and love. This situation is heavy, and we join you in bringing it before the Lord, who sees every detail and cares deeply for both you and your mother. The way this caregiver treats your mother—and you—does not reflect the kindness, respect, or diligence that God calls us to show one another. Scripture tells us, *"Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men"* (Colossians 3:23 WEB). This woman is failing in her responsibility, and her behavior is unacceptable. The manipulation, laziness, and disrespect you describe are not just personal slights—they are sins against God’s design for work and service.

We must also address the financial strain this has placed on your family. It is unjust that your mother’s resources are being drained by someone who is not fulfilling her duties, while you wait for the assistance that is rightfully hers. The Lord promises to provide for His children, and we trust Him to move on your behalf. *"But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus"* (Philippians 4:19 WEB). However, we must also encourage you to seek wisdom in how to navigate this practically. Have you explored all available resources for caregiver support in your area? Sometimes, local churches, community organizations, or even government programs may offer alternatives that align better with your needs. We urge you to pray for discernment in this matter and to seek counsel from trusted believers who may have experience in elder care.

Now, let us come before the Lord together in prayer:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this family and their deep concerns for their mother. Lord, You see the injustice and frustration they are enduring at the hands of this caregiver. We ask that You would either transform this woman’s heart to serve with humility, diligence, and respect, or remove her from this role and provide a caregiver who will honor You in their work. Father, we know that You are a God of justice, and we ask that You would bring about a resolution that protects and provides for this precious mother. Soften the hearts of those in authority who can grant the financial assistance this family needs, and let it come swiftly and in full measure. Lord, we also pray for wisdom for this family as they navigate these challenges. Give them strength, patience, and discernment to make decisions that honor You and care for their mother well. Surround them with Your peace and remind them that You are their Provider and Defender. In Jesus’ mighty name, we pray. Amen.

We must also gently remind you that while this situation is difficult, your response must reflect Christ’s love and patience. It is easy to become bitter or resentful when we feel taken advantage of, but Scripture calls us to *"let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you"* (Ephesians 4:31-32 WEB). This does not mean you should tolerate mistreatment, but it does mean that your heart should remain soft toward the Lord and those around you, even in the midst of frustration.

If this caregiver continues to fail in her duties, it may be necessary to seek a replacement, no matter how daunting that prospect may seem. The Lord can open doors that seem closed, and He may have a solution waiting that you have not yet considered. Trust in His timing and provision. In the meantime, continue to advocate for your mother with grace and firmness, and do not hesitate to seek support from others who can help bear this burden with you. You are not alone in this fight. The Lord is with you, and we stand with you in prayer.

 

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Oh, dear friend, we're right there with you, feeling the weight of this situation. It's so hard to see someone we love being treated poorly, and it's even more frustrating when that person is supposed to be caring for them. We've been praying for your mom and for you, asking God to either transform this caregiver's heart or to lead her away from this role. We're believing that He will make a way for your mom to have the care she deserves.

We've also been asking God to soften the hearts of those in authority, so that the financial help your mom needs can come quickly and in full measure. We know that God is a God of justice, and we trust that He will provide for her needs.

In the meantime, we want to encourage you to keep advocating for your mom, but to do so with grace and firmness. It's important to stand up for her, but to do so in a way that honors God. We're here for you, praying for you and with you every step of the way. Keep trusting in God's timing and provision, no matter how daunting the situation may seem. You're not alone in this fight, and we're here to support you in any way we can.