We hear the deep sorrow and weariness in your heart, and we stand with you in this trial, lifting you up before the Lord. The pain you are enduring is not unseen by God, who is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). Your husband’s behavior is not only hurtful but sinful—verbal abuse, anger without cause, and cruelty are not the fruits of the Spirit but of the flesh (Galatians 5:19-21). The Lord does not delight in such actions, and neither should you bear them in silence as if they are your burden alone. You have done well to bring this before the Lord, for He is your refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1).
The Scripture is clear that husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church, giving Himself up for her (Ephesians 5:25). This kind of love is sacrificial, patient, and kind—not cruel, not abusive, not filled with wrath. Your husband’s behavior is not only failing you but failing God’s design for marriage. While we pray earnestly for his heart to be softened and transformed by the Holy Spirit, we must also speak truth: no one should endure abuse as though it is their cross to bear. The Lord calls us to peace, not to remain in harm’s way. If your safety is at risk, we urge you to seek wise counsel from your pastor or a trusted believer who can help you navigate this season with biblical wisdom and practical steps to protect yourself and, if applicable, your children.
You have shown incredible patience, but patience does not mean enduring sin without boundaries. The Lord Himself sets boundaries—He rebukes, corrects, and calls people to repentance. In 1 Timothy 5:8, we read that if anyone does not provide for his relatives, especially his own household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. While this verse speaks of provision, the principle extends to emotional and spiritual care—your husband is neglecting his God-given role to cherish and protect you. This is not a light matter.
Let us pray together for you and your husband, asking the Lord to intervene mightily:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our sister who is weary and wounded. Lord, You see the tears she has cried in secret, the words that have pierced her soul, and the fear that has taken root in her heart. We ask You, Father, to be her Comforter and her Shield. Surround her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7) and remind her that she is not forgotten—You are her ever-present help.
Lord, we pray for her husband. Soften his heart of stone and replace it with a heart of flesh (Ezekiel 36:26). Convict him deeply of his sin—of his anger, his cruelty, and his failure to love as You have commanded. Break the strongholds of bitterness, pride, and unrighteousness in his life. Let him encounter You in a way he cannot ignore, that he may repent and turn to You for transformation. If there are generational sins, ungodly influences, or spiritual battles at work, we bind them in the name of Jesus and declare that Your will be done in his life.
Father, give our sister wisdom to know how to respond to her husband’s behavior in a way that honors You. Show her whether she needs to set boundaries, seek counsel, or take steps to ensure her safety. Let her not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good (Romans 12:21). Strengthen her spirit, Lord, and remind her that her worth is found in You alone. You have not abandoned her, and You will not let her be destroyed (Psalm 55:22).
We also pray for restoration—if it is Your will, Lord, heal this marriage. But even more, we pray for Your kingdom to come and Your will to be done in both of their lives. If her husband refuses to repent, give her the courage to walk in obedience to You, even if it means difficult decisions ahead. You are a God of justice, and You will not let the wicked go unpunished forever (Psalm 10:14-15). Trust in You, dear sister, for You, Lord, are faithful.
Finally, Father, we ask that You speak to her in this season. Let her hear Your voice clearly, whether through Your Word, through godly counsel, or through the still, small voice of Your Spirit. Remind her that You are her Husband, her Provider, and her Defender (Isaiah 54:5). Let her find her strength in You alone.
We pray all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, who bore our sorrows and carried our pains, that we might have life and have it abundantly. Amen.
Dear sister, we want to encourage you to immerse yourself in Scripture, particularly passages that remind you of God’s love and protection. Psalm 91 is a powerful declaration of God’s shelter over His children. Meditate on verses like these:
*"He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of Yahweh, ‘He is my refuge and my fortress; my God, in whom I trust.’"* (Psalm 91:1-2).
If you are able, seek out a support system—whether it’s a trusted friend, a women’s ministry at your church, or a biblical counselor. You do not have to walk this path alone. The body of Christ is meant to bear one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2), and we are here to stand with you in prayer.
Lastly, we want to remind you that while we pray for your husband’s repentance, your primary focus must be on your own walk with the Lord. Seek Him first (Matthew 6:33), and trust that He will guide your steps. If your husband continues in his sin, remember that you are not responsible for his choices, but you *are* responsible for your own obedience to God. That may mean forgiving your husband (as Christ forgave you), but it does not mean tolerating sin. Pray for the strength to love him with Christ’s love while also standing firm in truth.
You are seen. You are loved. And you are not alone. Keep clinging to Jesus—He is your hope and your salvation.
