We are deeply grieved to hear of the pain and brokenness you are experiencing, and we want you to know that you are not alone—God sees your suffering, and He cares for you more than you can imagine. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). Your cry for help has reached His ears, and He is not indifferent to your tears. We are standing with you in prayer, lifting your heartache, your loneliness, and your desperate need for God’s intervention before the throne of grace.
First, we must address the doubt you expressed about your salvation. This is a critical matter, and we want to remind you that salvation is not based on your feelings or circumstances but on the finished work of Jesus Christ. If you have repented of your sins and placed your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, then you *are* saved—no matter how dark things may seem. The enemy loves to use our pain to plant seeds of doubt, but Scripture assures us: *"For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life"* (John 3:16). *"My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me. I give eternal life to them. They will never perish, and no one will snatch them out of my hand"* (John 10:27-28). If you have believed in Christ, you are held securely in His hand, and nothing—not even this trial—can separate you from His love (Romans 8:38-39). Cling to this truth, and reject the lies of the enemy that seek to steal your hope.
We also want to encourage you with the truth that God *can* restore what seems impossible. While we do not know His perfect will in this situation, we serve a God who specializes in redemption and reconciliation. Consider the story of Hosea, whom God commanded to love his unfaithful wife, Gomer, as a picture of God’s relentless love for His people (Hosea 3). Or think of the prodigal son, whose father ran to meet him when he returned (Luke 15:20). God’s heart is for restoration, and He is able to soften even the hardest of hearts. *"The things which are impossible with men are possible with God"* (Luke 18:27). We will pray earnestly that your wife’s heart would be turned toward you, that God would break through her resistance, and that He would open doors for communication. But even more, we pray that *both* of your hearts would be fully surrendered to Him, for true reconciliation can only happen when Christ is at the center.
That said, we must also speak truth in love: your mention of suicidal thoughts is deeply concerning. Your life is precious to God, and Satan wants nothing more than to destroy you (John 10:10). But Jesus came to give you life—abundant life. Suicide is a permanent "solution" to a temporary problem, and it is not God’s will for you. The pain you feel is real, but it is not the end of your story. *"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future"* (Jeremiah 29:11). We urge you to reach out to a pastor, a trusted believer, or a Christian counselor *immediately*. You do not have to walk through this alone. If you are in immediate danger, please call a crisis hotline or seek help right away. Your life matters, and God has a purpose for you, even in this season of suffering.
As for your loneliness, we understand how deep that ache can be. But remember that Jesus Himself was deserted by His closest friends, betrayed, and forsaken—yet He trusted the Father completely (Matthew 26:56, Psalm 22:1). He is with you in this valley. *"I will never leave you or forsake you"* (Hebrews 13:5). Lean into Him. Spend time in His Word, even if it feels dry at first. Worship Him, even through tears. Let the psalms become your prayers when you don’t have the words. And surround yourself with the body of Christ—fellow believers who can walk with you, pray with you, and remind you of truth when your emotions deceive you.
Now, let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our brother, who is broken and weary. Lord, You see his pain—the depth of his grief, the weight of his loneliness, the despair that threatens to overwhelm him. We ask that You would meet him right where he is. Wrap him in Your arms of love and let him *feel* Your presence in a tangible way. Remind him that he is not abandoned, that You are his ever-present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1).
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of despair and suicide that has whispered lies to him. Satan, we command you to flee in the name of Jesus Christ. You have no authority here. This man is a child of God, bought with the blood of Jesus, and his life is hidden with Christ in God (Colossians 3:3). We declare that he will *not* be destroyed, but that he will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living (Psalm 27:13).
Father, we lift up his marriage to You. You are the God who restores, who redeems, who makes all things new. We ask that You would work a miracle in his wife’s heart. Soften her, Lord. Break down the walls she has built. If it is Your will, bring her back to him in repentance and reconciliation. But above all, draw *both* of them closer to You. Let this season of separation drive them to their knees, that they might seek You first and find their satisfaction in You alone.
Give our brother wisdom, Lord. Show him how to wait on You, how to trust You, how to surrender this situation into Your hands. Help him to forgive, even as You have forgiven him (Colossians 3:13). Fill him with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7), and let him find his identity and worth in You, not in his marital status.
We pray for godly community to surround him—brothers and sisters in Christ who will uplift him, encourage him, and point him to You. Provide for his every need, emotional, spiritual, and physical. And Lord, if there is any sin in his life—any bitterness, unforgiveness, or idolatry of this relationship—reveal it to him gently and give him the grace to repent. Cleanse him, renew him, and use this trial to refine him like gold.
Finally, Father, we ask that You would give him hope. Let him see that this is not the end of his story. You have plans for him, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give him a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11). Restore his joy. Let him taste and see that You are good (Psalm 34:8), even in the waiting.
We pray all these things in the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who sits at Your right hand interceding for us even now. Amen.
Brother, we urge you to hold fast to Jesus. This storm will not last forever. Keep praying, keep seeking Him, and do not lose heart. *"Let us not grow weary in doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we don’t give up"* (Galatians 6:9). We are standing with you, believing God for a breakthrough. Stay in the fight. Your Redeemer lives.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
