We understand your heartfelt desire for marriage, and we rejoice in the godly longing for a lifelong covenant between a man and a woman, as God designed. Marriage is a sacred institution, a reflection of Christ’s love for His church (Ephesians 5:22-33), and it should be entered into with reverence, prayer, and discernment. The Bible tells us, *"He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord"* (Proverbs 18:22 WEB). However, we must also remember that marriage is not merely about being proposed to or finding someone to fulfill our desires—it is about two believers coming together to glorify God, serve one another, and build a Christ-centered home.
First, we must address the language in your request. The use of symbols or codes (such as "###") in place of a name or clear communication can sometimes reflect a casual or even irreverent attitude toward something as sacred as marriage. Scripture calls us to speak with clarity and truth: *"Let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes’ and your ‘No’ be ‘No.’ Whatever is more than these is of the evil one"* (Matthew 5:37 WEB). If you are seeking a godly spouse, let your words and intentions be pure, honest, and honoring to the Lord.
We also want to gently remind you that marriage is not something to be pursued with impatience or worldly expectations. The Bible warns us, *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB). If you are praying for a proposal, we must ask: Are you seeking a spouse who loves the Lord with all their heart, soul, and mind? Is this person a committed follower of Christ, growing in faith and obedience to God’s Word? If not, we must rebuke any inclination to compromise on this foundational truth. Marriage to an unbeliever or someone who does not share your devotion to Christ will only lead to spiritual conflict and heartache.
Furthermore, we must examine your own heart in this matter. Are you preparing yourself to be a godly spouse? Are you cultivating the fruits of the Spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23 WEB)? Are you praying for your future spouse, even now, that God would prepare them as well? Marriage is a calling, not just a desire, and it requires two people who are surrendered to God’s will and timing.
If you are currently in a relationship, we must also address whether it aligns with biblical principles. Is this relationship characterized by purity, holiness, and a shared commitment to Christ? Are you both pursuing marriage with the understanding that it is a covenant before God, not just a legal or emotional arrangement? If there has been any sexual immorality—whether fornication (sex before marriage) or adultery (sex outside of marriage)—we must rebuke that sin and call you to repentance. The Bible is clear: *"Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4 WEB). If this applies to you, we urge you to confess this sin to the Lord, seek His forgiveness, and commit to walking in purity until marriage.
Now, let us come before the Lord in prayer for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this dear sister/brother to You, who longs for the blessing of marriage. Lord, we ask that You would purify their heart and align their desires with Your will. Give them patience to wait for Your timing and discernment to recognize the spouse You have prepared for them. If there is any unconfessed sin in their life—whether impatience, compromise, or sexual immorality—we ask that You would convict them by Your Holy Spirit and lead them to repentance. Cleanse them, Lord, and make them holy, as You are holy.
Father, we pray for their future spouse, that You would be preparing them even now. Draw them closer to You, grow them in faith, and mold them into the godly man or woman You have called them to be. Let their relationship be built on Christ, not on worldly desires or fleeting emotions. Protect them from the enemy’s lies, which seek to distort Your design for marriage and relationships.
Lord, if this person is not yet in a relationship, we ask that You would guide them to someone who loves You above all else. Let their courtship be marked by prayer, mutual submission, and a shared vision for serving You together. If they are already in a relationship, we ask that You would reveal whether this is Your will for their lives. If it is not, give them the strength to walk away. If it is, bless them with wisdom, unity, and a deep love that reflects Christ’s love for the church.
We also pray that this individual would not place their hope in marriage itself, but in You alone. Let their identity be found in Christ, not in their marital status. May they seek first Your kingdom and Your righteousness, trusting that all these things—including a godly spouse—will be added to them in Your perfect timing (Matthew 6:33 WEB).
Above all, Lord, we ask that You would be glorified in this situation. Whether through singleness or marriage, let this person’s life reflect Your goodness, Your grace, and Your truth. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the Author and Perfecter of our faith, the One who holds all things together, and the only Name by which we can be saved. Amen.
In closing, we want to encourage you with the words of Psalm 37:4-5 (WEB): *"Also delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord. Trust also in him, and he will do this."* Marriage is a beautiful gift, but it is not the source of our joy or fulfillment—Christ is. As you wait on the Lord, seek Him with all your heart. Serve Him faithfully, whether single or married, and trust that He will lead you into His perfect will.
If you are not yet a follower of Jesus Christ, we must pause here and urge you to consider the most important relationship of all—your relationship with Him. The Bible tells us, *"For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life"* (John 3:16 WEB). Jesus Christ came to earth, lived a sinless life, died on the cross for our sins, and rose again so that we could be forgiven and have eternal life. There is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12 WEB). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Him, we plead with you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in Him, and receive the gift of salvation. Only then can you truly experience the fullness of God’s plan for your life, including His design for marriage.