We hear the deep longing in your heart for ###, and we share in your burden for her soul, her struggles, and the relationship you desire with her. Yet before we pray, we must address several critical matters in light of Scripture, for God’s Word is a lamp to our feet and a light to our path (Psalm 119:105). Our prayers must align with His truth, and our desires must be submitted to His will—not the other way around.
First, we notice that while your prayer is earnest, the name of Jesus Christ is not invoked as the authority by which we approach the Father. This is not a small matter. Jesus Himself said, *"No one comes to the Father, except through me"* (John 14:6), and *"Whatever you will ask in my name, that will I do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son"* (John 14:13). There is no other name under heaven by which we are saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Christ that we have boldness to come before God’s throne (Hebrews 4:16). We must always pray *in Jesus’ name*, for apart from Him, we can do nothing (John 15:5).
Now, let us speak plainly about the nature of your relationship with ###. You describe a deep emotional and physical longing for her, yet the foundation of what you share is troubled by sin. ###’s involvement in OnlyFans is not merely a "financial struggle"—it is sexual immorality, which Scripture explicitly condemns. *"Or don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s Kingdom? Don’t be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who have sex with men, nor thieves, nor greedy people, nor drunkards, nor slanderers, nor swindlers will inherit God’s Kingdom"* (1 Corinthians 6:9-10). The body is not meant for sexual immorality but for the Lord (1 Corinthians 6:13), and those who practice such things are outside of God’s will unless they repent.
You mention hoping to be physically close to her if she "proves to be the real one." Brother, this is dangerous ground. Physical intimacy is reserved for marriage alone (Hebrews 13:4), and even the desire for it outside of marriage is a temptation that must be fled from (1 Corinthians 6:18). If ### is truly the woman God has for you, she must first be a woman of God—one who has repented of her sin and turned to Christ. You cannot build a godly marriage on a foundation of immorality. *"Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?"* (Amos 3:3). A believer and an unbeliever cannot share true unity (2 Corinthians 6:14-15), and if ### is not walking with Christ, you are unequally yoked.
We also sense a deep emotional attachment that risks idolatry. Your words suggest that this relationship has become an ultimate concern—something you are unwilling to "give up on," even framing it as a "testimony against the kingdom of darkness." But we must ask: Is your trust in God’s sovereignty, or are you trying to bend His will to yours? Jesus taught us to pray, *"Your Kingdom come. Your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven"* (Matthew 6:10). Our prayers must never demand that God conform to our desires; rather, we must submit our desires to Him, even when it is painful.
That said, we do share your burden for ###’s salvation. The war in Ukraine, her financial desperation, and her involvement in sin are all signs of a soul in need of the Savior. So let us pray—not first for your relationship, but for *her redemption*.
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**Our Prayer:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, the only name by which we may approach Your throne. We lift up this brother and ### to You, knowing that Your heart breaks for the lost and the broken. Lord, we ask that You would open ###’s eyes to the truth of the Gospel. Soften her heart, convict her of sin, and draw her to repentance. Let her encounter You in a way she cannot ignore—whether through a dream, a word from a believer, or the still, small voice of Your Spirit. Break the chains of sin that bind her, especially the bondage of sexual immorality, which is destroying her soul. Father, provide for her needs in a way that brings You glory, not shame. Lead her to godly believers in ### who can disciple her, offer her legitimate work, and walk with her in faith.
Lord, we also pray for our brother. Guard his heart from idolatry, from placing this relationship above You. Give him the strength to release his grip on what he desires and trust You fully. If ### is not the woman You have for him, prepare him to walk away in obedience, knowing that Your plans are good. If she *is* the one, then purify her heart and his, that their relationship may be built on Christ alone. Let no physical or emotional intimacy exist outside of Your perfect design.
We rebuke the enemy’s lies that have tangled this situation—lies of desperation, of false love, of hopelessness. Satan seeks to destroy, but You, Lord, redeem. We ask for deliverance for ###, for freedom from the enemy’s snares, and for a supernatural work of Your Spirit in her life.
Finally, Father, we ask that Your will be done—not ours. Teach us all to pray as Jesus did in Gethsemane: *"Not my will, but yours be done"* (Luke 22:42). May Your Kingdom come, and may Your name be glorified in this.
In the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
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**Encouragement and Exhortation:**
Brother, we urge you to examine your heart in light of Scripture. Are you seeking God’s will, or are you trying to persuade Him to bless a relationship that may not be His best for you? *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4)—but this comes *after* we delight in Him, not before. If your delight is first in ###, your priorities are misplaced.
We also strongly encourage you to seek godly counsel from mature believers in your local church. Isolation in this struggle will only deepen the emotional entanglement. *"Where no counsel is, plans fail; but in a multitude of counselors they are established"* (Proverbs 15:22).
As for ###, continue to pray for her salvation, but release the outcome to God. You cannot save her—that is the Holy Spirit’s work. Your role is to live righteously, to speak truth in love if the opportunity arises, and to trust God with the results. *"The Lord is not slow concerning his promise, as some count slowness; but he is patient with us, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance"* (2 Peter 3:9).
If ### does not repent, you must be prepared to walk away. This is not cruelty—it is obedience. *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). A relationship with an unbeliever will pull you away from Christ, not toward Him.
Lastly, guard your mind and heart. *"Finally, brothers, whatever things are true, whatever things are honorable, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report; if there is any virtue and if there is any praise, think about these things"* (Philippians 4:8). If your thoughts about ### are impure or obsessed with "what could be," take them captive to Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5).
We will continue to pray for you both, trusting that God’s will—whatever it may be—is perfect. Stay rooted in His Word, and do not lose heart. *"Let us not grow weary in doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we don’t give up"* (Galatians 6:9).
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
