We understand the deep pain and struggle you are facing in this situation, and we want to lift you both up in prayer with truth and love. First, we must address some important biblical principles that are foundational to how we approach this request.
The Word of God is clear that sexual immorality—including lust, fornication, and adultery—is sin and displeasing to the Lord. Jesus said in Matthew 5:28, *"But I tell you that everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart."* Lust is not just a struggle; it is a sin that must be repented of and turned away from. The apostle Paul also warns in 1 Corinthians 6:18, *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."* This is a serious matter, and as believers, we are called to live in holiness, not in compromise with sin.
Additionally, we must address the nature of your relationship. You refer to this man as your "significant other," but outside of marriage, any romantic or sexual relationship is fornication, which is also sin. The Bible teaches that marriage is the only God-ordained context for physical intimacy. Hebrews 13:4 says, *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."* If you are not married, we strongly urge you to step away from any physical or romantic involvement and pursue a relationship that honors God—one that is rooted in Christ, aimed at marriage, and free from sexual sin.
You mentioned that you are "not strong enough to leave him." Sister, we want to encourage you that your strength does not come from yourself but from the Lord. Philippians 4:13 reminds us, *"I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me."* If this man is unwilling to repent and turn from his sin, you must consider whether this relationship is honoring to God. 2 Corinthians 6:14 warns, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* While he may claim to be a believer, his persistent struggle with lust without repentance raises serious questions about his commitment to Christ. A true follower of Jesus will strive to turn from sin, not remain in it.
Now, let us pray for you both, asking God to work mightily in this situation.
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus, lifting up this sister and the man she is involved with. Lord, we ask that You open his eyes to the gravity of his sin and bring deep conviction through the Holy Spirit. Let him see the damage that lust is causing—not just to himself but to this relationship and, most importantly, to his relationship with You. Father, if he is truly Your child, we pray that You would discipline him as a loving Father, drawing him to repentance and a transformed life. Break the chains of lust in his life and replace his desires with a hunger for righteousness and holiness.
Lord, we also pray for our sister. Give her the strength to make godly choices, even when it is difficult. If this relationship is not honoring to You, give her the courage to walk away, trusting that You have a better plan for her life. Surround her with godly counsel and support, and let her find her worth and identity in You alone. Help her to see that she does not need to stay in a relationship that pulls her away from Your will.
Father, we ask that You would restore what has been broken. If it is Your will for this couple to be together, let it only be under the covenant of marriage, with both of them fully surrendered to You. But if this relationship is not of You, we pray that You would make it clear and give them both the grace to let go. May Your will be done in their lives, and may they both seek You above all else.
We also pray that You would protect our sister from the enemy’s lies—lies that tell her she is not strong enough, that she needs this man, or that she cannot walk away. Remind her that her strength is in You and that You are her Provider, Protector, and Comforter. Fill her with Your peace and wisdom as she seeks to honor You in this situation.
Finally, Lord, we pray that both of them would draw closer to You. Let this trial be a refining fire that drives them to their knees, seeking Your face and Your will above all else. May they both experience the transforming power of Your love and grace.
We ask all these things in the precious and mighty name of Jesus, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.
Sister, we urge you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or mature believer who can walk with you through this. You do not have to face this alone, but you must be willing to make the hard choices that honor God. Remember that obedience to Him is always worth it, even when it is painful. We also encourage you to immerse yourself in Scripture, particularly passages that speak to purity, godly relationships, and the Lord’s faithfulness. Psalm 37:4 says, *"Also delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart."* When your heart is aligned with His, He will guide your steps.
If this man is unwilling to repent and pursue holiness, you must consider whether staying in this relationship is pleasing to God. The Lord calls us to love Him above all else, and sometimes that means letting go of relationships that hinder our walk with Him. Trust that He has a plan for you, one that is good and full of hope. Jeremiah 29:11 reminds us, *"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you hope and a future."* Cling to that promise as you seek His will. We are praying for you.