We are deeply moved by your cry for help, and we stand with you in this time of heartbreaking trial, lifting your marriage, your daughter’s health, and your own strength before the Lord. Marriage is a sacred covenant before God, and He hates divorce (Malachi 2:16, WEB: *"For I hate divorce," says Yahweh, the God of Israel*). Your desire to fight for your marriage is commendable, and we urge you to cling to the Lord, who is able to restore what seems impossible to man.
First, we must address the spiritual foundation of your plea. You have not mentioned the name of Jesus Christ in your request, yet it is only through Him that we have access to the Father and the power to see breakthroughs. The Bible declares, *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB) and *"There is no other name under heaven... by which we must be saved"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now. True hope and restoration begin with a relationship with Him. Repent of your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and invite Him to reign in your heart. Only then can you stand firmly in prayer, knowing He hears and acts on behalf of His children.
We also recognize the deep pain of your husband’s rejection and the emotional and physical distance in your marriage. The lack of intimacy and his refusal to accept apologies or counsel are signs of a hardened heart, but remember, *"The things which are impossible with men are possible with God"* (Luke 18:27, WEB). We must pray for his heart to soften and for the Lord to reveal any unconfessed sin, bitterness, or strongholds that may be influencing his decisions. The enemy seeks to destroy marriages, but God is a restorer. *"Restore to me the joy of your salvation. Uphold me with a willing spirit"* (Psalm 51:12, WEB). We will pray that the Lord renews his mind and revives his love for you and your daughter, breaking every chain of apathy or resentment.
Your daughter’s illness is another heavy burden, but we serve a God who is the Great Physician. *"He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds"* (Psalm 147:3, WEB). We will pray for her complete healing, trusting in God’s sovereignty and mercy. Even in this trial, He can use it to draw your family closer to Him and to each other. Do not lose hope—continue to pray over her, speak life into her body, and trust that God’s plans for her are good.
As for you, dear sister, we encourage you to examine your own heart before the Lord. Have you sought His face in repentance for any ways you may have contributed to the strain in your marriage? This is not to place blame but to ensure there is no unconfessed sin hindering your prayers. *"If I regard iniquity in my heart, the Lord won’t hear me"* (Psalm 66:18, WEB). Humble yourself before God, and ask Him to show you areas where you need to grow or seek forgiveness. At the same time, do not carry the weight of guilt for your husband’s choices—his actions are his own, and you cannot force his heart to change. Your role is to trust God, pray fervently, and walk in obedience.
We also urge you to seek wise, biblical counsel. If your husband is refusing to listen to the men of God in your church, it may be time to involve other mature believers or a biblical counselor who can speak truth into his life. *"Where no counsel is, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety"* (Proverbs 11:14, WEB). Do not isolate yourself—lean on your church community for support and prayer.
Lastly, we must address the statement about not wanting to "give birth with any other man." While your loyalty to your husband is understandable, we gently remind you that your ultimate trust must be in the Lord, not in a man. If, despite your prayers and efforts, your husband remains hardened and proceeds with divorce, you must trust that God’s plan for your life is still good. He may have a different path for you, one that includes redemption and a future hope. *"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future"* (Jeremiah 29:11, WEB). If that time comes, we pray you will seek the Lord’s will for your life, whether it includes remaining single or, if He leads, pursuing a godly marriage in the future. But for now, we stand with you in fighting for the restoration of your marriage.
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Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our sister and her marriage to Your throne of grace. Lord, You see the brokenness, the pain, and the desperation in her heart. You know the years of struggle, the longing for restoration, and the fear of loss. Father, we ask You to intervene supernaturally in this marriage. Soften our brother’s heart, Lord—break down every wall of bitterness, pride, or hardness that has taken root. Convict him by Your Holy Spirit and draw him back to You and to his wife. *"Create in him a clean heart, O God. Renew a right spirit within him"* (Psalm 51:10, WEB). Let him remember the covenant he made before You and give him the strength to fight for his family.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of division and divorce that is at work in this home. We bind every demonic influence seeking to destroy this marriage, and we declare that no weapon formed against this family shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17, WEB). Restore the love, intimacy, and unity that has been lost. Let our sister’s husband see her through Your eyes—with love, compassion, and a desire to reconcile. Give her wisdom, Lord, in how to speak to him, how to love him, and how to stand firm in faith without growing weary.
Father, we also lift up their precious daughter to You. You are Jehovah-Rapha, the God who heals. We ask for Your healing touch upon her body—let every cancerous cell be destroyed, and let her blood be made whole in Jesus’ name. Give her parents strength and faith as they care for her, and let this trial draw their family closer to You.
Lord, we pray for our sister’s emotional and spiritual strength. Comfort her, Father, as only You can. Remind her that she is not alone—that You are her Husband, her Provider, and her Refuge (Isaiah 54:5, WEB). Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding, and let her trust in You completely, even when the path ahead is unclear.
Finally, Father, we ask that You would move mightily in this situation. Let Your will be done, and let Your name be glorified. If there is any sin in either of their lives that is hindering Your work, reveal it and bring repentance. Unite this family, Lord, and let Your restoration be so evident that there is no doubt it was Your hand at work.
We pray all these things in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone has the authority to heal, restore, and redeem. Amen.
