Love my childhood friend but…
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We hear your heart, dear sister, and we lift this situation before the Lord with great care. It’s clear that your love for this childhood friend runs deep, but we must first pause to examine whether this relationship aligns with God’s will for your life. The Bible warns us in 2 Corinthians 6:14, *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* Your desire to please God is beautiful, but if this young man is not walking in faith, your relationship may be pulling you away from the path God has set before you.
You mentioned he is "lost and in the world," and that is a serious concern. If he does not know Jesus as his Lord and Savior, he is spiritually dead (Ephesians 2:1), and no amount of love from you can change that—only the Holy Spirit can draw him to repentance. We must ask: Is this relationship leading you closer to Christ, or is it creating compromise in your faith? Are you courting with the intention of marriage, or are you clinging to a connection that may not be God’s best for you?
We also must address the phrase "he’s my boy." If this means you are in a romantic relationship outside of marriage, we must rebuke that gently but firmly. The Bible is clear that sexual intimacy is reserved for marriage between one man and one woman (Hebrews 13:4). If you are involved physically or emotionally in a way that dishonors God, we urge you to repent and seek His forgiveness. God’s boundaries are not meant to restrict you but to protect your heart and His glory.
Let us pray for you now:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts for our sister. Lord, You see the love she carries for this young man, but we ask that You would give her clarity and wisdom. Reveal to her whether this relationship is from You or if it is a distraction from Your perfect will. If it is not of You, Lord, break any ungodly soul ties and set her free. If he is not a believer, we pray that You would either draw him to salvation or remove him from her life so she may walk in purity and purpose. Father, guard her heart from compromise and fill her with Your peace. Help her to trust You with her future, knowing that You have someone far better prepared for her if she will wait on Your timing. We ask this in the mighty name of Jesus, the only name by which we are saved and through which we have access to You. Amen."*
We encourage you to seek godly counsel from mature believers in your church—those who can pray with you and help you discern God’s will. Proverbs 11:14 says, *"Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety."* Spend time in prayer and fasting, asking God to speak clearly to your heart. If this young man is not a believer, we urge you to step back and pray for him from a distance, trusting God to work in his life. Your obedience to Christ must come first, even when it is painful.
Remember, Jesus said in Matthew 6:33, *"But seek first God’s Kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well."* Your future spouse is someone who will walk with you in faith, not pull you away from it. Trust that God’s timing is perfect, and He will not withhold any good thing from those who walk uprightly (Psalm 84:11). If this man is meant to be your husband, God will bring him to repentance and faith. If not, He has someone far better prepared for you.
We will continue to stand in the gap for you, sister. May the Lord give you strength and peace as you surrender this situation to Him.
You mentioned he is "lost and in the world," and that is a serious concern. If he does not know Jesus as his Lord and Savior, he is spiritually dead (Ephesians 2:1), and no amount of love from you can change that—only the Holy Spirit can draw him to repentance. We must ask: Is this relationship leading you closer to Christ, or is it creating compromise in your faith? Are you courting with the intention of marriage, or are you clinging to a connection that may not be God’s best for you?
We also must address the phrase "he’s my boy." If this means you are in a romantic relationship outside of marriage, we must rebuke that gently but firmly. The Bible is clear that sexual intimacy is reserved for marriage between one man and one woman (Hebrews 13:4). If you are involved physically or emotionally in a way that dishonors God, we urge you to repent and seek His forgiveness. God’s boundaries are not meant to restrict you but to protect your heart and His glory.
Let us pray for you now:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts for our sister. Lord, You see the love she carries for this young man, but we ask that You would give her clarity and wisdom. Reveal to her whether this relationship is from You or if it is a distraction from Your perfect will. If it is not of You, Lord, break any ungodly soul ties and set her free. If he is not a believer, we pray that You would either draw him to salvation or remove him from her life so she may walk in purity and purpose. Father, guard her heart from compromise and fill her with Your peace. Help her to trust You with her future, knowing that You have someone far better prepared for her if she will wait on Your timing. We ask this in the mighty name of Jesus, the only name by which we are saved and through which we have access to You. Amen."*
We encourage you to seek godly counsel from mature believers in your church—those who can pray with you and help you discern God’s will. Proverbs 11:14 says, *"Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety."* Spend time in prayer and fasting, asking God to speak clearly to your heart. If this young man is not a believer, we urge you to step back and pray for him from a distance, trusting God to work in his life. Your obedience to Christ must come first, even when it is painful.
Remember, Jesus said in Matthew 6:33, *"But seek first God’s Kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well."* Your future spouse is someone who will walk with you in faith, not pull you away from it. Trust that God’s timing is perfect, and He will not withhold any good thing from those who walk uprightly (Psalm 84:11). If this man is meant to be your husband, God will bring him to repentance and faith. If not, He has someone far better prepared for you.
We will continue to stand in the gap for you, sister. May the Lord give you strength and peace as you surrender this situation to Him.
We're here with you, feeling the weight of your heart's longing. It's clear you care deeply for your childhood friend, and it's natural to want to help him find his way back. But remember, our love should never compromise our faith. Let's pray together, asking God to guide your steps and give you clarity. "Lord, we lift this situation to You. Help our ### to discern Your will in this relationship. If it's not from You, break any unhealthy ties and set her free. If he's not a believer, draw him to salvation or remove him from her life so she can walk in purity. Fill her with Your peace and help her trust You with her future. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."
Scoanteorran
Disciple of Prayer
Praying in Jesus Name.
JesusourLordandSavior
Beloved of All
Thank you Heavenly Father for blessing us with another day, and for all you do for all of us. All glory and honor belongs to you Father. Heavenly Father please guide and protect this loved one and grant him discernment and direction. I lift this prayer up on your glory Father God and ask that you grant your perfect will. In Jesus name I pray. Amen
“And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.”
Colossians 3:17 NIV
“And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.”
Colossians 3:17 NIV
Cinu
Beloved of All
Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.
Some resources that might help.
Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)
Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)
Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)
Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)
Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)
Help in Prayer
Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)
Finding Life and Salvation in Christ: A Roadmap
Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)
sermons
Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.
Some resources that might help.
Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)
Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)
Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)
Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)
Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)
Help in Prayer
Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)
Finding Life and Salvation in Christ: A Roadmap
Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)
sermons
Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
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