We hear the deep pain and weariness in your words, and our hearts ache with you. It is clear that you have carried heavy burdens for many years—loneliness, financial struggle, unanswered longings, and now the added sorrow of your mother’s illness. You are not alone in questioning where God is in the midst of suffering. Even the psalmists cried out, *"My God, my God, why have you forsaken me? Why are you so far from helping me, from the words of my groaning?"* (Psalm 22:1). Yet even in their despair, they clung to the truth that God hears and is near to the brokenhearted.
First, we must gently but firmly address the lie that God has a "grudge" against you. Scripture tells us, *"The Lord is not slow concerning his promise, as some count slowness; but is patient with us, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance"* (2 Peter 3:9). God’s heart toward you is one of love, not anger. The struggles you face are not punishment—they are part of living in a fallen world where sin has brought brokenness. But God does not leave us in that brokenness. He enters into it with us. *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit"* (Psalm 34:18).
You mentioned that you’ve stopped praying, and we understand why. When prayers seem to go unanswered, it can feel like talking to the wind. But let us remind you: prayer is not a transaction where we give God our requests and He owes us results. Prayer is relationship—it is how we draw near to Him, even when we don’t understand His ways. Jesus Himself prayed in Gethsemane, *"Father, if you are willing, remove this cup from me. Nevertheless, not my will, but yours, be done"* (Luke 22:42). His prayer was not about getting what He wanted, but surrendering to the Father’s will. That is the posture we are called to—trusting that God’s plans for us are good, even when they don’t look like what we imagined.
You also asked, *"Is God real?"* Let us testify to you: He is not only real, but He is the only sure foundation in this life. The evidence of His reality is not always in the circumstances we see, but in the transformation He works in hearts. *"Faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen"* (Hebrews 11:1). If you have never placed your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to consider this: *"For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life"* (John 3:16). Salvation is not earned by good works or perfect prayers—it is a gift received by faith. If you have never surrendered your life to Christ, we pray you would do so today. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection, and invite Him to be Lord of your life.
For your mother’s health, we lift her up to the Great Physician. *"Is anyone among you sick? Let him call for the elders of the church, and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord"* (James 5:14). We pray for healing, for comfort, and for your mother’s faith to remain steadfast, knowing that God is her refuge. For your own needs—your longing for a home, for provision, for family—we pray that God would meet you in tangible ways. But more than that, we pray that you would find your deepest satisfaction in Him. *"Seek first God’s Kingdom, and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well"* (Matthew 6:33). This does not mean you will never face lack, but it means that God will be your portion, even in the waiting.
We also want to speak to the grief of unfulfilled desires. It is not wrong to long for marriage, children, or stability—these are good gifts from God. But we must guard our hearts against bitterness, which can take root when we believe God is withholding good from us. *"Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but when longing is fulfilled, it is a tree of life"* (Proverbs 13:12). We pray that God would either fulfill these desires in His perfect timing or give you the grace to say, *"The Lord is my portion; I promise to keep your words"* (Psalm 119:57).
Finally, we rebuke the spirit of despair that whispers lies about God’s character. The enemy wants you to believe that God is indifferent, but Scripture declares the opposite: *"Can a woman forget her nursing child, that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? Yes, these may forget, yet I will not forget you! Behold, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands"* (Isaiah 49:15-16). God has not forgotten you. He sees your tears, He hears your cries, and He is working even when you cannot see it.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this precious child of Yours who is weary and questioning. Lord, You see the depths of her pain—the loneliness, the financial struggles, the unanswered prayers, and now the illness of her mother. We ask that You would draw near to her in this season. Remind her that You are not distant or uncaring, but that You collect her tears in a bottle and record her sorrows in Your book (Psalm 56:8).
Father, we pray for her mother’s healing. Touch her body, Lord, and restore her to health. Give her strength and peace, and let her faith be a testimony to those around her. For this dear one, we ask that You would renew her hope. Help her to see that You are working even in the waiting. Provide for her needs, Lord, whether that be through financial breakthrough, community, or simply the daily bread she requires. Open doors that no man can shut, and close doors that would lead her away from Your will.
Most of all, Jesus, we pray that she would encounter You afresh. If she has never surrendered her life to You, we ask that You would reveal Yourself to her in a powerful way. Let her taste and see that You are good (Psalm 34:8). Break the chains of bitterness and despair, and replace them with trust in Your unfailing love. Teach her to pray not just for what she wants, but for what You want—for Your kingdom to come and Your will to be done in her life.
We declare over her that she is not forgotten. You have plans for her—plans for welfare and not for evil, to give her a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11). Strengthen her faith, Lord, and let her see Your hand at work in ways she has not yet imagined. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
