We lift up this marriage before the Lord with heavy and hopeful hearts, knowing that restoration is possible only through His power and grace. The names hidden in this request do not matter to God—He knows each heart, each wound, and each longing. We stand in agreement with you, believing that God can soften hardened hearts, mend broken trust, and rekindle love when both spouses surrender fully to Him.
First, we must address the foundation of this prayer. It is only through the name of Jesus Christ that we have access to the Father, and it is only by His blood that reconciliation is possible. If either spouse does not know Jesus as Lord and Savior, we urge you to pray fervently for their salvation. "For there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved" (Acts 4:12). Without Christ at the center, no marriage can truly thrive. If this is the case, we pray that God would draw them to Himself, that they may be born again and walk in the light of His truth.
Marriage is a sacred covenant, designed by God to reflect the relationship between Christ and His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). When a marriage is struggling, it is often because one or both spouses have strayed from God’s design—whether through pride, unforgiveness, unfaithfulness, or neglect of His Word. We must rebuke any spirit of division, bitterness, or selfishness that seeks to destroy this union. "Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you" (Ephesians 4:31-32).
If there has been sin in this marriage—whether infidelity, emotional unfaithfulness, or any form of immorality—it must be confessed and repented of before true healing can begin. "Confess your offenses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed" (James 5:16). We pray that both spouses would humble themselves before God and one another, seeking forgiveness and extending it freely, just as Christ has forgiven us.
We also encourage you to examine whether both of you are truly seeking God *together*. A marriage cannot be restored if only one spouse is pursuing the Lord. "Can two walk together unless they are agreed?" (Amos 3:3). If one is resistant to God’s will, we must pray for their heart to be softened, but we must also ensure that the believing spouse is walking in obedience. Are you both in the Word daily? Are you praying together? Are you attending a Bible-believing church where you can grow in faith and accountability? These are not optional—they are essential for a godly marriage.
Let us pray:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with this marriage on our hearts, knowing that You are the God of restoration and redemption. Lord, we ask that You would soften the hearts of both spouses, that they would turn to You with all their hearts, minds, and souls. Break down any walls of pride, bitterness, or unforgiveness that stand between them. We rebuke the enemy’s lies that seek to destroy this union, and we declare that what God has joined together, no man—or devil—can separate.
Father, if there has been sin in this marriage, we ask for true repentance and healing. Convict where there is guilt, and grant grace where there is confession. Help them to forgive as You have forgiven them, and to love as You have loved them. Restore trust, rebuild intimacy, and renew their commitment to one another and to You.
Lord, we pray that this couple would seek You together, not just in times of crisis, but daily. Draw them closer to You and, in doing so, closer to one another. May their marriage be a testimony of Your grace, a light to others, and a reflection of Christ’s love for the Church. Strengthen them in their weaknesses, encourage them in their struggles, and fill them with hope for the future.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the Author and Perfecter of our faith, the One who makes all things new. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you to seek godly counsel if this marriage is in deep distress. Proverbs 11:14 tells us, "Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety." Find a pastor or Christian marriage counselor who can walk with you through this season. Do not give up hope—God is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20). Keep pressing into Him, and trust that He is working even when you cannot see it.