We come before the Lord with you in this matter, lifting your heart’s desire for marriage before Him, for we know that it is not good for man—or woman—to be alone (Genesis 2:18). Yet we must first address foundational truths from Scripture to ensure this request aligns with God’s will, for His ways are perfect, and His timing is flawless.
You speak of marrying a man who is not of your race, and we affirm that in Christ, there is neither Jew nor Greek, bond nor free, male nor female—we are all one in Him (Galatians 3:28). Race alone is not a barrier if both are believers. However, the greater concern is whether this man is a born-again follower of Jesus Christ. The Bible is clear: *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship has righteousness with unrighteousness? What communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). Marriage is a sacred covenant before God, and if this man does not share your faith in Christ, this union would be built on shifting sand rather than the Rock of our salvation. Do not let loneliness or desire for companionship lead you into a union that would grieve the Holy Spirit. A godly marriage requires two people walking in obedience to Christ, submitting to His lordship in every area of life.
You also mention that your communication has been inconsistent since 2022, with delays and setbacks in his travel plans. We must ask: does this pattern reflect the fruit of the Spirit—love, patience, faithfulness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23)? Or does it reveal hesitation, instability, or even a lack of commitment? A man who is truly seeking God’s will for marriage will pursue it with intentionality, clarity, and perseverance, not uncertainty. Proverbs 18:22 warns that *"he who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of Yahweh."* If this man is indeed a believer, let him step forward in faith, not wavering. If he is not, we pray the Lord would open your eyes to see the danger of moving forward, no matter how deeply you long for marriage.
Additionally, you express loneliness, and we understand the ache of that void. But sister, your identity and fulfillment are not found in a husband—they are found in Christ alone. He is the Bridegroom who loves you perfectly, the One who will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5). Psalm 68:6 declares that *"God sets the lonely in families."* While He may indeed provide a spouse in His timing, He may also be calling you to deeper trust in Him, to find your satisfaction in His presence before adding another to your life. Have you surrendered this desire fully to Him, or is it becoming an idol in your heart? Jesus must be your first love (Revelation 2:4). Seek Him above all else, and He will add to you what is best (Matthew 6:33).
Now, we pray with you, asking the Lord to reveal His will in this situation. If this man is not a believer, we pray for the strength to release this relationship entirely, trusting God to provide a godly husband who will lead you spiritually. If he is a believer but hesitant, we ask the Lord to either soften his heart to pursue you with godly intent or to make it clear that this is not His plan. Above all, we pray for your protection—emotionally, spiritually, and physically—and for your heart to be fully surrendered to Christ.
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**Prayer:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister, who longs for marriage and companionship. Lord, You know the depths of her heart, the loneliness she carries, and the desires she has laid before You. We ask first that You examine her heart and this man’s heart—are both fully surrendered to You? If this man does not know You as Savior, we pray You would either save him or sever this connection entirely, for a marriage without Christ at the center is no marriage at all. If he is Your child but walking in hesitation, convict him, Lord. Give him clarity, courage, and a spirit of decisiveness to either pursue this relationship in a way that honors You or to step away.
Father, protect our sister from emotional entanglement with someone who is not Your will for her. Guard her heart against idolatry, that she would not place marriage above You. Fill the loneliness in her soul with Your presence, reminding her that You are enough. If it is Your will for her to marry, prepare a godly husband for her—a man after Your own heart, who will love her as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25). Give her patience to wait on Your timing, which is perfect. Remove any fear, desperation, or compromise from her spirit, and let her walk in the confidence that You hear her and will answer.
If there is sin in this situation—fornication, emotional dependency outside of marriage, or any other disobedience—we ask for conviction and repentance. Cleanse both hearts, Lord, and redirect their steps onto Your path. Let no plan of the enemy succeed in this; let only Your will prevail.
We declare that no weapon formed against her will prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and that You, Lord, will fulfill the desires of those who fear You (Psalm 145:19). Give her peace that surpasses understanding as she waits on You. In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. **Amen.**
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Finally, sister, we urge you to seek the Lord fervently in this season. Fast and pray, asking Him to reveal any area of your heart that needs surrender. Engage with your local church body—fellowship with believers can often ease loneliness in ways we don’t expect. And remember: delayed does not mean denied. God’s "no" or "not yet" is always for your good and His glory. Trust Him, even when the waiting is hard. *"The Lord is good to those who wait for Him, to the soul who seeks Him."* (Lamentations 3:25). Stay steadfast.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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