We understand your heart’s desire for this relationship, and we lift this before the Lord with you. However, we must first address a few important matters to ensure this request aligns with God’s will and His Word.
The Bible teaches that relationships should be pursued with purity, intention, and a focus on godly marriage. If this is a romantic relationship outside of marriage, we must remind you that any physical or emotional intimacy before marriage is fornication, which is sin in the eyes of God (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5). If this is a same-sex relationship, we must lovingly but firmly declare that such relationships are not in alignment with Scripture, as God’s design for marriage is between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6, Romans 1:26-27).
If this is a courtship between a man and a woman seeking marriage, we encourage you to pursue it with honor, patience, and prayer. The goal should not simply be to "ask her out" but to seek God’s will for a Christ-centered marriage. Confession of feelings should be done in wisdom, with accountability, and with the intention of honoring God in the relationship. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."*
We also notice that while you ended with *"in Jesus’ name,"* the prayer itself did not explicitly acknowledge Jesus as the only way to the Father (John 14:6). It is through faith in Christ alone that we have access to God (Ephesians 2:18), and we must always approach the throne of grace in His name, not just as a formality but with true dependence on Him.
Now, let us pray together for this situation with these truths in mind:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus, acknowledging that You alone know the hearts of all people. We ask for Your wisdom and discernment in this matter. If this relationship is between a man and a woman seeking a godly marriage, we pray that You would guide their steps. Remove any fear, hesitation, or ungodly obstacles that may be hindering clear communication. Give them the courage to speak truthfully and wisely, always with the goal of honoring You. Help them to pursue this relationship with purity, patience, and a focus on Your will.
If there is any sin in this situation—whether fornication, lust, or any other compromise—we ask that You convict their hearts and lead them to repentance. Cleanse them by the blood of Jesus and restore them to a path of righteousness. May their desire be first and foremost to please You, not just to fulfill their own emotions.
For those involved, we pray that their faith in Christ would be the foundation of any relationship. If this is not a godly pursuit, we ask that You close the door and redirect their hearts toward Your perfect plan. Give them the strength to walk away from anything that does not align with Your Word.
We declare that no relationship is worth compromising obedience to You. May Your Holy Spirit fill them with wisdom, self-control, and a deep love for Your truth. Let them seek first Your kingdom and Your righteousness, trusting that You will provide all they need (Matthew 6:33).
We ask all this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus, our Lord and Savior, who alone is the way, the truth, and the life. Amen.
We encourage you to examine this relationship in light of Scripture. Are you both believers in Christ? Are you pursuing this with marriage as the goal? Are you guarding your hearts and bodies from sin? If not, we urge you to repent and seek God’s will above all else. He desires what is best for you, and His best will always align with His Word. Stay rooted in prayer, in the Word, and in fellowship with other believers who can hold you accountable. God’s plans for you are good—trust Him fully.