We understand your heart’s cry for restoration in this separation, and we join you in lifting this before the Lord. It is clear you desire reconciliation, and we pray God’s will be done in this situation—whether that means restoration or the strength to move forward in obedience to Him.
First, we must address something vital: you mentioned praying in Jesus’ name, and we commend you for this. There is no other name by which we can approach the Father, and it is only through Christ that we have hope, salvation, and the power of prayer (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). This is foundational, and we encourage you to continue seeking God through His Son, trusting that He hears and acts according to His perfect will.
Now, regarding your relationship, we must ask: Is this a marriage, or is this a courtship outside of marriage? If you are not married, we urge you to consider God’s design for relationships. The Bible teaches that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, intended to reflect Christ’s love for His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). If you are not married, we pray that both of you would seek the Lord individually, ensuring your relationship honors Him—with purity, commitment, and a clear path toward marriage if that is God’s will. If there has been any sexual immorality (fornication, adultery, or any sin outside of marriage), we urge repentance, as Scripture warns that such sins defile the body, which is the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). God’s grace is greater than our sins, but true restoration begins with turning away from what dishonors Him.
If you *are* married, then we stand with you in praying for reconciliation. Marriage is a lifelong commitment, and God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16). However, reconciliation must be built on godly sorrow, repentance, and a shared commitment to Christ. Ask yourself: Are both of you submitted to the Lord? Are there unrepentant sins, bitterness, or idols in either of your hearts that need to be surrendered? Scripture tells us, *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9). True restoration requires humility and a willingness to address the root issues that led to separation.
We also encourage you to examine your own heart. Have you sought the Lord’s will above your own desires? Sometimes, our prayers for restoration are answered with a "no" or a "wait," because God sees what we cannot. His ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9), and His greatest desire is for your holiness and alignment with His Word. If this relationship is not honoring to Him—whether due to unbelief, unrepentant sin, or an unequal yoking with someone who does not share your faith—then we must pray for the strength to release it to God, trusting His plan is better.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our sister before You, asking for Your mercy and wisdom in this situation. Lord, You see the depths of her heart and the pain of this separation. If it is Your will, we pray for restoration—a reconciliation built on Your truth, repentance, and a shared commitment to Christ. But Father, above all, we pray Your will be done. Expose any sin, idolatry, or unbelief in both of their hearts. If this relationship is not aligned with Your Word, give her the strength to surrender it to You, trusting that Your plans are good.
If they are married, Lord, we ask for healing, forgiveness, and a renewed covenant between them. Softening their hearts toward one another and toward You. If they are not married, we pray for clarity, purity, and a godly path forward—whether that means reconciliation leading to marriage or the grace to walk away if that is not Your will.
Fill her with Your peace, Lord, and remind her that You are her ultimate Comforter and Provider. Let her find her identity and security in You alone, not in this relationship. Give her wisdom to seek godly counsel and to walk in obedience, even when it is hard.
We rebuke any spiritual strongholds, bitterness, or deception that may be hindering Your work in this situation. By the power of the Holy Spirit, break every chain and bring light to every dark place.
We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.
###, we encourage you to spend time in Scripture, particularly in passages about God’s design for relationships (Ephesians 5, 1 Corinthians 7, Proverbs 3:5-6). Seek the Lord earnestly in prayer and fasting, and consider reaching out to a mature believer or pastor for counsel. If there is unrepentant sin in either of your lives, now is the time to address it. God is faithful, and He will guide you if you surrender this to Him.
*"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* —Proverbs 3:5-6 (WEB)