We understand you’re lifting up a heartfelt request for someone you care about, and we join you in seeking God’s will in this situation. However, we must first address a few important matters to ensure this prayer aligns with Scripture and honors the Lord.
First, we notice that the name of Jesus Christ is not invoked in your prayer. The Bible is clear that we come to the Father *only* through Jesus, our Mediator and Savior. As it is written, *"Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me’* (John 14:6, WEB). *"For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB). Without calling on His name, our prayers lack the authority and access granted to us through His sacrifice. We strongly encourage you to always pray *in Jesus’ name*, for it is by His name alone that we are saved and our petitions are heard.
Additionally, we must address the nature of this relationship. Your prayer implies a romantic interest, but we do not see any mention of marriage, courtship with godly intent, or whether this person is a believer in Christ. Scripture is clear that believers are to *"not be unequally yoked with unbelievers"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). If this woman is not a follower of Christ, pursuing a relationship with her would be outside of God’s will, as it would risk spiritual compromise and disobedience. *"Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?"* (Amos 3:3, WEB). A relationship without the foundation of shared faith in Christ is built on shifting sand.
Furthermore, if this is a physical or emotional attachment outside of marriage, we must warn against the dangers of fornication and emotional entanglements that do not honor God. *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s"* (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, WEB). If there is any physical or emotional intimacy outside of a biblical marriage covenant, we urge you to repent and seek purity, for *"the Lord disciplines him whom he loves, and chastens every son whom he receives"* (Hebrews 12:6, WEB).
Lastly, we must caution against praying for personal desires—even good ones—without first submitting them to the Lord’s will. *"You ask, and don’t receive, because you ask with wrong motives, so that you may spend it for your pleasures"* (James 4:3, WEB). Instead of asking God to manipulate circumstances to fulfill your wishes, we should pray for His will to be done, trusting that He knows what is best. *"Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord. Trust also in him, and he will do this"* (Psalm 37:4-5, WEB). If this relationship is of God, He will make it clear in His timing. If it is not, He will redirect your heart toward His perfect plan.
Now, let us pray together for this situation, submitting it fully to the Lord’s will and asking for His wisdom and purity to guide every step.
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Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. We thank You for Your sovereignty and Your perfect will, which is always good, pleasing, and perfect. Lord, we lift up our brother who has brought this request before You. We ask that You would first draw him closer to Yourself, filling him with Your Spirit and aligning his desires with Your Word. Father, if there is any sin in his heart—whether lust, idolatry of this relationship, or a lack of trust in You—we ask that You would convict him by Your Spirit and lead him to repentance. Cleanse him, Lord, and create in him a pure heart that seeks You above all else.
Lord, we pray for this woman as well. If she does not know You, we ask that You would open her eyes to the truth of the Gospel. Draw her to Yourself, Father, that she may come to saving faith in Jesus Christ. If she is a believer, we pray that You would strengthen her walk with You and guard her heart in purity. Father, if it is *not* Your will for these two to be together, we ask that You would make it abundantly clear. Close the doors that should not be opened, and redirect their hearts toward Your perfect plan. Protect them from emotional or physical sin, and let Your Word be a lamp to their feet.
If, however, it *is* Your will for them to pursue a relationship, we ask that it would be done in a way that honors You—with purity, patience, and a shared commitment to Christ. Let this be a courtship that seeks Your glory, with marriage as the godly goal. Give them wisdom to wait on Your timing and to flee from any temptation that would dishonor You.
Lord, we also pray for our brother’s heart today. If he has had a rough day, we ask that You would comfort him and remind him of Your love. Let him find his joy and satisfaction in You alone, not in the affirmation of another person. Teach him to cast all his anxieties on You, for You care for him (1 Peter 5:7). Fill him with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding.
Father, we rebuked any spirit of lust, impatience, or idolatry that may be at work in this situation. We declare that no weapon formed against Your children will prosper, and we ask that You would expose and break any ungodly soul ties. Let Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven.
We thank You, Lord, for hearing our prayer. We trust in Your goodness and Your perfect timing. May Your name be glorified in every detail of this situation. In the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord, we pray. Amen.
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Brother, we encourage you to examine your heart in light of Scripture. Are you seeking this relationship for your own fulfillment, or are you truly seeking God’s will? Remember that *"the heart is deceitful above all things, and it is exceedingly corrupt"* (Jeremiah 17:9, WEB), but God’s Word is a sure foundation. We urge you to pursue holiness above happiness, trusting that God’s plans for you are far greater than anything you could ask or imagine.
If you are not yet walking in obedience in this area, we lovingly call you to repentance. Turn away from any sinful desires or actions, and turn toward Christ. *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9, WEB). There is no shame in repentance—only freedom.
Lastly, we leave you with this promise: *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB). Wait on the Lord, seek Him first, and He will guide you. Stay rooted in His Word, and surround yourself with godly counsel. We are praying for you.