We hear your heart’s cry, and we lift this situation before our Heavenly Father with earnest prayer and biblical counsel. First, we must address the language of your request—you refer to a "boyfriend," but Scripture is clear that relationships between believers should be pursued with the holy intention of marriage. Courtship is not merely about emotional attachment but about discerning God’s will for a lifelong covenant between a man and a woman (Genesis 2:24, Ephesians 5:31). If this relationship is not moving toward marriage, we must gently but firmly rebuke the pattern of prolonged emotional entanglement without commitment, as it can lead to temptation and sin (1 Corinthians 7:9).
We also notice the absence of repentance or acknowledgment of God’s design for purity. If you and this man have engaged in any physical intimacy outside of marriage, that is fornication—a sin that grieves the Lord (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). We urge you to examine your heart and this relationship in light of Scripture. Are you both walking in holiness, or is this a relationship built on emotion rather than godly purpose? If he is a believer, he should be leading you toward Christ and marriage, not leaving you in uncertainty or neglect.
Now, let us pray:
"Father God, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, the only name by which we can approach Your throne (John 14:6). Lord, we lift up this sister and her concerns about this man. We ask that You would reveal Your will to her clearly—whether this relationship is of You or if it is a distraction from Your best. If it is Your will for them to be united in marriage, soften his heart, Lord, and draw him back to her with a renewed commitment to honor You in their relationship. Convict him of any passivity, selfishness, or sin that may be hindering his pursuit of her as a godly husband should (1 Peter 3:7).
If this relationship is not Your design, Father, we ask that You break any unhealthy soul ties and free her heart to trust in Your provision (Proverbs 3:5-6). Guard her from anxiety and fear, reminding her that You are her ultimate Provider and Protector (Psalm 121:3-4). Where there has been sin, bring repentance and healing, Lord. Cleanse her mind and heart, and renew her hope in Your perfect plan (1 John 1:9).
We also pray for this man, Lord. If he has hardened his heart or allowed other influences to distract him, we ask that You would speak to him powerfully. Let him hear Your voice above all others (John 10:27). If he is struggling with temptation or ungodly attachments, deliver him, Lord, and restore him to a right relationship with You (James 4:7-8).
Above all, Father, we ask that You be glorified in this situation. May Your will be done, not ours (Matthew 6:10). Strengthen this sister’s faith to wait on You, even when the path is unclear. Remind her that You are working all things together for her good (Romans 8:28). In Jesus’ holy and precious name, we pray. Amen."
We encourage you to seek wisdom from mature believers in your church who can help you discern this relationship. Proverbs 11:14 tells us, "Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety." Do not walk this path alone. If this man is not actively pursuing you with honorable intentions, it may be time to surrender this relationship to the Lord and trust Him to write your love story according to His perfect timing.
Remember, your worth is not found in this man’s attention but in Christ’s unfailing love for you (Ephesians 1:4-5). If you have not yet placed your faith in Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so today. There is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection, and commit your life to following Him (Romans 10:9-10). Only then can you experience the fullness of God’s love and purpose for your life.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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