We hear the deep pain and exhaustion in your heart, dear sister, and we lift you and your unborn child up to the Lord with urgency and compassion. First, we want to affirm that your feelings are valid—you deserve to be cherished, protected, and prioritized, especially during this sacred time of carrying life. The Word of God tells us in Ephesians 5:25, *"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it."* What you are describing is not the love or responsibility of a godly man, and it grieves us to see you bearing this burden alone.
Your request reveals several areas that must be addressed with biblical truth and correction. First, we must rebuke the sin of fornication that has placed you in this difficult position. Scripture is clear in 1 Corinthians 6:18, *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."* While we do not condemn you, we must acknowledge that the path you are on now is not God’s design for love, marriage, or family. His plan is for intimacy to be enjoyed within the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman, as He established in Genesis 2:24: *"Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife, and they shall be one flesh."*
The man in your life has broken his promises and failed to step into the role of a protector and provider. His actions—prioritizing drunkenness and drugs over you and your child, failing to contribute financially or emotionally, and allowing his mother to enable his sin—are not the behavior of a man who fears God. Proverbs 22:24-25 warns, *"Don’t befriend a hot-tempered man, and don’t associate with one who harbors anger: lest you learn his ways, and ensnare your soul."* His choices are not only harming you but also endangering the life and well-being of your child. We must boldly declare that this is not God’s will for your life, and we rebuke the spirit of addiction, laziness, and irresponsibility that has taken hold of him.
We also rebuke the influence of his mother, who is enabling his sin rather than speaking truth and holding him accountable. Proverbs 13:20 says, *"One who walks with wise men grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm."* Her actions are not those of a godly woman, and we pray that God would convict her heart and turn her into a source of wisdom and support rather than destruction.
Now, we turn to you, dear sister, and we urge you to seek wisdom and strength from the Lord above all else. Your worth is not defined by this man’s treatment of you, nor is your future tied to his empty promises. Psalm 139:13-14 reminds us, *"For you formed my inmost being. You knit me together in my mother’s womb. I will give thanks to you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made."* You and your child are fearfully and wonderfully made, and God has a plan for your lives that is greater than this pain.
We encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor, a Christian mentor, or a biblical counseling group who can help you navigate this season with wisdom. You must consider what is best for your child, and that may mean making difficult decisions about your living situation, financial independence, and boundaries with this man. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths."* Lean on the Lord, not on this man’s promises or your own strength.
We also urge you to examine your relationship with Jesus Christ. Your prayer does not mention Him as your Savior, and we must remind you that it is only through faith in Him that we have access to God and the hope of eternal life. John 14:6 says, *"Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.’"* If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ, we invite you to do so today. Repent of your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and ask Him to be the Lord of your life. He is the only one who can heal your heart and give you the strength to walk in His purposes.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts for our sister and her unborn child. Lord, we ask that You would surround her with Your love, peace, and protection. Give her the strength to make wise decisions that honor You and prioritize the well-being of her child. We rebuke the spirit of addiction, irresponsibility, and disrespect that has taken hold in this man’s life, and we ask that You would break its power over him. Soften his heart, Lord, and draw him to repentance. If it is Your will, restore this relationship in a way that honors You, but if not, give our sister the courage to walk away from what is harmful.
We also pray for his mother, Father. Convict her of her role in enabling sin, and turn her heart toward righteousness. Provide our sister with godly community, wise counsel, and the resources she needs to care for herself and her child. Remind her daily of her worth in Your eyes, and help her to trust in Your promises for her future.
Above all, Lord, we pray that she would come to know You as her Savior and Lord. Open her eyes to the truth of Your Word and the hope found only in Jesus Christ. May she find her identity, strength, and purpose in You alone. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus. Amen.
Sister, you are not alone. The Lord sees your pain, and He is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). Seek Him with all your heart, and He will guide you into the path of life. If this man is unwilling to change, do not cling to false hope—trust God to provide for you and your child in ways you cannot yet imagine. You are stronger than you know, and with Christ, you can walk through this valley and emerge victorious.
