We are deeply grieved to hear of the pain and manipulation you endured at the hands of your mother, and we praise God that you have turned to Him in the name of Jesus Christ for healing and restoration. The wounds of a parent’s rejection and abuse run deep, especially when those words were spoken by someone who should have nurtured and protected you. But we serve a God who is the Father to the fatherless, the Defender of the oppressed, and the Healer of broken hearts. He sees your suffering, and He longs to redeem what was stolen from you.
The Scripture declares in **Psalm 27:10**, *“When my father and my mother abandon me, then Yahweh will take me up.”* Your earthly mother may have failed you, but your Heavenly Father will never leave you nor forsake you. The enemy has used her words to bind you in shame, self-doubt, and stagnation, but **Jesus came to set the captives free** (Luke 4:18). You are not defined by her accusations, her gambling addiction, or her emotional abuse—you are defined by Christ, who calls you **chosen, royal, holy, and His own** (1 Peter 2:9).
The silent treatment, blame-shifting, and financial manipulation you endured were not just personal failures on her part—they were evidence of a heart enslaved to idolatry. **Gambling was her god**, as you said, and those who serve false gods often drag others into their destruction. But God has broken those chains in your life. Bankruptcy may have been the result of her sin, but **God is your Provider**, and He will restore what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25). You are no longer under her control, and the “no contact” the Lord has ordained is a **divine protection**, not a punishment. **Proverbs 22:24-25** warns, *“Don’t befriend a hot-tempered man, and don’t associate with one who harbors anger, lest you learn his ways, and ensnare your soul.”* God has mercifully removed you from that snare.
Yet we know the lies still echo: *“You’ll never amount to anything. You’re the reason for my misery. You’re unworthy.”* These are **not the voice of God**. **Romans 8:1** declares, *“There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus.”* If you have placed your faith in Jesus, you are **forgiven, accepted, and empowered by His Spirit** to walk in newness of life. The past does not dictate your future—**Christ does**. **Philippians 3:13-14** says, *“Brothers, I don’t regard myself as yet having taken hold, but one thing I do: forgetting the things which are behind, and stretching forward to the things which are before, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.”*
You mentioned feeling like a lone sheep attacked by wolves, but take heart—**Jesus is your Good Shepherd**, and He is gathering His flock. **Ezekiel 34:12** says, *“As a shepherd seeks out his flock in the day that he is among his sheep that are scattered abroad, so will I seek out my sheep; and I will deliver them out of all places where they have been scattered in the cloudy and dark day.”* He will place you among believers who will **spear you on to love and good works** (Hebrews 10:24), who will offer godly counsel, and who will walk with you in accountability and encouragement. **Do not isolate yourself**—seek out a **Bible-believing church** where the Word is preached without compromise, where you can serve, and where you can be discipled. If you are not already in one, we urge you to **pray fervently for God to lead you to a solid, Christ-centered fellowship**.
As for achieving great things for the Lord’s kingdom, remember that **God does not call the qualified—He qualifies the called**. Your past does not disqualify you; **your weakness is the stage for His strength** (2 Corinthians 12:9). Start small. **Be faithful in little**, and He will entrust you with more (Luke 16:10). Whether it is serving in your church, sharing the Gospel, or using your gifts to bless others, **every act of obedience is significant in God’s eyes**.
Now, let us pray over you:
*Heavenly Father, we lift up Your daughter before You, a sheep who has been wounded by the very one who should have loved her. Lord, we ask that You **heal the deep wounds** left by her mother’s words and actions. Where the enemy has spoken lies—*“You are worthless, you are a failure, you are to blame”*—we declare **Your truth**: that she is **fearfully and wonderfully made** (Psalm 139:14), **redeemed by the blood of Jesus** (Ephesians 1:7), and **called according to Your purpose** (Romans 8:28).*
*Father, we rebuke the spirit of **shame, rejection, and stagnation** that has held her back. By the power of the Holy Spirit, we **break those chains** in Jesus’ name. Replace her self-doubt with **bold confidence in Christ**, her fear with **Your perfect love** (1 John 4:18), and her past failures with **a hope and a future** (Jeremiah 29:11).*
*Lord, we thank You for the **divine protection** of “no contact.” Guard her heart from bitterness, and help her to **forgive as You have forgiven her** (Colossians 3:13)—not for her mother’s sake, but for her own freedom. Remove any lingering **ungodly soul ties** and fill the void with **Your peace that surpasses understanding** (Philippians 4:7).*
*Father, we ask that You **open doors** for her to connect with **godly, wise believers** who will walk alongside her in this season. Lead her to a **church where Your Word is preached boldly**, where she can grow in faith, and where she can use her gifts for Your glory. Raise up **mentors, friends, and spiritual family** who will **encourage her, challenge her, and hold her accountable** in love.*
*We pray for **financial restoration**—where the enemy meant to destroy, You will **provide abundantly** (Malachi 3:10). Give her wisdom in stewardship, favor in her work, and opportunities to **be a blessing to others** as You bless her.*
*Most of all, Lord, we ask that You **ignite a fire in her spirit** to pursue You above all else. Let her **find her identity in Christ alone**, not in achievements, not in the approval of man, but in **being Your beloved child**. May she **press forward** with holy determination, knowing that **You who began a good work in her will complete it** (Philippians 1:6).*
*We pray all this in the **mighty name of Jesus Christ**, our Redeemer, our Healer, and our Soon-Coming King. Amen.*
Finally, we want to leave you with this **charge from Scripture**:
*“Don’t you be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. Yes, I will help you. Yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness.”* **(Isaiah 41:10, WEB)**
You are **not alone**. You are **not abandoned**. You are **not defined by your past**. **Jesus is your present and your future**, and He is making all things new. **Keep seeking Him, keep trusting Him, and watch as He transforms your life for His glory.** We are standing with you in prayer—**press on, sister in Christ. The best is yet to come.**
