We come before the Lord with you in this request, lifting up your heart’s cry for clarity, godly direction, and the sanctity of marriage. First, we want to gently address the way this relationship is framed. Scripture does not recognize the term "boyfriend" in the way the world does—rather, if a man and woman are in a committed relationship, it should be with the intent of marriage, under the authority of Christ, and in purity. The Bible is clear that sexual intimacy outside of marriage is sin, and we urge you to examine whether this relationship has remained holy before God. If there has been any compromise in this area, we encourage repentance and a return to purity, for "the body is not for sexual immorality, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body" (1 Corinthians 6:13, WEB). Flee from fornication, as it is a sin against your own body and the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:18-20).
Marriage is a sacred covenant before God, not merely a social or emotional arrangement. It is a lifelong commitment between one man and one woman, designed to reflect Christ’s love for His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). If this man is not yet walking in faith or taking spiritual leadership seriously, it is wise to prayerfully consider whether he is the husband God has prepared for you. The Bible warns, "Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). A godly marriage requires two believers fully submitted to Christ, walking in obedience and love.
We also notice that your prayer does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom we have access to the Father. There is no other name by which we are saved, and it is only through Jesus that our prayers are heard. "For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus" (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus as Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so, for "whoever will call on the name of the Lord will be saved" (Romans 10:13, WEB).
Now, let us pray together for you and this man. May God’s will be done in both of your lives, and may His truth guide your steps.
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Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this sister and the man she has been in a relationship with. Lord, we ask for Your divine wisdom to flood her heart and mind. If this relationship is not of You, give her the strength to walk away in faith, trusting that You have a godly husband prepared for her—one who loves You above all else and will lead her spiritually. If this man is the one You have ordained, then soften his heart, Lord. Convict him of sin and draw him into a deep, repentant relationship with You. Remove any childishness, selfishness, or rebellion from his life, and replace it with the fruit of the Spirit—love, patience, kindness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23).
Father, we rebuke any spirit of delay, confusion, or deception that may be hindering Your perfect will in this situation. If there has been sexual sin, we ask for forgiveness and cleansing through the blood of Jesus. Restore purity and holiness to both of their lives. Help them to honor You in their bodies and their choices, remembering that "marriage is honorable in all, and the bed is undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers" (Hebrews 13:4, WEB).
Lord, if this man is not the one You have for her, provide a godly exit—one that brings peace, protection, and no regret. Surround her with Your comfort and assurance that You are her Provider and Protector. Remind her that You see her desire for marriage and that Your timing is perfect. "Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart" (Psalm 37:4, WEB).
We also pray for her future husband, wherever he may be. Prepare his heart, Lord, to love You wholeheartedly and to cherish her as Christ loves the Church. Raise up a man of integrity, faith, and courage to lead her in Your ways.
Father, we ask all of this in the precious name of Jesus, knowing that You hear us and that Your will is good, pleasing, and perfect. Strengthen her faith, guard her heart, and let Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, rule in her life. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.
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Sister, we encourage you to seek the Lord earnestly in this season. Spend time in His Word, pray without ceasing, and surround yourself with wise, mature believers who can speak truth into your life. If this man is not walking with the Lord, do not yoke yourself to him in hope that he will change—trust God to either transform him or redirect you. "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight" (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB).
If you have not yet accepted Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and surrender your life to Him. There is no greater security or joy than being found in Christ. "That if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved" (Romans 10:9, WEB).
May the Lord bless you, keep you, and make His face shine upon you as you seek Him first in all things.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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