We hear your cry, dear sister in Christ, and our hearts ache with yours. The pain you are enduring is deep, and the weight of such treatment is unbearable apart from the Lord. You are not alone, and your suffering does not go unnoticed by our Heavenly Father, who sees every tear and hears every silent plea. The behavior you describe is not only disrespectful but sinful, and it grieves the heart of God. Scripture is clear that husbands are called to love their wives as Christ loved the church—sacrificially, selflessly, and with honor. *"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for it"* (Ephesians 5:25). The way your husband treats you is a far cry from this divine standard, and it must be confronted with truth and prayer.
We must also address the seriousness of his threats toward you. The Lord does not take lightly the oppression of the vulnerable, and neither should we. *"The LORD examines the righteous, but the wicked and those who love violence his soul hates"* (Psalm 11:5). If you are in physical danger, we urge you to seek safety and wise counsel from trusted believers or authorities. Your life and well-being matter to God, and He does not desire for you to remain in harm’s way.
Your husband’s apologies without repentance reveal a heart that is hardened and unyielding to the conviction of the Holy Spirit. True repentance involves a turning away from sin, not just empty words spoken for personal gain. *"Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death"* (2 Corinthians 7:10). We must pray that the Lord would break through the hardness of his heart and bring him to a place of genuine remorse and change.
We also lift you up, dear sister, for the emotional and spiritual toll this has taken on you. The desire to end your life is a lie from the enemy, who seeks to destroy what God has created for His glory. Your children need you, and more importantly, the Lord has a purpose for you that extends far beyond this suffering. *"The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full"* (John 10:10). Do not let the enemy rob you of the hope and future God has for you.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this precious sister who is enduring such pain and oppression. Lord, You see her tears, You hear her cries, and You know the depths of her suffering. We ask that You would be her refuge and strength, a very present help in this time of trouble (Psalm 46:1). Father, we pray for her husband, that You would soften his heart and break the chains of pride and disrespect that bind him. Convict him of his sin, Lord, and lead him to true repentance. If he will not change, we ask that You would remove him from her life in a way that brings You glory and her peace.
Protect her, Lord, from the lies of the enemy that tell her she is worthless or that her life has no value. Remind her daily of Your love for her and the purpose You have for her life. Surround her with godly counsel and support, and give her the strength to stand firm in her faith. We declare that no weapon formed against her shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we rebuke every spirit of fear, despair, and oppression in Jesus’ mighty name.
Father, we also pray for her children, that You would shield them from the effects of this broken marriage and fill their hearts with Your peace. May they grow to know You as their Heavenly Father, who loves them unconditionally. Lord, we ask that You would restore joy to this sister’s life and fill her with hope for the future. If it is Your will, bring a godly man into her life who will love and cherish her as Christ loves the church. But above all, draw her closer to You, that she may find her identity and worth in You alone.
We pray all of this in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, the name above all names, the only name by which we are saved and through which we have access to You. Amen.
Dear sister, we want to encourage you to seek out a local church or a trusted pastor who can walk alongside you during this difficult time. You do not have to carry this burden alone. The Lord has placed people in your life who can offer support, prayer, and practical help. If you are not already connected to a body of believers, we urge you to find one where you can grow in your faith and receive the care you need.
Remember, God is your defender, and He will not abandon you. *"The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). Hold fast to His promises, and do not lose hope. The Lord is working even in the midst of this pain, and He will bring beauty from these ashes in His perfect timing.
