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God tells us for a believer to yoke (marry) with a unbeliever there will be great division as there is nothing in common, there is no agreement, and it truly is just a house divided. There genuinely is a true emptiness there spiritually. God created us and joins us to be helpmates to one another and in order to be helpmates you must share common ground, the same beliefs, the same moral ethics, the same judgment calls over your life and your children, unity. There is no unity between light and dark, they are opposites and opposites will war against one another. God warns us here to not yoke into this kind of situation and the reason is obvious, and it is just as likely that the unbeliever will pull the believer to their side of things to gain peace in this situation, as it is that the believer will pull the unbeliever to their side of things.
It is easier to fall to sin then it is to walk the path of righteousness. We are sin creatures by nature and our flesh battles us greatly, even when we are trying our best to walk in righteousness, so how much harder is that walk when you dwell day and night with someone pulling and pushing you towards your sin nature? Many unbelieving husbands command their believing wives to not go to church, to not read the bible, and those wives set God on a shelf or at the least have to go into secrecy in their relationship with God. That is definitely not okay with God, He comes above all else and anyone else and is not to be stifled; but I have witnessed the wife do just that because their flesh holds onto and frets over the husband, the causing division, possible loss of the spouse, etc. It is not a good situation and God knew that and warned of it.
I agree that God does not want us to stay in a dangerous situation, abuse situation, but I know from personal experience of being in that kind of experience myself that Gods desire is for the abused spouse to get to a safe place and then stand for the marriage and the wayward spouse. I reaped severely for divorcing a unbelieving extremely abusive husband. In hindsight God revealed to me that He did not want me to divorce that first covenant husband, but to find safety and pray for him and the marriage in that safety. That covenant was not severed and I reaped for that divorce until the day that husband died. God spoke to me clearly at that time, when I was going through this bizarre mourning process over a man I detested and resented, that the covenant was truly never severed because he had never remarried and the mourning I was experiencing was death of the covenant and soul tie. It was a very baffling time for me.
It was after his death that my battle with my later husband came to an end for good. The over the top struggle and battle in the later marriage was my reaping for that covenant being violated. God showed me all of that and it played out just as God told me it would. Not everything was right in my later marriage, there was the financial struggle and my husband not totally surrendered to God, but as for the covenant itself and the love unity between us, it had finally found a place of peace...and that only came after the death of my first covenant husband by which I was truly released, the only true way we are released from a covenant vow.
I speak about Gods permissible will, as God revealed to me also rhema, that marriage to a unbeliever fits into this category by which He says that there are some things that He gives His permission to do, but it is not helpful to us if we choose to do such.
Because of the division spiritually in that type of marriage union, and the risk placed upon His child involved in that union and the pull towards the darkness of the unbelieving spouse, the equal potential of that spouse pulling His child away from Him, rather then His child pulling the unbelieving spouse towards Him. Also, when you inhabit a dwelling with a unbeliever, there is a open door by which Satan can operate within that marriage and the home itself. As Christians we are sanctify our environment because we know to have unGodly posessions or unGodly behaviors allows a demonic entry point into our lives. You can be a righteous as can be, but if your spouse is placing you into an environment where unGodly things reside or are acted out, you are just as subject to the demonic spirits that come in via them as he/she is. Say you have a husband who had a pornography addiction, which is a demonic spirit of addiction, and he has porn hidden in your home; then that is a open doorway into your home and all the lives of anyone that resides within that home. Satan is going to come in a wreck havoc in all your lives because he has an open invitation to do so.
Gods perfect will is that a spouse would fight against those demonic influences for their spouse and family and drive them out, bring deliverance through Christ for that unbelieving spouse who is in bondage to Satan. However because of the great division between darkness and light and the risk to His own child, He will allow the unbeliever to go.
This does not mean that He gives permission for the believer to move on, He expects them to remain alone or reconcile to that unbelieving spouse, and in essence what has God done in this command? He has held the covenant vow intact and has give Himself wide and unending berth to bring that unbelieving spouse to the cross, even if the believing spouse is not standing and praying. He has left the door open to reconciliation in that marriage which may come by His drawing the unbeliever to Him and back to the believing spouse...that she reconcile only unto that spouse. What this basically says to me is that God has allowed the believer to separate themselves from the unbelieving spouse...if that unbeliever goes out, not vice versa, which brings them to a safe place of not being spiritually pulled and pushed and open to demonic forces via the unbelievers entry points of sin. Yet He holds them there in a separated state, not a breaking covenant state, by commanding them to remain alone, by which He can still work and bring reconciliation when the risk has passed.
So I agree with the concept of safety here, but believe it is spiritual safety. I have come to learn that with God everything revolves around the spiritual nature, not the worldly nature of things. Such as prosperity and the promise of such, it was not stated in the sense of worldly prosperity, money, it was stated in the context of spiritual prosperity. Jesus was a poor man that walked this earth with nothing more then the clothes on His back. When He called the disciples to follow Him, He told them to leave everything behind and they also went out with only the clothes on their back, forsaking homes and material goods. Prosperity is to prosper as Jesus Himself prospered, in His spirit.
One can have absolutely nothing and be much more wealthy than the monetary rich man if they have a real spiritual connection and relationship with God. Our souls prosper, not our life in monetary gain. Gods key focus in all things is the spiritual aspect, our spiritual health. He provided for our souls and our eternal lives, our riches in Heaven. Everything He commands us to do in this physical life is the way to our spiritual self, to enrich it and secure our inheritance in Him. He does not want us to even sup with a unbeliever let alone yoke with one, because it puts our spiritual prosperity at risk, sets us up for demonic affliction even more-so than what we normally have to contend with already in having to survive in this physical world where Satan has temporary reign. So I believe that God is watching over and speaking in accordance to our spiritual safety and only when our spiritual safety is at risk does He give a permissible will clause. He wants to protect His own spiritually.
This is what God has shown me and had me to understand in marriage clauses and the scriptures given. It is spiritual bondage that one comes under when yoked with a unbeliever and what is Gods concern so much so that He warned us about doing such a thing.
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