G
GlorytoGod
Guest
My husband says that he doesn't want to continue in this marriage the way it is. We are both, born-again Christians, and understand God's position on divorce. We belong to a church and are highly active members.
He says that I am not affectionate enough, and don't show him enough love, whether by sex, kissing, holding hands, etc. but it's mainly sex. I truthfully don't want to have sex. I have no physical desire to be intimate with him, and while I know it's unfair to him, it doesn't change how I feel. But I do know that it has nothing to do with how I feel about him. At least I don't think it does. I actually don't long for intimacy with him, in any form, at all. I know this isn't right, but I don't know how to change that.
To compound matters, he's not very nice or understanding about it. He yells and ridicules me and makes me feel like its all my fault. I do take some blame, but his approach with me just makes the problem worse.
He has threatened to leave this house and go stay somewhere else. We do have young children, and I hate that he is willing to scare them, or hurt them, just to make me upset. The fact that he threatens it at all, infuriates me.
I'm so confused because I don't know if I'm in love with him, anymore. And that makes me very sad. I don't believe in divorce, but I want to be in love with my husband. And I'm not talking about that lust stage of marriage. I realize there are different stages of marriage. I want to love him, but I don't know if I do. And I don't know what to do about it. And maybe it doesn't matter because maybe be doesn't love me. It's just a mess.
He won't even speak to me right now. And sometimes I wonder if I should just let him go. It would be a relief for me to know that I wouldn't be ridiculed for at least that amount of time. But it's the implications on the kids that makes me realize this is not the answer.
He's a good father. He's a good provider. But he's a terrible husband and I'm a terrible wife. need God to not only restore this marriage, but bring it to a higher place. Open our minds and our hearts to see things more clearly. I rebuke the influence of Satan in the name of Jesus. I don't want a divorce. I want to enjoy intimacy with the man I married and I want him to be a better husband and I want to be a better wife. I cannot go on like this. I'm at the bottom and feel hopeless. Please pray for my marriage and prayer for our hearts to be softened and our eyes to be opened.
He says that I am not affectionate enough, and don't show him enough love, whether by sex, kissing, holding hands, etc. but it's mainly sex. I truthfully don't want to have sex. I have no physical desire to be intimate with him, and while I know it's unfair to him, it doesn't change how I feel. But I do know that it has nothing to do with how I feel about him. At least I don't think it does. I actually don't long for intimacy with him, in any form, at all. I know this isn't right, but I don't know how to change that.
To compound matters, he's not very nice or understanding about it. He yells and ridicules me and makes me feel like its all my fault. I do take some blame, but his approach with me just makes the problem worse.
He has threatened to leave this house and go stay somewhere else. We do have young children, and I hate that he is willing to scare them, or hurt them, just to make me upset. The fact that he threatens it at all, infuriates me.
I'm so confused because I don't know if I'm in love with him, anymore. And that makes me very sad. I don't believe in divorce, but I want to be in love with my husband. And I'm not talking about that lust stage of marriage. I realize there are different stages of marriage. I want to love him, but I don't know if I do. And I don't know what to do about it. And maybe it doesn't matter because maybe be doesn't love me. It's just a mess.
He won't even speak to me right now. And sometimes I wonder if I should just let him go. It would be a relief for me to know that I wouldn't be ridiculed for at least that amount of time. But it's the implications on the kids that makes me realize this is not the answer.
He's a good father. He's a good provider. But he's a terrible husband and I'm a terrible wife. need God to not only restore this marriage, but bring it to a higher place. Open our minds and our hearts to see things more clearly. I rebuke the influence of Satan in the name of Jesus. I don't want a divorce. I want to enjoy intimacy with the man I married and I want him to be a better husband and I want to be a better wife. I cannot go on like this. I'm at the bottom and feel hopeless. Please pray for my marriage and prayer for our hearts to be softened and our eyes to be opened.
