Dhitlor

Servant of All
Please pray for me as I have been trying to be more forgiving and have been doing better but my mother just did something to me which I think set me backward a little bit. I have no contact with her family due to them abusing me my entire life and doing a number of harmful and even physically endangering things to me once I cut off contact with them in adulthood. My mother is still in contact with them. I have always made it very clear to my mother and others in my life like my sister who are still in contact with them that I don't care if they remain in contact with my mother's family. I just asked that my boundaries be respected. But my mother is constantly literally trying to shove her family back in my life in any way possible which honestly makes me want to interact with her family even less because I do not like feeling forced to do things especially in situations like the problems I have experienced with her family. Just now, she told me that she needed to go make phone calls and of course (even though I didn't ask) emphasized that these phone calls were to her family. She said she was going to come upstairs where I have been doing schoolwork all day. I told her that I have to do my schoolwork upstairs as I have an assignment I am late submitting which I need to finish tonight (I said this calmly). She started getting angry and aggressive with me saying that she needs to call her family and basically acting like I'm trying to stop her from doing so and she was saying that she's going to have to just make the calls downstairs. This is not the first time she or others like my sister who are in contact with my mother's family have acted as if I'm trying to make them stop interacting with my mother's family - I literally have never done this ever. I have been trying to forgive my mother's family and not hold on to any anger I have toward them. I have even come to believe that a lot of their actions toward me were due to demons and Satan using them to keep me bound in unforgiving patterns. I do not know if God will ever put any of them back in my life and I am trying to even let go of thoughts about firmly not wanting Him to do so because I want to be obedient to whatever His plans for me are. But when my mom started doing this, it made me so angry and she brought back all those same feelings of anger, hatred, resentment and bitterness. I know I should have stayed quiet but I even told her that nobody cares if she calls her family. I believe my mother has severe undiagnosed borderline personality disorder. She has always, all my life, had deep mental and emotional issues and I also believe she is demonized. She says she is a Christian. Her behavior is often unstable, narcissistic and even abusive.
 
We understand the deep pain and frustration you are experiencing, and we want to lift you up in prayer while also speaking truth into this situation. The struggle to forgive, especially when boundaries are repeatedly disrespected, is a heavy burden, but we serve a God who is faithful to heal and restore even the deepest wounds. Your desire to forgive and release bitterness is commendable, as it reflects the heart of Christ, who forgave even those who crucified Him. Yet, forgiveness does not mean allowing others to continually violate the boundaries God has given you the wisdom to set. The Bible calls us to forgive, but it also calls us to wisdom, discernment, and even separation when necessary for our spiritual and emotional well-being.

The apostle Paul teaches us in **Ephesians 4:26-27**, *"Be angry, and don’t sin. Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath, and don’t give place to the devil."* Your anger is valid, but we must not let it become a foothold for the enemy. Instead, we are to bring it to God, who is just and righteous. **Psalm 37:8-9** reminds us, *"Cease from anger, and forsake wrath. Don’t fret, it leads only to evildoing. For evildoers shall be cut off, but those who wait for Yahweh shall inherit the land."* Your mother’s actions—and the actions of her family—are not your responsibility to fix. You are responsible for your own heart before God, and He sees your efforts to honor Him even in this difficult situation.

Your mother’s behavior, as you described, aligns with the works of the flesh rather than the fruit of the Spirit. **Galatians 5:19-21** lists *"hostility, strife, jealousies, outbursts of anger, rivalries, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these,"* warning that *"those who practice such things will not inherit God’s Kingdom."* While we cannot diagnose her, it is clear that her actions are not reflecting the love, patience, or self-control that come from the Holy Spirit. If she is indeed a believer, we must pray for her repentance and deliverance, for *"if we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us"* (**1 John 1:8**). True faith produces fruit (**James 2:17**), and if her life is marked by instability, narcissism, and abuse, these are areas where the enemy may have a stronghold. We must pray for her salvation if it is not genuine, or her sanctification if it is, that God would break these chains in her life.

As for your boundaries, they are not only wise but biblical. **Proverbs 22:3** says, *"A prudent man sees danger and hides himself; but the simple pass on, and suffer for it."* You have every right—and responsibility—to protect yourself from harm, especially when those harming you show no repentance. Jesus Himself set boundaries, even with His own family when they sought to interfere with His ministry (**Mark 3:31-35**). Your request for respect is not unreasonable; it is godly. The fact that your mother and others accuse you of trying to control them is a manipulation tactic, not a reflection of truth. You have made it clear that you are not trying to dictate their relationships, only asking that they not force those relationships upon you. This is fair, and their refusal to respect it reveals their own selfishness.

We also want to address the spiritual aspect of this battle. You mentioned believing that demons have used your mother’s family to keep you bound in unforgiveness. This is a real and serious possibility. **Ephesians 6:12** reminds us that *"we don’t wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the world’s rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places."* If your mother is demonized or under spiritual oppression, her actions are not entirely her own, but that does not excuse the sin. We must pray for her deliverance while also standing firm in our own spiritual authority as believers. **James 4:7** commands us, *"Be subject therefore to God. But resist the devil, and he will flee from you."* You have the power, in Christ, to resist these spiritual attacks and to walk in freedom from bitterness.

Now, let us pray for you:

Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister, who is weary from the battles she has faced within her own family. Lord, You see the pain, the betrayal, and the repeated disrespect she has endured. You know the depth of her wounds, and You alone can heal them. We ask that You would pour out Your comfort upon her, wrapping her in Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Remind her that she is not defined by the actions of others, but by Your love for her—a love so great that You sent Your Son to die for her sins.

Lord, we pray for her mother. If she is truly Your child, convict her of her sin and bring her to repentance. Break the chains of narcissism, instability, and abuse in her life. If she is not truly saved, we pray that You would open her eyes to her need for Jesus, that she might turn from her sin and surrender to You. Bind any demonic influence in her life and in the lives of the family members who have harmed our sister. Let no weapon formed against her prosper, and let every tongue that rises against her in judgment be condemned (**Isaiah 54:17**).

Father, we ask for supernatural strength for our sister to forgive, not in her own power, but through Your Spirit working in her. Help her to release this anger and bitterness at Your feet, trusting You to be her vindicator. Give her wisdom in setting and maintaining boundaries, and surround her with godly support—people who will uphold her in prayer and encourage her in truth.

We rebuke the spirit of manipulation, control, and division that has operated in this family. We declare that our sister is free from the enemy’s attempts to keep her bound in unforgiveness or fear. Let her heart be guarded by Your peace, and let her mind be renewed by Your Word. Help her to focus on her schoolwork and the purposes You have for her, undistracted by the chaos around her.

Finally, Lord, we ask that You would make a way for reconciliation—*if* it is Your will and *if* it can be done in a way that honors You and protects our sister’s heart. But if not, give her the grace to walk away in peace, knowing that You are her Father and her Protector.

We pray all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who has overcome the world. Amen.

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We want to encourage you to keep pressing into God’s Word and His presence. **Psalm 147:3** says, *"He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds."* This is not a quick process, but He is faithful. If you haven’t already, consider finding a biblical counselor or a mature believer who can walk with you through this. You are not alone in this fight. Keep your eyes on Jesus, who is the author and finisher of your faith (**Hebrews 12:2**). He will see you through. Stand firm, sister. The Lord is with you.
 
Dear friend,

We're here for you, and we're sorry to hear about the situation with your mother. It's understandable that you're feeling upset and frustrated. We want you to know that it's okay to feel this way, and it's also okay to set boundaries to protect your peace and well-being.

We're reminded of a verse in Matthew 11:29, where Jesus says, "Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls." Jesus understands our burdens and offers us rest. Let's trust Him with this situation, knowing that He sees your pain and is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28).

We pray that God would give you wisdom and courage to stand firm in your boundaries. We also pray for your mother, that God would soften her heart and help her understand the impact of her actions. We ask that the Holy Spirit would convict her of her sin and bring her to repentance, if she is indeed a believer.

We declare over you, in Jesus' name, that you are free from the chains of bitterness and unforgiveness. You are loved, valued, and cherished by God. He is your Father, and He is fighting for you.

Keep trusting in God's love and care for you. He is with you, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5). Keep seeking His face, and He will give you the strength and peace you need to navigate this situation.

With love and prayers,
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Please pray for me as I have been trying to be more forgiving and have been doing better but my mother just did something to me which I think set me backward a little bit. I have no contact with her family due to them abusing me my entire life and doing a number of harmful and even physically endangering things to me once I cut off contact with them in adulthood. My mother is still in contact with them. I have always made it very clear to my mother and others in my life like my sister who are still in contact with them that I don't care if they remain in contact with my mother's family. I just asked that my boundaries be respected. But my mother is constantly literally trying to shove her family back in my life in any way possible which honestly makes me want to interact with her family even less because I do not like feeling forced to do things especially in situations like the problems I have experienced with her family. Just now, she told me that she needed to go make phone calls and of course (even though I didn't ask) emphasized that these phone calls were to her family. She said she was going to come upstairs where I have been doing schoolwork all day. I told her that I have to do my schoolwork upstairs as I have an assignment I am late submitting which I need to finish tonight (I said this calmly). She started getting angry and aggressive with me saying that she needs to call her family and basically acting like I'm trying to stop her from doing so and she was saying that she's going to have to just make the calls downstairs. This is not the first time she or others like my sister who are in contact with my mother's family have acted as if I'm trying to make them stop interacting with my mother's family - I literally have never done this ever. I have been trying to forgive my mother's family and not hold on to any anger I have toward them. I have even come to believe that a lot of their actions toward me were due to demons and Satan using them to keep me bound in unforgiving patterns. I do not know if God will ever put any of them back in my life and I am trying to even let go of thoughts about firmly not wanting Him to do so because I want to be obedient to whatever His plans for me are. But when my mom started doing this, it made me so angry and she brought back all those same feelings of anger, hatred, resentment and bitterness. I know I should have stayed quiet but I even told her that nobody cares if she calls her family. I believe my mother has severe undiagnosed borderline personality disorder. She has always, all my life, had deep mental and emotional issues and I also believe she is demonized. She says she is a Christian. Her behavior is often unstable, narcissistic and even abusive.
I'm very upset because I was doing fine. My interactions with mother often feel like stumblingblocks constantly being put in my path.
 
Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

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Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.


🙏Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so
. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

Healed Spirit Soul And Body

 
We want to thank you for allowing us the honor of lifting you up in prayer during this deeply painful and challenging season. Your heart for forgiveness—even in the face of such persistent hurt and disrespect—is a testament to the Holy Spirit’s work in you, and we praise God for the progress you’ve made despite the enemy’s attempts to drag you backward. We know how heavy this burden must feel, especially when the very person who should be a source of safety and understanding continues to disregard your boundaries and reopen old wounds. It is not lost on us how courageous it is to keep seeking God’s will in this, even when anger and bitterness threaten to overwhelm you again.

We have been praying earnestly for you—asking the Lord to guard your heart and mind in Christ Jesus, to give you supernatural strength to forgive *without* reconciling where reconciliation would bring harm, and to break the spiritual strongholds that have kept your mother’s family bound in these destructive patterns. We’ve also been praying for discernment for you, that God would make it clear whether He is calling you to extend grace in relationship or to maintain the wise boundaries you’ve set for your own protection. Most of all, we’ve asked the Lord to meet you in the quiet places, where the anger and resentment rise up, and replace those feelings with His peace that surpasses understanding.

If the Lord has brought any measure of comfort, clarity, or breakthrough in this situation, we would love to rejoice with you in a praise report. Even small victories—like a moment of unexpected calm, a Scripture that spoke directly to your heart, or a sense of God’s presence in the struggle—are worth celebrating. If, however, this burden still feels as heavy as ever, please don’t hesitate to share an update so we can continue to stand with you in prayer. You are not forgotten, and this fight is not yours alone. We are here, interceding for you, and we believe God is faithful to complete the good work He has begun in you.

May the Lord surround you with His presence today, remind you of His deep love for you, and give you the wisdom to navigate each interaction with your mother in a way that honors Him. May He also break the chains of generational sin and demonic influence in your family line, bringing conviction where needed and healing where there has been brokenness. You are seen, you are loved, and you are *not* responsible for carrying this alone.

We continue to pray for you in Jesus’ name.
 

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